Lonely - Want to die

[lonelyguyinlondon]

Hi all,
I am feeling very lonely , i'm 24 well going to be 25 in 2hr 40 mins , i've never had a girlfriend , i am really sociable , my colleagues regard me as being very funny , i know a few girls from work , but i am more of a friend etc , i let lose at my mum and now she is saying things like why don't i die , i am really fed up , i also masturbate a lot , i want to stop once i get a gf i will stop , i just need a girl to talk to , to have coffee together , go shopping together , i really need a lifeline help ?

 

[cumulus.james]

All too often these posts start off with lonely and then go onto a rant about girls. Not getting laid and being alone in life are not the same thing.

 

[lonelyguyinlondon]

All too often these posts start off with lonely and then go onto a rant about girls. Not getting laid and being alone in life are not the same thing.

Correct , being lonely and not having a girlfriend is entirely different , i am also lonely and need a female companion , all my friends have got gf's , and show of ,i am known as the funny guy , i really don't know where to meet girls

 

[Anten]

they go into rants about women and not getting laid because that is sometimes the by product of not having a companion and feeling lonely. Sex seems to be the linchpin to people's argument that you don't want a relationship you just want sex.

 

[lonelyguyinlondon]

they go into rants about women and not getting laid because that is sometimes the by product of not having a companion and feeling lonely. Sex seems to be the linchpin to people's argument that you don't want a relationship you just want sex.

well no , im more after a companion , some female company , to have lunch , dinner, coffee with etc

 

[Anten]

I was more so commenting on what cumulus.james said.

 

[Lonesome Crow]

Yeah....how the fucken mind work is truely
Amazing...make a mountain out a mole hill
And compound all the negative ****...
Like its automatic without you giving it gas...

Now..why in the **** it dosnt do that with
Positive things?

 

[AFrozenSoul]

You will only stop with the masturbating if you are sexually satisfied. So just getting a girlfriend won't stop it. Hell if she is not putting out it will likely make it worse.

I just say give up. That is what I did. Accept you are not a viable mate, and find a better use for you time... like... uhhh eating... or cleaning... or... well pretty much anything that doesn't involve women. There is not enough benefit for the cost.

 

[Depressedology]

I can understand if some here are fed with the same issues loners go through, but hey lonelyguyinlondon : hang in there, I swear I'm sharing your same boat, Im just turning 24 yr old virgin in 4 days

I'd share this song with you,


and just calm down. focus on another thing for the while, the b!tch is gonna come one day . haha.
please dont kill yourself, we love you because you're alive. c'mon, I see you're like the next-year me... what do you want me to think if you killed yourself? stay strong and keep faith. talk to family, go drink or to a whore house, whatever your mood is just dont melt in your spot!

I wish this phase goes away soon,
All love and best regards again.

~Nas

 

[sylvestris lybica]

I think something a lot of single people miss is that worrying about being single drives people away from you. The more you feel a desperation for companionship, the more likely people are to sense that and avoid you. They may think you're only pursuing a relationship to avoid loneliness, and that's not a good look. I know it sucks, I'm there right now, but you can't stress about this kind of thing. It's the kind of thing you put effort into without stressing about. Kind of like...you don't bend over backwards for every single person you meet, but you do have to be an open person to make friends. Same goes for relationships. If you're relaxed and open, you're more likely to attract the right type of person (and not the kind of leech that feeds off of the lonely and unhappy). There are a lot of people out there who take advantage of a situation like yours too, so good luck.

 

[Nolife Princess]

All too often these posts start off with lonely and then go onto a rant about girls. Not getting laid and being alone in life are not the same thing.

Correct , being lonely and not having a girlfriend is entirely different , i am also lonely and need a female companion , all my friends have got gf's , and show of ,i am known as the funny guy , i really don't know where to meet girls

Don't worry about trying to find them, just be yerself, and let them find you!

 

[Arsenic Queen]

Hi all,
I am feeling very lonely , i'm 24 well going to be 25 in 2hr 40 mins , i've never had a girlfriend , i am really sociable , my colleagues regard me as being very funny , i know a few girls from work , but i am more of a friend etc , i let lose at my mum and now she is saying things like why don't i die , i am really fed up , i also masturbate a lot , i want to stop once i get a gf i will stop , i just need a girl to talk to , to have coffee together , go shopping together , i really need a lifeline help ?

Ok, first, :club:
don't talk about wanting to die if it's just a question of feeling lonely sometimes, and worried about the fact that you never had a girlfriend. There's a start for everything, yours just didn't happen yet. IT WILL.

Second, masturbating is normal. Even if it's everyday. Don't expect it to stop when you have a girlfriend if it's something you enjoy. A normal girlfriend should understand this, heck, most girls masturbate from time to time too. If your relationship (when you have one) is very satisfying sexually, your need for masturbation could happen less often or stop for a time. Or it could become a shared thing.

 

[passage]

I wouldn't say I'm in the opposite boat (that would be cool though), but lately I've found I can attract women (in one on one situations, in social situations I suck), but have no friends. The benefit of your boat is that at least you have friends, and can do things with them, which leads to more opportunities to meet women.

The best thing I ever learnt in school was "What are your goals and what are you doing to achieve them". I'm doubtful that your goal is die. Now assuming your goal(s) is intimate companionship with women, your either doing the wrong things, or too little of the right things. You're an adult, I'm sure you can take it from there.

PS, if you're looking for casual sex, telling a few girls you're a virgin might very well get you laid (it helped for me)

 

[Arsenic Queen]

PS, if you're looking for casual sex, telling a few girls you're a virgin might very well get you laid (it helped for me)

PS: past the age of 30, this trick could work against you and make you appear like a Norman Bates kind of creep.

 

[whispers]

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PS: past the age of 30, this trick could work against you and make you appear like a Norman Bates kind of creep.
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LOL that is so true !!

Beeing suicidal and wanting to die is different, i have been through both. When you start to feel like you want to die, you should use that as a sign and propeller to change something in your life in a positive way.
Join a group, go out for a walk every morning, get out there. Not aiming to meet someone but just for your own enjoyement.
Beeing in a state of ''waiting for something to happen '' freezes you in some way. Just live your live and let life happen as it is meant to.
realy hope you will find a way to feel better.
I understand, alot of us do

 

[SophiaGrace]

Your mother asking you why you don't die is horrible. How anyone could say that to a person is beyond me.

that being said, if i lived closer i would love to spend time with you (possibly, after i make sure you wouldn't hurt me).

uhm, hugs? *hug*

 

[AFrozenSoul]

Beeing suicide and wanting to die is different, i have been through both. When you start to feel like you want to die, you should use that as a sign and propeller to change something in your life in a positive way.
Join a group, go out for a walk every morning, get out there. Not aiming to meet someone but just for your own enjoyment.
Being in a state of ''waiting for something to happen '' freezes you in some way. Just live your live and let life happen as it is meant to.
realy hope you will find a way to feel better.
I understand, alot of us do

The problem with this argument is the fact that it assumes the person in question is socially normal. I have gone out and tried to be more active. I have gone to the gym almost everyday for almost 2 years now. I have no more friends than I had 2 years ago.

You say to let life happen as it should. For the majority of us that is exactly what is happening. Being around others will not assure anything. I hate how people trivialize the issue by saying be more active.

 

[DreamerDeceiver]

Don't let your loneliness defeat you. Make it your ally. Depend on nothing more than the counterbalance, and persevere.

 

[Lost Drifter]

that being said, if i lived closer i would love to spend time with you (possibly, after i make sure you wouldn't hurt me).

 

[Ak5]

That must be really hard, your own mother telling you "why don't you die?".

Death is not the solution, living is.

Hey, every guy wants a girl, it takes time and effort! It makes me very anxious, and I'm sure it does to you as well. Keep your head up high.