it's time to give up

[putter65]

Putter, I went to the Ukraine back in 2000.

I got lucky that their family was down to earth and made great friends.

We kept in touch for a long time; but after they moved a couple of times and changed phone numbers, addresses, and what not, we were no longer to keep in touch.

I miss them still and wish I could find them again and I know they feel the same way.

that's good.

You do hear about and see russian with english men. I thought 'why not me ?'

of course my interest has completely gone from the idea.

 

[putter65]

Ive actually enjoyed this week. First time for ages I haven't had to worry about **** like; should I text her ? will she send an email ? Is she a scammer ? Does she like me ? - enjoying this feeling !

 

[putter65]

Ive actually enjoyed this week. First time for ages I haven't had to worry about **** like; should I text her ? will she send an email ? Is she a scammer ? Does she like me ? - enjoying this feeling !

harder than it looks to keep myself to myself.

Ive had 2 offers from women this week. One asked me to coffee, I work with her and don't really enjoy her company that much. Another wanted to play golf. I said I would in a couple of weeks when I feel better. Both of these are 'friends' by the way. The one who wanted to play golf has let me down that many times I don't take her seriously anymore. We were 'playing golf' about hundred times last year only for her to pull out for various reasons.

I know I should have said 'yes' but just don't feel like it at the moment. Prefer to be by myself.

 

[sth]

I wouldn't advise anybody to seek friends using your pc. Best to go out there and have proper conversations.

This is kind of ironic in a funny way. You wouldn't advise people to seek friends online but on the other hand you have no problem seeking a relationship online. I personally think it's just the other way. I think computer can be great for making friends. Of course it's nice if people live nearby and can later on continue with friendship eye to eye. But sadly that's not how it always is.

 

[putter65]

I wouldn't advise anybody to seek friends using your pc. Best to go out there and have proper conversations.

This is kind of ironic in a funny way. You wouldn't advise people to seek friends online but on the other hand you have no problem seeking a relationship online. I personally think it's just the other way. I think computer can be great for making friends. Of course it's nice if people live nearby and can later on continue with friendship eye to eye. But sadly that's not how it always is.

I've tried to meet people online who it's not worked out. I got lied to. So I'm not going to bother again. It might be better for other people I suppose.

 

[ladyforsaken]

Maybe you guys should look to make more friends first, online or offline. Sometimes in that pool of new friends, you might find a sparkling jewel.

I wouldn't advise anybody to seek friends using your pc. Best to go out there and have proper conversations.

Well friendships have got to start somewhere right. Even if they're online, you gotta learn to assess how sincere the other person on the line is. Can be difficult at times, but with the right conversations, and many to experience from, I'm sure one will have the ability to sieve out the more reliable people online. This, of course, doesn't mean you trust them at all. You don't have to give them your trust, but you can start to at least get to know them better and if there's a chance and if you think it's worthwhile, take it offline and make a physical friendship out of it.

pc conversations are proper conversations

nah, just words on a screen. How can you like words on a screen ? Anybody could be writing them !

True, anyone could be writing them. But I guess you try to assess the person behind those words. And yeah I'd think pc conversations are still proper conversations.

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I think computer can be great for making friends. Of course it's nice if people live nearby and can later on continue with friendship eye to eye. But sadly that's not how it always is.

Agreed! I'd love to try and change that. Bring online friendships to offline. Wonder how that's like.