Wait till you get to 57 and you still only want girls 29 and under.
Ask me how I know...
Ask me how I know...
Oh oh question… do you think this is like a sexuality? Or is it about more than just sex?Just had another tedious debate on the reddit virgin sub about this.
OP, ffs dude, just find a 25-30 year old and be happy. At your age nobody can reasonable accuse of anything for that. Don't wait and hope for someone even younger. In ten few years you'll be roasted for even admitting an interest in anyone under 35.
It's biologically hardwired whether most men admit it or not:https://metro.co.uk/2019/02/22/men-regardless-age-will-always-attracted-women-early-20s-8718590/Oh oh question… do you think this is like a sexuality? Or is it about more than just sex?
Always?I guess that article once again shows women are always going to be more mature than men
I mean like the reluctance to date anything else other than a girl under 30, my mum is a mature woman and she couldn't wash her car in peace, man after man slowed down to take a look and ask her if she’ll do theres… I was shocked lol my mum was overwhelmed as it reminded her she no longer has a man to protect her from this, and I was like… I thought we hit some kind of wall? Stupid redpillers getting my hopes up lolIt's biologically hardwired whether most men admit it or not:https://metro.co.uk/2019/02/22/men-regardless-age-will-always-attracted-women-early-20s-8718590/
Sexuality ultimately boils down to reproduction. Older men finding younger adults attractive is 'normal' from that perspective. That said, early 20s isn't realistic and brings up ethical issues (like financial independence, maturity, etc.)
The men objectifying your mother would almost certainly have had partners throughout their lives. OP has never dated.I mean like the reluctance to date anything else other than a girl under 30, my mum is a mature woman and she couldn't wash her car in peace, man after man slowed down to take a look and ask her if she’ll do theres… I was shocked lol my mum was overwhelmed as it reminded her she no longer has a man to protect her from this, and I was like… I thought we hit some kind of wall? Stupid redpillers getting my hopes up lol
Like I am not judging I just wondered if thats all he wants then… I wonder if it could be deemed a sexuality… because I am not going to lie, if you are really ugly but still relatively young some men will still like you for your “youth” like even if you are hideous lol in fact sometimes especially when you are hideous
So interesting, so do you think this contributes to the undesirability older male virgins face from women?The men objectifying your mother would almost certainly have had partners throughout their lives. OP has never dated.
It's the healthy norm for preferences to adjust with your own, and more importantly, your partner's ages, but his never had the chance. So his mind defaults to the biological norm - re-enforced by where he still believes himself to be in life, emotionally/psychologically/etc. That isn't an orientation, it's a problem with inexperience and the inability to accept one's own aging.
Inexperience is generally undesirable in a man regardless of age.So interesting, so do you think this contributes to the undesirability older male virgins face from women?
Well thats true, but no one is avoided harder than a older male virgin, maybe there is some consensus that they are like never going to want to be serious? I know of one guy who lost his virginity at 28 and he still acts like he is this unchosen virgin man despite it... strange, like it almost becomes a personality type.Inexperience is generally undesirable in a man regardless of age.
It's more the fact that an older male virgin is judged like he's the next Unabomber.Well thats true, but no one is avoided harder than a older male virgin, maybe there is some consensus that they are like never going to want to be serious? I know of one guy who lost his virginity at 28 and he still acts like he is this unchosen virgin man despite it... strange, like it almost becomes a personality type.
I think there is a lot of truth to this.Inexperience is generally undesirable in a man regardless of age.
But you said...It's more the fact that an older male virgin is judged like he's the next Unabomber.
So I'm asking is that ^^^^ a good reason to judge them?The men objectifying your mother would almost certainly have had partners throughout their lives. OP has never dated.
It's the healthy norm for preferences to adjust with your own, and more importantly, your partner's ages, but his never had the chance. So his mind defaults to the biological norm - re-enforced by where he still believes himself to be in life, emotionally/psychologically/etc. That isn't an orientation, it's a problem with inexperience and the inability to accept one's own aging.
Yup.I think there is a lot of truth to this.
I mean, personal experience here (And yes, PEMN is certainly a thing but I'm not the only one to experience it) I had like a REALLY long dry spell between 23 - 30. The further I got from 23, the more women started to cautiously ask why?
Is there something wrong with him? Why has it been such a long time since he's been intimate with anyone? And it was red flags for them.
I had more than a few potential dates walk away because they were either
A. Concerned that I was a serial killer
B. The fact that I was 'inexperienced' compared to my age was a sign I was either an incel, I wouldn't be able to take care of them or know how a relationship functioned (Like I was broken almost) or refer to point A.
I didn't want to, but I started not bringing it up which ended up causing questions from women as to why I'm so secretive about it in the first place, a lose lose situation -- and quite a frustrating one at that.
Genuinely I used to care if a man had previous relationships or not, I mean.. it was an ego thing, I wanted to hear how much better I was than his ex's lmao alas... I figured you can be better than them and he'll still go running back to those hoes so may as well get over that and just hope he likes me for me and blah blah *insert mature babble here*.I think there is a lot of truth to this.
I mean, personal experience here (And yes, PEMN is certainly a thing but I'm not the only one to experience it) I had like a REALLY long dry spell between 23 - 30. The further I got from 23, the more women started to cautiously ask why?
Is there something wrong with him? Why has it been such a long time since he's been intimate with anyone? And it was red flags for them.
I had more than a few potential dates walk away because they were either
A. Concerned that I was a serial killer
B. The fact that I was 'inexperienced' compared to my age was a sign I was either an incel, I wouldn't be able to take care of them or know how a relationship functioned (Like I was broken almost) or refer to point A.
I didn't want to, but I started not bringing it up which ended up causing questions from women as to why I'm so secretive about it in the first place, a lose lose situation -- and quite a frustrating one at that.
'Tis very unfortunate but it's something of a double standard (Not that I personally have that much of an issue with it, there are double standards everywhere). The conversation is always centered on women and the concept of purity but very rarely is it looked at from the other lens which is difficult given that women in current modern society are primarily the ones who decide whether or not men are given relationships, sex, etc.Precisely.
How much worse is that going to be for a 30 something or middle aged guy with a lifelong dry spell.
I think this is certainly part of it, all of my girlfriends have wanted to know if I was the best girlfriend they'd ever had, the best this, the best that.Genuinely I used to care if a man had previous relationships or not, I mean.. it was an ego thing, I wanted to hear how much better I was than his ex's lmao alas... I figured you can be better than them and he'll still go running back to those hoes so may as well get over that and just hope he likes me for me and blah blah *insert mature babble* here.
To be honest, it's immensely frustrating. But, it's always important to take a step back and remember that "God dating is so hard for men", there are certainly difficult aspects for women too. Not the SAME issues mind you, and it's very hard for the otherside to see that perspective when they've never really had to experience before, but just knowing that it's not all picture perfect on the otherside too and you just gotta play with the hand you've been dealt, you know?I think it must be hard though, to have to continually prove yourself worthy with something you have little control over. I guess thats why some men love to rub it in when women start struggling in the dating world. So interesting to hear different perspectives actually.
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