It is the worst at night for me.

[Josh]

Don't know why but a lot of times I can act like I am happy during the day but soon as work is over and it starts to get time to go to bed it hits me ever night. Some nights are worse than others but its always at night I feel the worst. I think I just wish I had someone to curl up with and go to bed with maybe its that I wish could go to sleep knowing someone loves me or it might just be I wish had some kind of physical interaction with another person.

 

[kazman32]

I think I just wish I had someone to curl up with and go to bed with


I know exactly how you feel, the last few months me and me ex/gf were together I was so depressed and withdrawn I started sleeping in her sons room, we used to be so close we had to be touching each other to sleep..I took her so for granted and let my depression destroy the relationship, I have gotten alot better but it's too late...If only....I miss sleeping with her...but I realize she's gone, if I could only meet someone else I will NEVER make the same mistakes again...it would be nice to be close to someone hear them breath while they were asleep..etc

 

[Elaeagnus]

I totally agree. Even when my day goes fine, when I go to bed I get really upset and depressed. I usually end up crying in my bed. My cat always comes to sleep with me, and that makes things a little better. She sleeps right on top of me and doesn't even mind when she gets jostled around when I cry. I'm really glad I have her.

 

[BrokenDreams]

I also agree. I can never seem to fall asleep at night, I have too many things on my mind. My cats won't even sleep on my bed when I'm on it. One stays in the basement, and the other one will, if at all come on my bed and bite my toes since I move too much. I wish I could have someone who could give me a hug and a kiss before I go to bed, I know it sounds really corny, but it would make a huge difference for me.

 

[lonelygirl]

Hey guys,

If you don't have a cat to sleep in your bed a nice silky soft teddy bear is another choice--whether you are male or female! I also sleep with one pillow in my arms and one between my knees so my back doesn't hurt.

BIG hugs to all the lonely folks!

 

[Krossknife]

Sins I had lost all of my pets to my recent Ex, it has been very hard at night with no pets and no lady to lie on me. Its seems that coupled with anxioty is a bad combination. But what has been helpin me lately at night is to jot down why I am in bed all alone and saying hi to my pets and reminding myself what was done to myself then I put the sheet under my pillow. I know there are many different situations but i think the note will help remeber to read it and take a deep breath and continue until u feel a little more relaxed.

 

[Elaeagnus]

I had a perfectly nice day yesterday.  I had fun, I didn't feel too lonely, and I didn't think of anything sad at all.  But as soon as I went to bed I was overwhelmed by despair.  I ended up crying for a very long time.  I don't understand this.  It makes sense that I cry at night if I spend the day sad, or if I push down all the sad and lonely thoughts during the day only to have them pop to the surface at night.  But when I have a good day, when I don't even think about anything sad the entire day, why do I still get so sad at night?  I wonder if I've accidentally conditioned my body to think that when I crawl into bed at night it is time to break down and cry.  Conditioning is a strange thing.  I don't usually cry when I take a nap in bed during the day, and it doesn't happen if it's night and I'm somewhere else in the house.  Somehow the only way I can react to my bed at night is pain and tears.  Tonight I'm going to sleep on the couch to see if that helps.  Luckily, it's a very comfortable couch.

 

[michael in glasgow]

Bedtime is normally the only part of the day when I remember how lonely I am. For the rest of the time I can usually divert myself, recently at least.

But at bedtime I have Smiths lyrics running around my brain:

"And as I climb into an empty bed,
Oh well, enough said"

and

"If you're so funny
then why are you on your own tonight?
and if you're so clever
then why are you on your own tonight?
if you're so very entertaining
then why are you on your own tonight?
if you're so very good looking
why do you sleep alone tonight?"

I can't stop thinking like that and sometimes I start to cry. I feel like crying whether or not I actually do.

So I sit up too late. I nap on the couch sitting up. I fall asleep for 20 minutes at a time during the day. It's not insomnia because I don't want to go to bed. I want to stay awake.

I get enough sleep, it's just that only about 3-4 hours of it is in bed.

Now I only go to bed when I am so tired that I know I will fall asleep instantly, without the energy to be sad. I try to prolong the day because, recently, my days have been good.

I think my bed is too big for just me.

 

[i_dunno]

I don't know what it is about the night but it definitely gets to me too. I sometimes get a strong sense of emptiness rather than just loneliness; like the world is so infinite and here I am just insignificant and alone. While I know that I have friends around and parents who care about me, I feel small and my existence feels empty.

That's less frequent than nights where I just lie in bed awake and thinking, or rather worrying about the things that I have to do but continue to put off. Then after a few hours I start worrying that I won't wake up in time to go to work or that I'll be mindless all day because I didn't sleep. No doubt it will plague me again tonight. Do you ever get the feeling when the alarm goes off that you don't even think you've fallen asleep for the hours you've been lying there? It's really an awful feeling.

I can relate to kazman that when I started seeing my ex/gf, we would sleep right next to each other, but when we moved in together, she would be able to fall asleep on the other side of the bed with no problem as I would lie there thinking and feeling alone. Now, she is gone and this is it. So, if you can feel lonely lying in the same bed as the person that you love, you have to find a way to get over the problem without having someone in your life. I guess the point is even when you find a great person that you love and can sleep next to, those deep feelings of loneliness can still haunt you 'cause that person may be able to fall sleep at night without any hesitation... Perhaps there's some other way to get past it. I dunno.

Oh and I did like those lyrics that you posted michael. Thanks for sharing that.

 

[lonelygirl]

Hey guys,

Seriously consider getting a kitten or puppy this week if you feel so lonely at night. Animals need love and cuddling and warmth--and you could save an animal's life from the pound. Dogs are more loyal than humans! (Of course, they are less complicated animals, but they make great companions for lonely people!)

 

[Eyael]

I think all lonely people feel like that at night, in bed... For years I felt it, but one night, I remembered turn on the radio while I was trying to sleep, and musics that reminded me of good and pleasant things started to play... Since then, I made a cd with musics that make me feel OK, and I listen to them when I'm trying to sleep... Along side with a pet, it does make all the difference

 

[helen]

I totally agree. Even when my day goes fine, when I go to bed I get really upset and depressed. I usually end up crying in my bed. My cat always comes to sleep with me, and that makes things a little better. She sleeps right on top of me and doesn't even mind when she gets jostled around when I cry. I'm really glad I have her.

if its any consolation elaeagnus, i'm sure your cat is glad to have you too. i really hope you feel better of a night soon.

 

[Gem]

I think alot of people find night times the worst,it gives you too much time to think.I agree with the others though you should defently get an animal,whenever i start to cry or get upset my cats come straight over as if they know i need cheering up.

 

[Hijacc]

Oh I love the night time

 

[Gem]

so do i most of the time i think it can be worse if your tired it just makes u feel 10 times more emotional lol