Is love a myth?

[sunbeam]

Hi

I am so happy I found this webside and I can be here with you. I think I find it easier to express myself in other language than polish since I speak polish very very distinctly no one understands me anyway. I am polish girl, I am 26. My loneliness has nothing to do with being alone at all, there is always someone around me. I’m popular though I’ve never sought for it, I do have a lot of friends I enjoy spend time with, I have wonderful family, I love my job so theoretically it seems I am happy and shouldn’t feel lonely at all, well… it couldn’t be further from the truth. I feel my life is empty without special person I can share my life with. I’ve been single since ……… forever what brings a sense of utter emptiness. It’s not I am ugly, I know I am attracted too many guys, It’s not I am stupid either, I think I pretty smart, but love has never came to me. I just can’t see the point to date anyone if don’t feel these magic butterflies in my stomach. Well of course I don’t expect I will fall in love at the first side like in the movies I know love takes time, we learn how to love.
I am not seeking someone perfect, I am open minded, tolerant, ready for compromises but I still can’t feel this magic spark, I’ve never felt this chemistry that take place from the first moments of meeting, I didn’t feel it in second or third meetings. I just felt nothing. This nothingness is very paintful, it’s like I m out of any feelings, what is pretty depressing, because I don’t wanna be like that anymore, and but there is nothing what I can do about it either.
Sometimes I feel I don’t belong to the world I live in, there s nothing worse than hear hey you have beauty, you have brain, you have guys in the palm of your hand, just pick one, stop complaining and being so picky . Oh God, I can’t heart it anymore, hate it when people say like that to me. I am not picky! I don’t need exclusive clothes, deluxe cars, or holidays in 5 stars hotels at exotic places, I don’t need anyone money, I don’t care about appearance very much, but it would be nice if he smelt nice , I am a little romantic and I love to get flowers, but he doesn’t have to give it to me every single week, I won’t ask him if I look fat in the outfit I try on, I’ll let him to meet his friends for beer, I am not going to try change anyone and their habits.
I need only a love, someone who’ll support, protect me, respect me, understand me, who’ll trust me and whom I can trust too, a guy who’ll be not only my partner, lover but also my best friend, someone who will make my happiness, my life, complete and I can complete his. Is it really too much? Maybe I am looking something what actually does not exist, and I am only daydreaming and the love is only a myth.

Oh God this post is very long, sorry for that, sorry for my blabbing, sorry for language mistakes, but I felt had to give vent to my feelings.

Hugs for everyone guys

 

[blueindia2681]

Welcome Sunbeam!

I would like to assure you that love is NOT a myth. Be patient

 

[Badjedidude]

Welcome to the site.

Love is not a myth, but it is hard to find and keep. Just continue searching for it, and you'll find it.

 

[VanillaCreme]

I wouldn't think so.

And welcome.

 

[edgecrusher]

hey and welcome

at this point in my life it sure feels like a myth

 

[QuietGuy]

Hey sunbeam! Welcome to the forum

Your first post sounds extremely similar to my first post in many ways.

My loneliness has nothing to do with being alone at all, there is always someone around me. I'm popular though I've never sought for it, I do have a lot of friends I enjoy spend time with, I have wonderful family, I love my job so theoretically it seems I am happy and shouldn't feel lonely at all, well... it couldn't be further from the truth. I feel my life is empty without special person I can share my life with.

You've described me pretty much exactly!

I just can't see the point to date anyone if don't feel these magic butterflies in my stomach.

Completely agree.

I don't need exclusive clothes, deluxe cars, or holidays in 5 stars hotels at exotic places, I don't need anyone money, I don't care about appearance very much

Completely agree!

I need only a love, someone who'll support, protect me, respect me, understand me, who'll trust me and whom I can trust too, a guy who'll be not only my partner, lover but also my best friend, someone who will make my happiness, my life, complete and I can complete his.

Completely agree!!

Is it really too much? Maybe I am looking something what actually does not exist, and I am only daydreaming and the love is only a myth.

It's not too much to ask, that love is not a myth. There are guys out there who feel exactly the same way as you - for example, me!

I've never felt this chemistry that take place from the first moments of meeting, I didn't feel it in second or third meetings. I just felt nothing. This nothingness is very paintful, it's like I m out of any feelings, what is pretty depressing, because I don't wanna be like that anymore, and but there is nothing what I can do about it either.

I don't know why the special chemistry is so very difficult to find. I know the pain you feel, because I'm feeling it myself. It's like starvation - a sharp pain in your stomach because you're so very hungry. But, as you say, there's nothing you can do about it, and it's so frustrating It makes me want to tear my hair out with frustration. You can't make chemistry happen. You just have to keep meeting lots of new people, and be very very very very patient, and then suddenly, one day, BOOM! Chemistry! Romance! And it's definitely worth the wait.

Oh God this post is very long, sorry for that, sorry for my blabbing, sorry for language mistakes, but I felt had to give vent to my feelings.

Don't worry, your post isn't long (check out this post!). Vent here as often as you need to - that's what we're here for! And again, welcome to the forum

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PS. Here are some barrels full of patience to keep you going

 

[Wailun]

Hi sunbeam! and welcome! ^^

I personally don't think Love is a myth, although usually try to hide that thought from my friends. And I think that special person really exists out there somewhere. Even though there have been countless times when I thought I found that person but realized I was wrong, I'm sure that special person exists.

*hugs* If you're still dreaming of that ideal person, you're not alone ^^ not by a long shot.

 

[Ice]

If love is a myth I love that myth!

 

[sunbeam]

Hi guys!

Thanks for all of kind words, support and nice welcome at this webside. You are so right, deep down I know I have to wait patiently for my mr Right. But sometimes it is so hard, I feel so helplessness and torn like yesterday I did. When I see two people holding hands, smiling at each other I feel a stab of pain, bitterness, I sink into despair, I ask myself why it can’t be me? where is the problem ? Don’t think I am type of always unhappy, suffering girl I am nice, have sense of humour, well I am not fully happy but I love laughing and I try to look to the future with optimism
Most of you post the quote that reflects your present state, so I would like to share with mine too. It is India Arie, beautiful, magnificent, song “Ready for love”, actually this song means everything, everything what I’ve been clumsily trying to say in my broken english

I am ready for love
Why are you hiding from me
I'd quickly give my freedom
To be held in your captivity
(…)
I will be patient, kind, faithful and true
(…)
I am ready for love
Here with an offering of
My voice
My Eyes
My soul
My mind

Tell me what is enough
To prove I am ready for love

 

[jales]

love is not a myth

 

[Mr. Sir]

Are you fat?

 

[SophiaGrace]

"I found myself driven to argue the value of the human race. "Not all of us are masters of hatred, as you say."
"All," it insisted.
"Some of us are good."
"None."
"most of us are good"
"Pretense," the demon said with that unshakable confidence that is (so the Bible tells us) a mark of the Evil Ones and is an instrument with which doubt can be implanted in the minds of mortals.
I said, " Some of us love."
"there is no love," the demon said.
"you're wrong. It exists."
"It is an illusion."
"Some of us love," I insisted.
"You lie."
"Some of us care."
"All lies."
"We have courage, and we are capable of self-sacrifice for the sake of others. We love peace and hate war. We heal the sick and mourn the dead. We are not monsters, damn you. We nuture children and seek a better world for them."

-Dean Koontz (Twilight Eyes, Page: 399-400)

 

[Electric_Fusilier]

Love is not a myth, Sunbeam. It exists, as I have had the priviledge of being in love myself, once.

My problem now - I suppose you could call it my post-love problem, lol - is that I'm finding it terribly easy to develop crushes. I don't like it much - basically, I just have to sit them out until they fade away. I'm thinking of starting a thread about it...

 

[Badjedidude]

Are you fat?

Neither funny nor nice. Keep such comments to your self next time.

 

[blueindia2681]

Are you fat?

And how exactly is that a factor?

 

[Mr. Sir]

Are you fat?

And how exactly is that a factor?

An incel female is overweight 99% of the time.

 

[cheaptrickfan]

Are you fat?

And how exactly is that a factor?

An incel female is overweight 99% of the time.

Honestly, you get more obnoxious with each new post.

 

[Electric_Fusilier]

What is an 'incel' female? I've never heard that word before.

 

[blueindia2681]

He's ignorant.

 

[cheaptrickfan]

What is an 'incel' female? I've never heard that word before.

Incel stands for Involuntary Celibacy