Is this year my last chance?

[Rehd]

I think this year may be my last chance to find a girlfriend. I have a job set up for after I graduate high school. This job however, has VERY VERY few females in it. It pays well and I very well hope to make it my future career. The only downside is that due to my past, I don't have much room to go for any other job and alot of the people who work in this job for a long time from their 20's to retirement, remain relationship-less for the rest of their life.

I think I'm going to end up alone for the rest of my life.

 

[Robin]

Hey, Rehd. To begin with, like with most things here in life, You must understand that You have to do the work to find one, unless You're lucky and someone else does the work to find You, which i don't suggest You wait for. No matter how much help You get from everyone else You are the one who have to get up there and show Your moves, sooner or later. You planned to find a partner at Your work-place? Haven't actually heard (or read) anyone say that before. I don't think there's such a high probability to find someone who fit You well in any work-place, no matter how many women there are around. Of course this depends on how many co-workers there are in Your vicinity at the job though, and that have been quite few in all jobs at least i've ever had.

To answer Your main question: No, You have Your whole life to look for someone to share something with; partners or friends alike, as long as You try to find one. I don't know what Your job is going to be, but i doubt that it has anything much to do with how easy it is to find a mate. The only people i know who've waited a long time for partners and children are the one's who put their career as the first priority in their lives and have really demanding, though well paid jobs. I even know a rich guy who have a good relationship and two kids who nothing more would like to start working all the time again, which he did before he started a family.

What have You done in Your life to attract someone, so far? You think You can manage or do You hesitate simply because You don't think You'll pull it off? Self-esteem issues?

 

[Guest]

I think this year may be my last chance to find a girlfriend. I have a job set up for after I graduate high school. This job however, has VERY VERY few females in it. It pays well and I very well hope to make it my future career. The only downside is that due to my past, I don't have much room to go for any other job and alot of the people who work in this job for a long time from their 20's to retirement, remain relationship-less for the rest of their life.

I think I'm going to end up alone for the rest of my life.

what is wrong with u buddy, yah einstein since when is it that life is already decided at the age of 17.

 

[Rehd]

I start at 22 an hour and full benefits, over time for me is double pay. I will make over 100k a year in less than 7-8 years. It's a construction job in hvac servicing. Enough pay to retire young, but a construction job.

I'm not being sexist here saying there aren't females who do it, I'm just saying there REALLY are like no women, a few, but not many in this career around here.

As far as trying to go and find a relationship and put out effort, you can always try to find my posts from about 7 months ago ish about my efforts in trying to get one. I seem to be the guy that the girls like to talk to after they get hurt badly from an ****** guy, but then after they are done talking to me, they go right back to another ****** and leave me here lonely. I'm not sure what my problem is, I just suck at life.

 

[Robin]

Considering Your financial situation within those years that You explain, i'd say You're quite good at life!

Attracting a mate, the pure practical work, is easier than we think. The reason why it can seem so hard is because the person we want must want us back, and that can make us hesitate to go as far as we'd really want to. Rehd, You obviously aren't shy to express Your feelings and thoughts. Could You do the same with love? Sure You can! It's a matter of time, and the more time You spend trying to find one (or get to know a person You have in mind) the faster You'll get there. Sure, Your job haven't got much women around, but is that all that You are able to focus on in the years to come?

When it comes to Your unfortunate knack for spending time with women temporarily, what do You think You actually could improve? What are You doing wrong? I've said it a hundred times before in this forum, but have You tried or considered finding someone interesting via the internet? Since You apparently are around computers alot and barely seem to do anything else i suppose You might as well try it. To be honest i don't know of a better way to find someone, for any reason, than searching online. Finding a mate in real life... well, it's true what You say about how many women You are around every day. It's not easy to try and attract someone if You there are nobody to attract.

There must be some women in Your area who are in about Your position in life. If there incredibly isn't, i mean if You truly do search well and still can't find anyone You feel You're ready to go for, i guess now isn't the right time for old Rehd. There will be a time though, don't You ever believe anything else. As long as Your heart aches Your fire is burning for someone to see.

The people that we are, the places where we live, the partner we are looking for... there are several keys that have to match for some people to get through some doors. If the wait is too long, we can always adapt one or two of the keys to better fit the door(s). It would take something hard and painful to do so, but it's sacrifices that might lead us to a better future.

 

[That Guy]

I'm always thinking the same thing. I don't have much of a social life. I've been jumping a lot of crappy jobs lately and every time I get a new one I always hope that a cute girl will be working there. No luck. There are rarely people my age at the jobs I've had and almost no girls my age. I've been going through a lot of labor jobs so I guess that would explain it. And having a good job is definitely a good way to attract someone. I get a lot of girls hinting at the fact that they detest my employment record. Definitely isn't attractive. It really pisses me off too b/c I'm struggling so hard to find a job and girls just look at what I do and think I'm just a slacker. It's really frustrating.

 

[lonelygirl]

It's never too late for anything. Until your last breath, you can grow, learn, and change!

 

[Guest]

I start at 22 an hour and full benefits, over time for me is double pay. I will make over 100k a year in less than 7-8 years. It's a construction job in hvac servicing. Enough pay to retire young, but a construction job.

I'm not being sexist here saying there aren't females who do it, I'm just saying there REALLY are like no women, a few, but not many in this career around here.

As far as trying to go and find a relationship and put out effort, you can always try to find my posts from about 7 months ago ish about my efforts in trying to get one. I seem to be the guy that the girls like to talk to after they get hurt badly from an ****** guy, but then after they are done talking to me, they go right back to another ****** and leave me here lonely. I'm not sure what my problem is, I just suck at life.

dude i think first of all u really need to stop complaining as I dont even know what is there to complain about. fair enough no females in at work, life is not perfect so get over it!!!!!!

First of all ur only 17, as u said ull be like earning 100k as ur salary by the time ur 24 or 25. seriously less than 1% of the worlds population can even earn as much as the exact figure that you have thrown at us. Geez how lucky u are, but u just dont realise it.

i think my answer to ur question is, ur main problem is being to paranoid, u always want to look for problems when there is none, i read through all ur posts but seriously u need to grow some balls young man.

 

[Guest]

everyone suck at life at 17 ,

dude im 27 and i still suck at life.

 

[Janus]

I think you need to "grow some balls" and register, before I "read everee 1 of ur postz and totally puke!!!!!" Leave Rehd alone and go back to your coloring books, junior.


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dude i think first of all u really need to stop complaining as I dont even know what is there to complain about. fair enough no females in at work, life is not perfect so get over it!!!!!!

First of all ur only 17, as u said ull be like earning 100k as ur salary by the time ur 24 or 25. seriously less than 1% of the worlds population can even earn as much as the exact figure that you have thrown at us. Geez how lucky u are, but u just dont realise it.

i think my answer to ur question is, ur main problem is being to paranoid, u always want to look for problems when there is none, i read through all ur posts but seriously u need to grow some balls young man.
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[Rehd]

dude i think first of all u really need to stop complaining as I dont even know what is there to complain about. fair enough no females in at work, life is not perfect so get over it!!!!!!

First of all ur only 17, as u said ull be like earning 100k as ur salary by the time ur 24 or 25. seriously less than 1% of the worlds population can even earn as much as the exact figure that you have thrown at us. Geez how lucky u are, but u just dont realise it.

i think my answer to ur question is, ur main problem is being to paranoid, u always want to look for problems when there is none, i read through all ur posts but seriously u need to grow some balls young man.

Money doesn't = happiness or automatic social life. Getting up at 4 am and getting home at 7 pm doesn't leave much room for anything else. That's why I was hoping to meet a female at my work, it's very very time consuming.

Money's great and all, I wouldn't mind getting to retire young, but honestly, I don't see a point in even living if I just sit around while I'm 40 if I'm just going to be lonely. Might be better off to quit and live on the streets and let some family man have my job instead.

Not really paranoid, only when I'm shooting up or smoking, then I'm always paranoid.

Oh and yes I have tried finding people through the internet as well. It just doesn't ever seem to work out with me online or in life. :-/

Well, I'm done feedin the trolls, all trolls thereafter will be replied with sarcastic and demeaning pictures.

 

[teach]

Hi Rehd,

Sometimes our jobs don't lend themselves to finding a mate. As a teacher, finding an adult male who isn't married, on the job, is also few and far between. Saying you have time to find the right one isn't comforting, I know. Speaking with the female perspective, if the right woman comes along, will you be ready? I'm concerned with your "shooting up" comment. Having big personal issues (such as drugs or alcohol) doesn't bode well in a life-long relationship. Is this a habit or something you're chosing as a distraction?

Speaking on a side closer to 40.....way too close, and single, life is still worth living.