Is this girl blind?

[Restless soul]

Ok. So I am a bit necrotic. Happens. Glad you get a laugh..

 

[EveWasFramed]

Ok. So I am a bit necrotic. Happens. Glad you get a laugh..

If you mean neurotic, I don't see it as such, lol. 
Just figure responses aren't fast enough for you and you add more comments.
It's not you - I just have an odd sense of humor. 

 

[AmytheTemperamental]

You can look at your other threads by going to your profile.

 

[Restless soul]

Ok. So I am a bit necrotic. Happens. Glad you get a laugh..

If you mean neurotic, I don't see it as such, lol. 
Just figure responses aren't fast enough for you and you add more comments.
It's not you - I just have an odd sense of humor. 

Yes. I do that. I hate being alone too long with my thoughts.  Call it nervousness call it what you will. That might be one reason why I do it

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You can look at your other threads by going to your profile.

Ok. So which one was it that you gave me advice??

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You can look at your other threads by going to your profile.

Omg. There are tons of threads. Just looking at all of them is giving me anxiety. Which topic was it?

 

[TheRealCallie]

OR....maybe you just don't see what she sees. People often don't see it when others point out that they look like someone else, that's doesn't mean they are wrong. It doesn't mean you can insult the **** out of them because YOU don't agree.

And also, just because YOU think you are cuter than the other person, doesn't mean you are....and on the other side of that, just because they think you look like another person that you don't think is as good looking as you, that doesn't mean they think you are ugly.

 

[AmytheTemperamental]

I'm sure you argued with me in a few of them.

 

[Restless soul]

OR....maybe you just don't see what she sees.  People often don't see it when others point out that they look like someone else, that's doesn't mean they are wrong.  It doesn't mean you can insult the **** out of them because YOU don't agree.  

And also, just because YOU think you are cuter than the other person, doesn't mean you are....and on the other side of that, just because they think you look like another person that you don't think is as good looking as you, that doesn't mean they think you are ugly.

Got it. Thanks. Makes sense

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I'm sure you argued with me in a few of them.

Oh come on now. Me argue?? No way

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OR....maybe you just don't see what she sees.  People often don't see it when others point out that they look like someone else, that's doesn't mean they are wrong.  It doesn't mean you can insult the **** out of them because YOU don't agree.  

And also, just because YOU think you are cuter than the other person, doesn't mean you are....and on the other side of that, just because they think you look like another person that you don't think is as good looking as you, that doesn't mean they think you are ugly.

But the reason why I don't like when it happens is because I let it skew my whole preception of how I think I look. That is the main reason.

 

[TheRealCallie]

OR....maybe you just don't see what she sees.  People often don't see it when others point out that they look like someone else, that's doesn't mean they are wrong.  It doesn't mean you can insult the **** out of them because YOU don't agree.  

And also, just because YOU think you are cuter than the other person, doesn't mean you are....and on the other side of that, just because they think you look like another person that you don't think is as good looking as you, that doesn't mean they think you are ugly.

But the reason why I don't like when it happens is because I let it skew my whole preception of how I think I look. That is the main reason.

That's not anyone's problem but yours.  If you decide to let something like thta skew your perception, that's entirely on you.  It's your choice whether you let something like that hurt your in that way.

Let's put it in a different way.
If you were to fall in a hole because you didn't see it but everyone else did, would it be their fault that you fell in?

 

[Restless soul]

OR....maybe you just don't see what she sees.  People often don't see it when others point out that they look like someone else, that's doesn't mean they are wrong.  It doesn't mean you can insult the **** out of them because YOU don't agree.  

And also, just because YOU think you are cuter than the other person, doesn't mean you are....and on the other side of that, just because they think you look like another person that you don't think is as good looking as you, that doesn't mean they think you are ugly.

But the reason why I don't like when it happens is because I let it skew my whole preception of how I think I look. That is the main reason.

That's not anyone's problem but yours.  If you decide to let something like thta skew your perception, that's entirely on you.  It's your choice whether you let something like that hurt your in that way.

Let's put it in a different way.
If you were to fall in a hole because you didn't see it but everyone else did, would it be their fault that you fell in?

No but the hole example is much simpler than how one thinks about themsleves, feels. And how comments affect thier psyche long term.

 

[Restless soul]

Callie, still sound very condescending in your posts. I realize you mean well.

 

[AmytheTemperamental]

It's easy to feel someone's being condescending when you don't want to face yourself. You'll get there. I have faith in you.

 

[TheRealCallie]

Callie, still sound very condescending in your posts. I realize you mean well.

Lol, if that's how you choose to interpret what I say, then that, too, is on you.

 

[Restless soul]

It's easy to feel someone's being condescending when you don't want to face yourself. You'll get there. I have faith in you.

Thats deep.

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Its ok. I can totally deal with that

 

[MisterLonely]

Hey Restless, Happy New year!

I know this is very difficult for you, but you need to fight these urges stop putting so much value on other peoples oppinions and so little on your own. Learn from this experience, analyse what you did wrong and what you should have done, also reading the previous post I think that unmatching was the better of the two options, it would not have done you or her any good if you would have gone off on her like that.

If it had happened to me would I have found it strange? very probably, would I have felt insulted? maybe, can't realy say.
My answer would probably have been a simple "Nope, not me" either way.

You can't control the thoughts and actons of others, you can only control your own.

 

[Restless soul]

Hey Restless, Happy New year!

I know this is very difficult for you, but you need to fight these urges stop putting so much value on other peoples oppinions and so little on your own. Learn from this experience, analyse what you did wrong and what you should have done, also reading the previous post I think that unmatching was the better of the two options, it would not have done you or her any good if you would have gone off on her like that.

If it had happened to me would I have found it strange? very probably, would I have felt insulted? maybe, can't realy say.
My answer would probably have been a simple "Nope, not me" either way.

You can't control the thoughts and actons of others, you can only control your own.

And happy new year to you too. Thanks for the reply.
And that is the upsetting part. She didn't mean it in a malcious way showing me who she thought was me. Just shows you how in the past I was mocked in a similar way with someone making fun of my looks. So the trigger is there.
And that fact is I still didnt think I looked like the guy. But it still hs that affect anytime I get that you look like so and so. Or was that you. Of course there are celebs that if they said I did look like It would not bother me. And I might agree. Just to show you that there are exceptions. Of course I never get compared to them. So not to sound anymore shallow or vain. I won't mention those celebrity names.

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Here is actually a good example with my thinking.
Lets say you were always compared to a good looking celebrity right? Pick anyone. Lets say bradley cooper. And one day someone says you look like will farrel. Just an example.

So you would of course be annoyed by getting copmared to a less attractive celeb after all that time.
Wouldnt that skew your view of how you look after someone said you look like a totally diffrent celeb who you don't find appealing, attractive and not a compliment??

 

[MisterLonely]

Hey Restless, Happy New year!

I know this is very difficult for you, but you need to fight these urges stop putting so much value on other peoples oppinions and so little on your own. Learn from this experience, analyse what you did wrong and what you should have done, also reading the previous post I think that unmatching was the better of the two options, it would not have done you or her any good if you would have gone off on her like that.

If it had happened to me would I have found it strange? very probably, would I have felt insulted? maybe, can't realy say.
My answer would probably have been a simple "Nope, not me" either way.

You can't control the thoughts and actons of others, you can only control your own.

And happy new year to you too. Thanks for the reply.
And that is the upsetting part. She didn't mean it in a malcious way showing me who she thought was me. Just shows you how in the past I was mocked in a similar way with someone making fun of my looks. So the trigger is there.
And that fact is I still didnt think I looked like the guy. But it still hs that affect anytime I get that you look like so and so. Or was that you. Of course there are celebs that if they said I did look like It would not bother me. And I might agree. Just to show you that there are exceptions. Of course I never get compared to them. So not to sound anymore shallow or vain. I won't mention those celebrity names.

There is a red thread running through the very core of all your topics it seems, and I know this has been said before, but I realy wish you'd find a way to deal with that past and put it behind you.

You know your reaction wasn't right, and your obviously pissed off at yourself for the way you handled it, but at that time it triggers a memory and you act on autopilot, not thinking clearly untill after the fact when you had the chance to calm down. And at that point you regret your actions and feel resentment towards yourself for it

It can be very difficult in situations that aggravate you, but you need to come back to yourself before doing anything in this kind of situation.

 

[Restless soul]

Hey Restless, Happy New year!

I know this is very difficult for you, but you need to fight these urges stop putting so much value on other peoples oppinions and so little on your own. Learn from this experience, analyse what you did wrong and what you should have done, also reading the previous post I think that unmatching was the better of the two options, it would not have done you or her any good if you would have gone off on her like that.

If it had happened to me would I have found it strange? very probably, would I have felt insulted? maybe, can't realy say.
My answer would probably have been a simple "Nope, not me" either way.

You can't control the thoughts and actons of others, you can only control your own.

And happy new year to you too. Thanks for the reply.
And that is the upsetting part. She didn't mean it in a malcious way showing me who she thought was me. Just shows you how in the past I was mocked in a similar way with someone making fun of my looks. So the trigger is there.
And that fact is I still didnt think I looked like the guy. But it still hs that affect anytime I get that you look like so and so. Or was that you. Of course there are celebs that if they said I did look like It would not bother me. And I might agree. Just to show you that there are exceptions. Of course I never get compared to them. So not to sound anymore shallow or vain. I won't mention those celebrity names.

There is a red thread running through the very core of all your topics it seems, and I know this has been said before, but I realy wish you'd find a way to deal with that past and put it behind you.

You know your reaction wasn't right, and your obviously pissed off at yourself for the way you handled it, but at that time it triggers a memory and you act on autopilot, not thinking clearly untill after the fact when you had the chance to calm down. And at that point you regret your actions and feel resentment towards yourself for it

It can be very difficult in situations that aggravate you, but you need to come back to yourself before doing anything in this kind of situation.

Ok. I agree. And this due to a combination of things. What is the red thread? Mean common theme? What about the celebrtiy example I gave. That is a big part of why I react that way? I would like to hear what you think on that example

 

[MisterLonely]

Hey Restless, Happy New year!

I know this is very difficult for you, but you need to fight these urges stop putting so much value on other peoples oppinions and so little on your own. Learn from this experience, analyse what you did wrong and what you should have done, also reading the previous post I think that unmatching was the better of the two options, it would not have done you or her any good if you would have gone off on her like that.

If it had happened to me would I have found it strange? very probably, would I have felt insulted? maybe, can't realy say.
My answer would probably have been a simple "Nope, not me" either way.

You can't control the thoughts and actons of others, you can only control your own.

And happy new year to you too. Thanks for the reply.
And that is the upsetting part. She didn't mean it in a malcious way showing me who she thought was me. Just shows you how in the past I was mocked in a similar way with someone making fun of my looks. So the trigger is there.
And that fact is I still didnt think I looked like the guy. But it still hs that affect anytime I get that you look like so and so. Or was that you. Of course there are celebs that if they said I did look like It would not bother me. And I might agree. Just to show you that there are exceptions. Of course I never get compared to them. So not to sound anymore shallow or vain. I won't mention those celebrity names.

There is a red thread running through the very core of all your topics it seems, and I know this has been said before, but I realy wish you'd find a way to deal with that past and put it behind you.

You know your reaction wasn't right, and your obviously pissed off at yourself for the way you handled it, but at that time it triggers a memory and you act on autopilot, not thinking clearly untill after the fact when you had the chance to calm down. And at that point you regret your actions and feel resentment towards yourself for it

It can be very difficult in situations that aggravate you, but you need to come back to yourself before doing anything in this kind of situation.

Ok. I agree. And this due to a combination of things. What is the red thread? Mean common theme? What about the celebrtiy example I gave. That is a big part of why I react that way? I would like to hear what you think on that example

With a red thread I mean something that connects them all, a common theme works.

As for the celebrity example I wouldn't know what to say, it's flathering to be compared to a celeb, especially a good looking one. But that is also subjective, some people think Johnny Depp is dreamy, others think he's creapy, it's completly subjective so I wouldn't dwell on it too much, personally I don't think I compare to any celeb myself, but I might have a bit off a warped image of myself... or so I've been told atleast

 

[Restless soul]

My point with the celebrity also has to do with someones
Mental image how they look. After being compared to a good looking celeb ( in thier head )then once compared to a celeb they don't consider to be good looking. Well. That causes thier whole mental image to change. To feel diffrent about how they look. Makes sense??

 

[MisterLonely]

My point with the celebrity also has to do with someones
Mental image how they look. After being compared to a good looking celeb ( in thier head )then once compared to a celeb they don't consider to be good looking.  Well. That causes thier whole mental image to change. To feel diffrent about how they look. Makes sense??

Who are we talking about here? It can go both ways, if your compared with someone you think isn't that good looking, they might be pleasently suprised when meeting you, and the reverse is also possible