nowhere.man
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Hello, all.
I'm a 20 year old male, just finished my first year of undergraduate studies at a school in Texas. The youngest of three kids, I grew up in a somewhat small town and lived in the same house my whole life prior to moving into the residence halls last fall.
I actually come from a very loving home. I have incredible parents and quite a few friends back home. However, college came to me as a bit of culture shock, socially, as I know it does for most every freshman.
A few of my good friends from high school came to the same college as myself, and I clung to them a bit too much. The majority of the new friends I made were through organizations I joined. However, I only made a few actual friends, the rest were added to the pile of acquaintances.
I stumbled upon this forum by chance, and, after reading a number of threads for hours on end, I found myself relating to a lot of these issues. And I saw questions being asked I've always wanted to ask someone relating to socializing and relationships for as long as I can remember. I've just never felt comfortable enough with anyone, face-to-face, to ask them.
I'm not a complete social hermit, nor do I feel lonely all the time. I have friends, and I go out and meet new people sometimes. But, most often, the new people I meet just get my name, because I find it hard to connect with new people.
I've had the same close-knit group of friends for a long time. I love them to death, but I want to branch out. They're not holding me back; in fact, they have a number of other social circles themselves. I'm just dumbfounded sometimes at the mere idea of making new friends. Aside from paying money to join organizations which seem like they will include like-minded people to myself, I'm clueless.
I see people on campus who seem so incredibly interesting, and I think to myself, "I would really like to get to know that person." But without a mutual friend or conveniently available remark on my part about whatever activity they may be doing, I end up just passing them by.
The same goes for women. I'm going to have to elaborate on a new thread in the Relationships forum later on, because this thread is getting long enough. But, suffice it to say, I'm pretty clueless when it comes to attracting a mate. The more I think about it, the more depressing it becomes (the sight of those happy couples =/ ). But hopefully talking about my concerns on here will help alleviate some of those feelings. And give me ideas on how to improve myself.
I guess I should mention that I'm an English major. That would explain why this post is so outlandishly long. lol (At least, it seems that way. Most everyone else just gave their name, sex, and location).
Anywho, I look forward to chatting with all of you. And expect long replies! =)
I'm a 20 year old male, just finished my first year of undergraduate studies at a school in Texas. The youngest of three kids, I grew up in a somewhat small town and lived in the same house my whole life prior to moving into the residence halls last fall.
I actually come from a very loving home. I have incredible parents and quite a few friends back home. However, college came to me as a bit of culture shock, socially, as I know it does for most every freshman.
A few of my good friends from high school came to the same college as myself, and I clung to them a bit too much. The majority of the new friends I made were through organizations I joined. However, I only made a few actual friends, the rest were added to the pile of acquaintances.
I stumbled upon this forum by chance, and, after reading a number of threads for hours on end, I found myself relating to a lot of these issues. And I saw questions being asked I've always wanted to ask someone relating to socializing and relationships for as long as I can remember. I've just never felt comfortable enough with anyone, face-to-face, to ask them.
I'm not a complete social hermit, nor do I feel lonely all the time. I have friends, and I go out and meet new people sometimes. But, most often, the new people I meet just get my name, because I find it hard to connect with new people.
I've had the same close-knit group of friends for a long time. I love them to death, but I want to branch out. They're not holding me back; in fact, they have a number of other social circles themselves. I'm just dumbfounded sometimes at the mere idea of making new friends. Aside from paying money to join organizations which seem like they will include like-minded people to myself, I'm clueless.
I see people on campus who seem so incredibly interesting, and I think to myself, "I would really like to get to know that person." But without a mutual friend or conveniently available remark on my part about whatever activity they may be doing, I end up just passing them by.
The same goes for women. I'm going to have to elaborate on a new thread in the Relationships forum later on, because this thread is getting long enough. But, suffice it to say, I'm pretty clueless when it comes to attracting a mate. The more I think about it, the more depressing it becomes (the sight of those happy couples =/ ). But hopefully talking about my concerns on here will help alleviate some of those feelings. And give me ideas on how to improve myself.
I guess I should mention that I'm an English major. That would explain why this post is so outlandishly long. lol (At least, it seems that way. Most everyone else just gave their name, sex, and location).
Anywho, I look forward to chatting with all of you. And expect long replies! =)
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