I can't dance and feel very awkward...

[Stars]

So I never learnt to dance as a kid...not even as a teen...not even now as an adult...because I'm not very comfortable with my body and it's like I don't know how to move it properly. The thing is it's easy to say "Ohh...just don't care"...however, I'm very self-conscious and even when the few times I did "let go" publicly...I got laughed at. I guess only someone who feels like I do would understand what I'm going through.

My family members tell me it's hilarious to watch me dance because I'm kinda rigid and rough...I don't move fluidly..it's not like I'm trying to dance like some macho man but even when I think I'm doing ok...I mean, dancing is kind of a natural talent.
I could easily pick up line dancing but I'm not talking about that...I'm just talking about regular dancing at a bar or something. I don't move fluidly...I look rigid and rough so just kinda bummed...>____>

I get told I look so funny, awkward, out-of-place, weird...by my own family!!! I shouldn't care but I'm the girl people who are ******** sitting around at the bar looking at people to point and laugh will...point and laugh at. What also sucks is that people also keep saying how I must be a horrible partner because I'm likely horrible in bed because how one dances is an indication of how one is in bed apparently...truth is, I haven't exactly been around the block...I'm not into casual sex, pregnancy and STDs so that pretty much dries up my dating pool in my city...>____>

 

[putter65]

So I never learnt to dance as a kid...not even as a teen...not even now as an adult...because I'm not very comfortable with my body and it's like I don't know how to move it properly. The thing is it's easy to say "Ohh...just don't care"...however, I'm very self-conscious and even when the few times I did "let go" publicly...I got laughed at. I guess only someone who feels like I do would understand what I'm going through.

My family members tell me it's hilarious to watch me dance because I'm kinda rigid and rough...I don't move fluidly..it's not like I'm trying to dance like some macho man but even when I think I'm doing ok...I mean, dancing is kind of a natural talent.
I could easily pick up line dancing but I'm not talking about that...I'm just talking about regular dancing at a bar or something. I don't move fluidly...I look rigid and rough so just kinda bummed...>____>

I get told I look so funny, awkward, out-of-place, weird...by my own family!!! I shouldn't care but I'm the girl people who are ******** sitting around at the bar looking at people to point and laugh will...point and laugh at. What also sucks is that people also keep saying how I must be a horrible partner because I'm likely horrible in bed because how one dances is an indication of how one is in bed apparently...truth is, I haven't exactly been around the block...I'm not into casual sex, pregnancy and STDs so that pretty much dries up my dating pool in my city...>____>

I would tell your family that there comments are hurtfull to you.

 

[CallMeCol]

Any chance you could take a couple of lessons from someone? Dancing is great fun once you have a bit of confidence.

Col.

 

[kamya]

I too feel very awkward when dancing. I've thought about practicing to some good music in my free time but I just havn't gotten around to it yet. I think that would help out a lot though.

 

[putter65]

I too feel very awkward when dancing. I've thought about practicing to some good music in my free time but I just havn't gotten around to it yet. I think that would help out a lot though.

it's the last place I would ever be !

Years ago this female co worker begged me to goto a nightclub. Once I was there she got me up dancing and of course started laughing at me.

 

[perfanoff]

So I never learnt to dance as a kid...not even as a teen...not even now as an adult...because I'm not very comfortable with my body and it's like I don't know how to move it properly. The thing is it's easy to say "Ohh...just don't care"...however, I'm very self-conscious and even when the few times I did "let go" publicly...I got laughed at. I guess only someone who feels like I do would understand what I'm going through.

My family members tell me it's hilarious to watch me dance because I'm kinda rigid and rough...I don't move fluidly..it's not like I'm trying to dance like some macho man but even when I think I'm doing ok...I mean, dancing is kind of a natural talent.
I could easily pick up line dancing but I'm not talking about that...I'm just talking about regular dancing at a bar or something. I don't move fluidly...I look rigid and rough so just kinda bummed...>____>

I get told I look so funny, awkward, out-of-place, weird...by my own family!!! I shouldn't care but I'm the girl people who are ******** sitting around at the bar looking at people to point and laugh will...point and laugh at. What also sucks is that people also keep saying how I must be a horrible partner because I'm likely horrible in bed because how one dances is an indication of how one is in bed apparently...truth is, I haven't exactly been around the block...I'm not into casual sex, pregnancy and STDs so that pretty much dries up my dating pool in my city...>____>

Your biggest worry is being bad at bed? Hehe
If I were you I'd be interested in a guy that's patient until you learn how to please him and takes you for other qualities, too.

And the dancing is easy.. Stand up. Click play. Repeat as shown.

[video=youtube]

I call this stuff white girl problems

 

[Lonely in BC]

It doesn't really matter what anyone else thinks, if you feel good go for it. Friends I had back in the day compared my dancing to an elephant mating ritual- it was energetic, covered a lot of territory, and kind of scary. Sure miss those days of loud rock n' roll, a dance floor, and having a blast shaking it. Interestingly enough I always found that the more "rigid" people with one or two moves were always the ones who pointed and laughed. As they stood on the sidelines. While I danced my ass off and had a great time. If you look at lessons go for one of the Latin styles, that **** is just sexy as hell.

Your dancing style has nothing to do with how you're going to be in the sack Stars. What you experience behind closed doors (or in a car, a blanket under a tree, in a hot tub, etc., etc.) has more to do with your curiosity and enthusiasm. All I can is a healthy dose of being open minded and mixing in unrushed playtime leads to some pretty incredible experiences.

Dammit, now I want to go dancing and have a romp. Guess its a cold shower before work tonight

 

[Veilside05]

So I never learnt to dance as a kid...not even as a teen...not even now as an adult...because I'm not very comfortable with my body and it's like I don't know how to move it properly. The thing is it's easy to say "Ohh...just don't care"...however, I'm very self-conscious and even when the few times I did "let go" publicly...I got laughed at. I guess only someone who feels like I do would understand what I'm going through.

My family members tell me it's hilarious to watch me dance because I'm kinda rigid and rough...I don't move fluidly..it's not like I'm trying to dance like some macho man but even when I think I'm doing ok...I mean, dancing is kind of a natural talent.
I could easily pick up line dancing but I'm not talking about that...I'm just talking about regular dancing at a bar or something. I don't move fluidly...I look rigid and rough so just kinda bummed...>____>

I get told I look so funny, awkward, out-of-place, weird...by my own family!!! I shouldn't care but I'm the girl people who are ******** sitting around at the bar looking at people to point and laugh will...point and laugh at. What also sucks is that people also keep saying how I must be a horrible partner because I'm likely horrible in bed because how one dances is an indication of how one is in bed apparently...truth is, I haven't exactly been around the block...I'm not into casual sex, pregnancy and STDs so that pretty much dries up my dating pool in my city...>____>

I also feel awkward dancing as it never seems to be like my kind of thing although I am really fascinated by good strong dancing. I think the problem we have here is more - "however, I'm very self-conscious".

Not sure abut you but this makes me very reluctant to even try an attempt knowing well i will probably be making a fool of myself. Furthermore, even if I even try, I will be looking around at every other person to see if they are laughing at me. Too much self-conscious.

Let me show you a video. His movements are so simple and funny and in some way I feel they are dumb. But he rocks the crowds. Guess the key is "how confident are you of the thing you are doing.

 

[Stars]

Thanks guys for your feedback...

And no...it's not my biggest worry in life but it's just one of the many things that add to my very crippling low self-esteem...ugh, I'm bad at everything...

 

[perfanoff]

Well you can be a total klutz but if you are sweet, that is good enough for many guys

 

[Sarah_Lbnz]

Well you can be a total klutz but if you are sweet, that is good enough for many guys

Not really. In my experience, guys don't care about sweet or nice, as that isn't necessarily a personality. I don't think I ever got a date by being sweet or nice.

To OP, I suggest trying your thing in a mosh-pit! Slam dancing is great coordination practice.

/I think this post officially dates myself.

 

[perfanoff]

Well you can be a total klutz but if you are sweet, that is good enough for many guys

Not really. In my experience, guys don't care about sweet or nice, as that isn't necessarily a personality. I don't think I ever got a date by being sweet or nice.

To OP, I suggest trying your thing in a mosh-pit! Slam dancing is great coordination practice.

/I think this post officially dates myself.

Not unless you have a touch of naughty, haha.

But come to my city and I will personally take you out on a date for being that

 

[PlayingSolo]

Is there something that is pressuring you to perform? If you can't dance, then don't. Sounds simple enough to me. Maybe your circumstances are different though. If you're interested in learning how to dance for it's own sake, then that's something else entirely. But if you just don't want to dance, and you aren't being forced, then don't.

 

[Unwanted94]

Don't dance then.