I've struggle with addictions of one type or another for years...
Yes I even got hooked on the net for years..
I have OCPD...
I've been in recovery for almost 20 years. There's many concept
and perception of addiction. I work the 12 steps program.
And I've educated myself about addictions from many literature.
For the first 5 years of my recovery...internet addiction wasn't a
problem...well becuase there wasn't an internet back when. So
my recovery was based around getting off chemicles..drugs and alcohol.
I must admit ..I substitude one addiction for another....
I bascailly had a lot of sex all the time for the first couple of years.
Luckiely I was blessed with a GF so i didn't have to do the onenight stands
and that whole guilt trip stuff of sleeping around or being a womanizer.
Even then my GF knew I was substituting..she was too..
It was a healthier life style that we both had then before.
I was in love with her, in lust with her...We both bascailly went
to work, school, raised our daughters and had sex all the time.
At that piont in time of my life it was like heaven. We both weren't
drinking or using, were very much in love and was trying to live a balance life. Our home was a santuary and fill with the laughters of children.
As our live continued...we became more finacilly stable and had more
material success...we drifted apart. Gradaully my addiction ruled it's
ugly head in another form...I bacame a workalholic. If was very hard for
me to admmit tha becuase in my mind ..I thought I was doing what a
man suppost to do....take care of his family and give them a nice
home and comfortiable home to live in. It caused me the relationship.
My Gf at the time even told me she wish that we didn't have all the damn
cars or money...she rather have me at home playing with children
and make love to her like I used too.
Anyway..what I'm saying is addiction come in many forms.
The actaully drinking and using are just symtoms of our deeper problems.
Recovery had always told me that...
I also became a vedio game addict at one piont...
I also struggle with my music...if you all only knew the amount of times
I played those scales or solo on the music I recorded....ya die laughing.lmao
I lost count after a hundred on some of solos...
Later on ...after being clean and sober for 7 years...I found myself
with a gambling addiction. It started out as just having fun and a weekend
get away. I 've had nevered gamble until then in my entire life..
I was a bit bewilder or thought it could never happened to me...but it did.
What triggered my gambiling addiction was bascailly becuase I check the
****** out mentally and emotionally. I knew I didn't what to drink or use drugs..never the less I was still on a run and using gambling as an escape.
It was right after my children died. I didn't know how to cope with it...
It hurt so much to even think about it. I ran away from the pains and grieving for my children. I did that for two years until it stopped working.
I found myself wanting to break down in a room full of thousands of people. After I stopped gambling...I totally broke down and cried my heart out and started the grieving process of my children.
I was struggling with my ex-gf addiction and gambling problems.
After all she was the person carrying our children inside of her.
Plus her father died a couple of week before our children did.
She really, really checked the **** out....
Our realtionship turn into a total nightmair and totally toxic.
Sex..sex..sex...gambling all the time for my ex-gf to hope or escape.
It was like at any moment she wasn't doing that she was having
dreams about her father or the babies. She went totally bonkers
or was almost like I was...getting ready to break down. It over whelm
her..So she went on her run...
That was about the sametime I started using and surfing the net.
It started off slowly as me just serching for informations ...actually
looking for help for the problem my ex-gf and I was having.
It got totally retarded after a while..becuase I was surfing the damn
net instead of doing my work. It was really, really fucken hard...
becuase I need to use the PC to do my work...
Kind of like a person that has eating addiction...that has to be very
difficult...becuase you need to eat to live.
tHANK god ..I don't have an eating addiction...that would very, very difficult to over come.
Obvioulsly everyone knows about moderations....
When it comes to addicts...preaching to me about moderations dosn't work.lol
I've been able to not use the net as much as i used to.
I'm down to 10-15 mins per/day....maybe an hour max.
Somedays I don't even use my PC...
I'm grateful... that I'm not struggling with the net at the moment.
For me, I think it also has something to do with the flash rate of the screen.
I know slot machine use to mesmorized me...becuase of the music or sounds would
go in loops....kind of like why I was addicted to vedio games....it was the repetition
of the music ..and the rush of beating a level/boss or getting a reward.
I also notice after winning a game or a jackpot...everything seems borning...
That's the progression...I wanted to play a more challenging game or win a bigger jackpot.
Anyway...for me, it's admmiting I have a problem and actaully admitting I enjoy my addictions...
Once I do that for some reason it looses it's grips on me...of all the guilt and shame also.
Bascailly I'll out grow it , or it feels borning to me to be on the net all the time, gambling or getting high.
well...I finally got a cell phone not too long ago after a couple of years of not having one...
Errr....wtf ..this fucken thing be ringing off the fucken hook. I text people just for the sake
of texting...lmao
Phone calls, texting, net browsing.....god fucken me...