is down side to good looking NOT ME i am talking about

[mana]

@ unlucky in life

correct me if I am wrong. You fell in love with a hot guy who has no will to interact with you. You envy at the many girls that he dates and wish you were one of those. you are obssesed with this situation and can't stop think about it.

now, I want to ask you something..
when you walk down the street, the park, school, workplace, retail store etc.. how many people like him do you see? How many models do you see on regular bases? 1 per a week? 1 per day. my point is that there are not many people like him. still, normal people maintain familly life and bring food on table. they live normal life like NORMAL people.

my point is that this guy may be loved and popular thanks to his magical look, but he is a minority, only one of many normal people. you are normal, and there is no reason for you to feel like this.

 

[unlucky in life]

@ unlucky in life

correct me if I am wrong. You fell in love with a hot guy who has no will to interact with you. You envy at the many girls that he dates and wish you were one of those. you are obssesed with this situation and can't stop think about it.

now, I want to ask you something..
when you walk down the street, the park, school, workplace, retail store etc.. how many people like him do you see? How many models do you see on regular bases? 1 per a week? 1 per day. my point is that there are not many people like him. still, normal people maintain familly life and bring food on table. they live normal life like NORMAL people.

my point is that this guy may be loved and popular thanks to his magical look, but he is a minority, only one of many normal people. you are normal, and there is no reason for you to feel like this.

you don't know what you are talking about you talking rubbish pure rubbish. you know nothing of what you saying nothing at all
you NOT a nice person by what you said cold blooded and mean very cold blooded thing to say very cold blooded have you got conscience

 

[The Good Citizen]

I've had many a long discussion with a female friend of mine about whether being 'perfect' is a blessing or a burden.

I know a lot of girls and blokes that would be considered by most to be stunning, they swan through life being complimented and adored with little effort never having to look at them selves in any depth. It’s our imperfections that allow us to relate to others, establish empathy and emotions and develop meaningful relationships that last. Being imperfect as you seem to feel should allow you to realise and reject the notion that the blissful ignorance that comes with being universally loved for nothing other than your looks would in some way be a worthwhile life. To me its just a waste of a life, it achieves nothing and there will come a point, where things start to fall apart, looks fade and then these people have a challenge on their hands to cope with this fact. Often they can’t and while others have settled down into long term relationships and happiness, they will still be seen dredging the bars wearing clothes 10 years too young for them desperately clinging to what has long since gone with no means to be able to cope with it.

I’ve talked to good looking girls of this sort and they have left me cold as they have nothing to say for themselves. I’ll happily chat to them but show them no interest of pander to their ego’s whatsoever. It more often than not fries their head! On the flip side, my sister is very pretty (all my friends tell me constantly!) but she is also the kindest most unassuming person you could ever meet, I’m incredibly proud of her for that. I see her as dealing with the burden of her looks to develop a soul and depth, she married her first real boyfriend has a little girl and is the happiest person I know. This is despite her looks not because of them.

My point is celebrate your failings, its what makes yourself you as much as your many qualities (you will have plenty), don’t wish your life away on a cosmetic fantasy, just imagine this man’s face in the mirror when he starts to see his hair falling out. That’s when the struggle begins! 

 

[unlucky in life]

I've had many a long discussion with a female friend of mine about whether being 'perfect' is a blessing or a burden.

I know a lot of girls and blokes that would be considered by most to be stunning, they swan through life being complimented and adored with little effort never having to look at them selves in any depth. It’s our imperfections that allow us to relate to others, establish empathy and emotions and develop meaningful relationships that last. Being imperfect as you seem to feel should allow you to realise and reject the notion that the blissful ignorance that comes with being universally loved for nothing other than your looks would in some way be a worthwhile life. To me its just a waste of a life, it achieves nothing and there will come a point, where things start to fall apart, looks fade and then these people have a challenge on their hands to cope with this fact. Often they can’t and while others have settled down into long term relationships and happiness, they will still be seen dredging the bars wearing clothes 10 years too young for them desperately clinging to what has long since gone with no means to be able to cope with it.

I’ve talked to good looking girls of this sort and they have left me cold as they have nothing to say for themselves. I’ll happily chat to them but show them no interest of pander to their ego’s whatsoever. It more often than not fries their head! On the flip side, my sister is very pretty (all my friends tell me constantly!) but she is also the kindest most unassuming person you could ever meet, I’m incredibly proud of her for that. I see her as dealing with the burden of her looks to develop a soul and depth, she married her first real boyfriend has a little girl and is the happiest person I know. This is despite her looks not because of them.

My point is celebrate your failings, its what makes yourself you as much as your many qualities (you will have plenty), don’t wish your life away on a cosmetic fantasy, just imagine this man’s face in the mirror when he starts to see his hair falling out. That’s when the struggle begins! 

leave me alone .thats does not help in any way

 

[The Good Citizen]

beauty is overrated. it makes people want/love you for the wrong reasons.

but there is a lot plus with the good looks too many people accept them without question people treat them as important all because there are good looks at party and there main attraction people make them NO 1.

they don't even have to try to make friends the friends come him not the other way around good looking people have real easy life every thing is handed to them they have no conscience for the people who are not attractive and they don't like none trust me i know i have meet few

they have lots of friends and never alone never alone and people want to know them and care about them

i have never known that kind love and care never known i will never know it never i will always be alone forever i am so mad i am so lonely going trough life alone and friendless even in collage friendless no social life what so ever no body wanted to know me or care .even in class no one would sit beside me in 2 years in new city no body to talk lunch all by my self for 2 years badly treated and lonely,lied to all my life


people like him have every thing more friends then he can count ,girls love him and success as well .its just not fair nothing has changed i was collage if any thing it has got far worse far worse more lonely then ever now .

You seem to understand a lot of this yourself though judging from the above post. It also seems on here there are any number of people willing to offer help support and friendship which is presumably what you came here for and yet you want to dismiss and push them away. My advice would be to look at yourself a little closer rather than this individual and consider how you can better develop friendships which is ultimately a two way agreement requiring your time and effort as much as any potential friend or partner.

 

[unlucky in life]

beauty is overrated. it makes people want/love you for the wrong reasons.

but there is a lot plus with the good looks too many people accept them without question people treat them as important all because there are good looks at party and there main attraction people make them NO 1.

they don't even have to try to make friends the friends come him not the other way around good looking people have real easy life every thing is handed to them they have no conscience for the people who are not attractive and they don't like none trust me i know i have meet few

they have lots of friends and never alone never alone and people want to know them and care about them

i have never known that kind love and care never known i will never know it never i will always be alone forever i am so mad i am so lonely going trough life alone and friendless even in collage friendless no social life what so ever no body wanted to know me or care .even in class no one would sit beside me in 2 years in new city no body to talk lunch all by my self for 2 years badly treated and lonely,lied to all my life


people like him have every thing more friends then he can count ,girls love him and success as well .its just not fair nothing has changed i was collage if any thing it has got far worse far worse more lonely then ever now .

You seem to understand a lot of this yourself though judging from the above post. It also seems on here there are any number of people willing to offer help support and friendship which is presumably what you came here for and yet you want to dismiss and push them away. My advice would be to look at yourself a little closer rather than this individual and consider how you can better develop friendships which is ultimately a two way agreement requiring your time and effort as much as any potential friend or partner.

that's not help so please no more advice thanks it doesn't help in way .
please leave me alone

 

[Minus]

that's not help so please no more advice thanks it doesn't help in way .
please leave me alone

You asked a question and they were answering. Don't you think there is a reason that you keep hearing something similar from so many people?

 

[unlucky in life]

that's not help so please no more advice thanks it doesn't help in way .
please leave me alone

You asked a question and they were answering. Don't you think there is a reason that you keep hearing something similar from so many people?

what does that mean exactly. i am angry he has great life the likes of him doesn't even know what it like for me to have nothing and no one. be sad and lonely .he has every thing i have nothing ans he does n.t know what feel to be hated and unwanted and lonely.to have opposite sex treated you like pisese of rubbish you entire teens, 20s, 30s. i have never know kindness even once attraction from guy i like ,not a bit , to feel pain and tears of having nothing which is not lack of effort either .he doesn't have to make effort social not one bit his life one long party

 

[EveWasFramed]

that's not help so please no more advice thanks it doesn't help in way .
please leave me alone

You know....

It's one thing for you to keep making the same thread, over and over again - I feel people here have been very tolerant of that. It's another matter when you start calling people mean and telling them to leave you alone, etc. No one, here in this thread, has said anything even remotely "mean" and if you want to be "left alone" then I suggest you stop making these threads. Stop attacking people who are only trying to help.
And as far as what Minus meant....let me see if I can break that down for you...
"Don't you think there is a reason that you keep hearing something similar from so many people?"

People keep telling you pretty much the same thing because you keep asking the same questions over and over. Do you really expect (after all these many threads) that the answers will be any different? People here have offered "advice" but that's not what you want.
If you want to rant about the "unfairness" of this guy getting his pick of girls, then by all means, rant your heart out. But don't make threads under the guise of "seeking advice" when it's the very LAST thing you're actually interested in.
And since you have repeatedly told people that no advice you've received has been good and to leave you alone, feel free to stop making the threads.
It's getting to the point that it's becoming disruptive.

 

[Minus]

Okay so some guys live in a utopia where they have "truck load of female friends", "nice treatment by every one" and they are naturally "out going and friendly ,flirty, nice , intelligent ,winners at sport". They made it into their 20's with out ever experiencing even the slightest mistreatment or misfortune, in fact they have had it so easy that amazingly they never even ever "had bad word said against them".

Then there is someone who has had nothing but distress all her life. Despite her greatest efforts to improve her life, misfortune always falls on her. Constant misfortune and misery as if the gods were playing an evil game with her life.

In such a situation i have no doubt that it is tempting to envy those that are seen to live in this utopia world where every thing is handed to them with no effort on their part and not even the slightest misfortune or difficulty can occur. I imagine it is easy to decide that life is suppose to be fair and that the world's fairness should be judged through your own personal perspective. Then of course it wouldn't be fair to live in constant misery while others live in a utopia on earth.

LC said that you have to make your side of the fence greener. Many others have said the same thing in the various responses in different threads. Of course you repeatedly worked diligently on that and it constantly ended in some misfortune.

Nothing positive comes from dwelling on it. It will drive you up the wall. Then maybe i am mistaken. It could just be a continuous rant through which you find some release.

I have nothing new here. It has all be said before. Until the topics vary more, i doubt there can be anything new, anything that hasn't been said yet. I am glad to see people starting to take breaks when their frustration level becomes too high.

I hope you find what you are looking for.

 

[unlucky in life]

Okay so some guys live in a utopia where they have "truck load of female friends", "nice treatment by every one" and they are naturally "out going and friendly ,flirty, nice , intelligent ,winners at sport". They made it into their 20's with out ever experiencing even the slightest mistreatment or misfortune, in fact they have had it so easy that amazingly they never even ever "had bad word said against them".

Then there is someone who has had nothing but distress all her life. Despite her greatest efforts to improve her life, misfortune always falls on her. Constant misfortune and misery as if the gods were playing an evil game with her life.

In such a situation i have no doubt that it is tempting to envy those that are seen to live in this utopia world where every thing is handed to them with no effort on their part and not even the slightest misfortune or difficulty can occur. I imagine it is easy to decide that life is suppose to be fair and that the world's fairness should be judged through your own personal perspective. Then of course it wouldn't be fair to live in constant misery while others live in a utopia on earth.

LC said that you have to make your side of the fence greener. Many others have said the same thing in the various responses in different threads. Of course you repeatedly worked diligently on that and it constantly ended in some misfortune.

Nothing positive comes from dwelling on it. It will drive you up the wall. Then maybe i am mistaken. It could just be a continuous rant through which you find some release.

I have nothing new here. It has all be said before. Until the topics vary more, i doubt there can be anything new, anything that hasn't been said yet. I am glad to see people starting to take breaks when their frustration level becomes too high.

I hope you find what you are looking for.

Okay so some guys live in a utopia where they have "truck load of female friends", "nice treatment by every one" and they are naturally "out going and friendly ,flirty, nice , intelligent ,winners at sport". They made it into their 20's with out ever experiencing even the slightest mistreatment or misfortune, in fact they have had it so easy that amazingly they never even ever "had bad word said against them".-

yes its not fair .he never have to look back and cry about all rejection and bulling and verbal abuse and physical abuse and all failure and rejection. being friendless sitting in school yard all by your self for 6 years in the corner of the school and being bulled at the same time . the next school was the same way twice in 1st year by 2 lads verbal abuse and physical abused , collage was more extremely loneliness and bulling and been lied to badly treated i try kill my self at 24 years old due loneliness and rejection lack some one to care. teachers gave me hard time too told me find some eles to do.no one would sit with in school its like had disease or some disfigurement.

any guy i try to be friendly with told me to push off and get lost too many times i lost count so i got form deep depression from it i end up in counselling over in serve distress and sadness ,

i failed exam in collage no matter how hard i worked i still failed .
i could not in collage and no body wanted me there .

so yeah i reason for it .

 

[Ak5]

Yes, rant it all out.

 

[unlucky in life]

Yes, rant it all out.

its not a rant as you called ok its not rant ok .if you don't understand don't comment .your 15 years old you have alot learn about people let me tell you that .so your no expert in life

 

[EveWasFramed]

*sigh*