ShybutHi said:
Sarah_Lbnz said:
When a guy acts like this, I assume that he's
1) an ******* who thinks I'm unattractive and not worth his time, who can't even be bothered to look in my direction when I talk to him,
2) a coward who doesn't see females as another stinky burpy human like himself, and not worth my time. Cuz I burp a lot, and if someone can't deal with that, I can't deal with them
3) a bore who can't flirt or talk or move his eyes away from his phone
4) blind or deaf
5) doesn't speak English
6) has low self esteem, and I don't have the patience to pump up the egos of male partners
7) busy/distracted/mourning/stressed, etc.
I think that is sort of a bit of a shame because the guy could have very redeeming traits in alot of areas but just be shy for whatever reason. I think alot of shy males are overlooked by women and are sometimes even percieved as weak individuals. Actually in alot of cases I think the opposite is true and it is the over-confident and/or arrogant males who are very insecure in themselves. Funny that...
I agree. It's silly assumptions like these that me feel like this is what most women "think" and how judgemental they can be (Males can be just as bad, if not worse). She complains about how others can't deal with her habbits & shortcomings (e.g burping) and then says she can't deal with other peoples problems (e.g self-esteem). The fact that she is jumping to these sorts of conclusions upon meeting someone shows a lack of self-esteem. I don't know if shes realise this or not. But I guess anyone who comes on this site most likely has esteem issues (myself included).
Sarah, I don't blame you for some of them, specifically. I mean, 99% of the human population are horrid creatures., who show little to no affection toward one another. I have met plenty of people under awkward circumstances, to which later on have become very good friends with, even to the point of having relationships with. One in particular, who I worked with, snapped at me one day for no reason when I was new to a place. And later on, we became very good friends & even had a relationship with.
I think anyone who has been a victim of racism, sexism, prejiduce etc, will end up being very judgemental themselves, in that they will see everyone else as being Judgemental. You need to treat each and every person differently and not quickly come to conclusions about people based on first appearances. I mean, are we honestly at our best 24/7? No. Do we have our bad days? Yes. This is something I am struggling with all the time but have made significant progress with, since accepting that I can be just as judgemental as the ones who are judgemental against me.
I too, sometimes feel as if I have 5 seconds to impress a female and that's it. But I need to convince myself somedays, that they are human, just like me and that some men seem to have some sort of magic ability to wow & grab a woman's attention immediately. Unfortunately I do not possess this gene, but I believe I am just as valuable & worthy as these men. I just have to wait for a girl to eventually see this.
Hopefully this makes some sort of sense haha.
