I want to get out more and meet people

[Danielle]

I would really like to get out more and meet new people, like minded people to spend sometime with. I am just really tired of doing things by myself. For the past 4 years, I have joined groups, classes, workshops, taken myself out on dates..to the movies, dinner etc. but I am all alone doing this. I am NOT meeting people.

I joined habitat for humanity which was so much fun, but once I left my duties for the day...I realized I hadn't made a single friend that I could call when the day was over. I do have friends, but now they are spread out all around the country, married, starting familes...and the time that we can even just *talk* is so few and far between.

It's time for me to get off my A$$ and find something fun...something I can really get involved in. My work keeps me isolated, I live alone, which is isolating.... does anyone have any suggestions on something funt hey have done that might be worth checking out?

I feel so stuck...and I know that is my own doing. I sit and pine over someone who does not even blink an eye at me... I sit and complain to myself, and to anyone that will listen, that I have no where to go, and nothing to do.... I need to give myself a huge kick and get myself moving again.

I just felt like rambleing, thanks for reading...if you did

 

[Badjedidude]

Maybe your difficulty here is that you are loading the rifle and aiming it at the target, but not pulling the trigger. Could that be it? *shrug*

Yeah, you can join groups and be "around" others, and even joke or chat a little bit with people that you meet in those groups...but you're not actually taking that all-important next step and involving yourself in THEIR lives. Next time, ask for a phone number. Ask someone if they want to hang out in a situation OUTSIDE of the group.

Take that next step and fire away!

----Steve

 

[Minus]

I can sympathize with you situation. It sounds like you are already doing things to put yourself around people, so i am at a loss for ideas. I imagine the bar will be suggested also but there is a difference of opinion on the usefulness of that one. Next week i will be trying the habitat for humanity thing, and am not really sure what to expect there.

 

[Badjedidude]

Next week i will be trying the habitat for humanity thing, and am not really sure what to expect there.

I think volunteering is an excellent way to meet people. Generally, the type of person that takes their time to volunteer to help others are nice, interesting, friendly people. So you're already in the doorway because you can bet that they aren't going to shut you out or be overly rude when you try to talk to them. A pet hospital/kennel is a good place to start.

----Steve

 

[Danielle]

Steve you are right...I am not "pulling the trigger" so to speak. The strange part is, I am not shy! not in the least! So i don't know why I am not jumping in there and doing my thing. I am going to keep on trying.

Minus, habitat for humanity is great...its fun, its a blast...I love it.

 

[Remedy]

I agree that volunteering sounds like a real good option because people who do it are doing it out of the kindness of their heart most likely. So they are probably pretty cool people to be around who would probably be friendly and nice just like Steve said. Not to mention that helping others will make you feel good and cause you to think that you are a great person that people will like to get to know because you are doing something so kind just like they are. Just helping others is a great feeling too because people deserve it.

Don't worry because I'm in the same predicament in which I don't take the chance to try and get to know someone. When I'm out with friends I never give myself a chance to talk and let people know I'm there but I'm extremely shy so I'm different than you there. It does sound like you aren't taking the chance to try and take the next step to let them know if they would want to hang out sometime. I'm truly at fault at the same thing so I can completely understand. I guess what I'm getting at is why don't we both do ourselves a favor and really take the next opportunity to try and make something more of who we talk to.

 

[Danielle]

Remedy, I think that is a great idea! It's time to put more substance into passing "hello's". also...i would like to reconnect with some old friends that I have lost touch with.
I know everyone hates Facebook...but it has helped me to start chatting again with people I haven't talked to in years. I will def. make the effort.