Looking for someone in exactly the same situation to talk to on a daily basis..Loneliness sucks.

[Flowerlove95]

Hello people - Please read everything if you really want to send me a message you want to talk add me on LINE Empathy95 is my username or send me an e-mail [email protected]

I'm quite active online but mainly because most people (more than likely) don't read my posts & some people don't ask me any questions.Not everything you see is what It seems to be.If my post is too long to read for you - just simply ignore it instead of sending me another super short message or making me wait over 7 hours only to send me a message 2x shorter than mine - don't get my hopes up If you really are too busy or just simply - feel no need to talk often. Everything you're reading now is here for a reason so please take it seriously! I understand people who don't want to talk to others often - people looking for something completely different and all I'm asking you is to understand what I'm looking for - I don't really want any conflicts
I’m here only because I want to find a friend – life can be tough and we don’t always get what we want.
I used to have so called „friends” but..they’re no longer in my life.Why? I don’t know but let me tell you one thing – A true friend would never just give up on you for no solid reason.What kind of friend would I like to find? What are my expectations?
I would like to meet someone in a similar situation – why? Because I honestly feel like only a person with the same expectations and a similar outlook on life would get along with me. I want to talk to other people on a daily basis mainly because..I want to see someone’s effort and because I don’t want to feel like someone’s last option! Not again.Just to make things clear – I’m NOT forcing anyone to talk to me and I’m fully aware that not everyone has enough time to talk to others often and I know one more thing – not everyone wants to talk to other people on a daily basis which I completely do – UNDERSTAND.I often feel misunderstood by people who read my posts.People always giving me unwanted advice and criticising me are just wrong..I’m not a needy person! What I’m simply suggesting is that It’s always possible to find someone to have a random conversation with – someone willing to send you one message once or twice a week..but..It’s almost impossible to find people willing to make time for you.I’m not asking a busy person to make time for me by changing some plans! Absolutely! I’m here to find someone who wants to talk daily (throughout the day or maybe even night) of one’s own will.Someone looking for the same kind of connection.

Strong friendships are based on mutual support. One of the best things you can do for a friend in need, is just to be there for them when they want to talk.I often see posts from people who always say how friendless they are because they don't feel loved or appreciated by their "friends" remember! A true friend - someone who truly likes you or someone who wants to get to know you - will always find time for you. I have a lot of free time (I don't want anyone to send me a message only out of sympathy or boredom though - friendships shouldn't be forced) so..send me a message only If you want to talk often and If you're a talkative person) I'm not really interested in small talk/short messages - I love long and meaningful messages. It's so easy to find someone who loves abbreviations and questions like "How are you?" How was your day? Or what are you interested in? But so hard/almost impossible to find a person who knows how to keep a conversation going & show others some effort.

• I do NOT respond to any „Hey,hmu” or „u want to talk” type of messages (super short messages or messages full of abbreviations – I literally can’t stand abbreviations and acronyms in text messages)

• I don’t talk to people underage and people way older than me (If you want to know why I just don’t feel comfortable talking to kids and people old enough to be my parents – especially online) 18-35 age range (I'm 26)

• I’m not here to get something off my chest or to find someone to talk to from time to time so If you’re too busy to talk to me or don’t want to talk often..just don’t contact me - I'm not trying to be rude - I just don't want to feel like someone's last option again - I've had enough of "busy friends" which is why now I'm looking for something different

• I’m not looking for a relationship or someone to flirt with so If you want to be „more than friends” find someone else.

• I don’t respond to messages I don’t find interesting which is why I DON’T mind being ghosted by people who think I’m not „for them” being ghosted after exchanging one or two messages doesn’t bother me.What bothers me is being ghosted by someone I like.Being ignored by someone after days or weeks of daily conversations.

• I would rather talk to someone from Europe because Europe is my continent (similar timezones) but even If you’re from the US (for example) but have enough time to talk often –you can send me a message.I just don’t want to wait any longer than 6 or 7 hours to receive a single message that can be typed in a few seconds – max minutes.

Why can’t you see any of my interests listed down below? Because what really matters to me is..who you are (If you’re honest,talkative,understanding,caring and trustworthy – for example) just simply – It matters to me what you’re like! not what you like.Don’t get me wrong – you can tell me what you like or dislike but in my personal opinion common interests are important mainly when you want to find a gaming buddy (for example) or If you want to meet someone to hang out with in real life and..go bowling for example.What most people seem to care about are common interests – I don’t. I get along with other people despite having completely different hobbies but I absolutely don’t get along with people way different than me (different exceptations and outlook on life – some aspects of life – way different sense of humor or personality traits – It’s just an example)
Let me tell you one more thing „why does she have more/different expectations than other people?” Dear people – We ALL can choose what kind of people we’d like to talk to and maybe even become really good friends with and I? I don’t want anyone to be disappointed.We all have some expectations after all.(there are people out there looking for someone to play games with – for example – and I’m not one of them)I’ve met a lot of people forcing themselves to talk to me or talking to me out of boredom and I don’t want to experience anything of that nature ever again.Friendships should be natural – not forced.Both people wanting to be friends should feel comfortable and have something in common.
I'd rather talk to someone in a similar situation.Someone friendless..Don't get me wrong - most people deserve to be happy and It's good to have friends but people who have friends in real life are usually more focused on them & have less time for others.Everyone needs a shoulder to cry on.Sometimes I feel like the only friendless & rejected person in the world.I love warm-hearted people.Sensitive people who always try to understand others.Empathy is everything but please don’t send me a message if you’re another person in a different situation just willing to „help” me.

Imagine never getting any messages from others..always waiting for someone to text you..waiting & waiting..spending most of your time at home (not by choice) I really wish I had at least one person in my life one person who would make me feel important.If you really need someone to talk to due to loneliness and If you have time to talk to me daily (throughout the day and even night)I always make time for others.I'm literally always available.I could even stay up all night long only to talk to someone I’m ready to commit but only If there’s some chemistry between me and someone else.I don’t do anything forcefully.

If you want to talk to me tell me your story - tell me why you're on here and what kind of friend would you like to meet et cetera
One more thing.I’m not looking for any advice – If you don’t want to talk just ignore my post or even block me but don't judge me and don't tell me to change only because of you disagreeing with me.I'm not hurting anyone by being who I am and I'd never change for someone who doesn't even know me.Everyone deserves to find a friend

 

[Adamridge79]

The others on here will probably not believe this, since I always show disdain towards those who have to write an entire chapter. I read yours, and you do mirror some of my own thoughts. And, to compliment what you mentioned more than once, after this next sentence, feel free to ignore the remainder. I don't fit into certain parameters you outlined, age and location specifically. That said, I do understand the want to have someone to react, respond or reply. I do have a surplus of time, but, I use that for myself, because, people have lives, and are not present at the same time, which I get. Now, your thesis on friendship misses a few parameters that people don't often include. Sometimes they don't want to be associated with you, because you made mistakes. Yes, I get to be vague. To be honest, it would be enriching to find someone of a kindred spirit. But, I'm mercurial, so I do tend to be 'on' a lot. I know this only addressed a fraction of your bullet points, but I sure as **** am not clicking on a posted link.

 

[TheRealCallie]

Strong friendships are based on mutual support.

This is very true....except a lot of your post doesn't sound like you would GIVE a hell of a lot of support. Seems like it might be entirely one sided.....

 

[sparkyn98]

I would like to say, Hey! But, also, I do not fit your parameters. East coast USA and 50. However, my last bf was your age. Younger than my oldest 2 sons. Why? Because I'm in shape, love to go to the gym, I'm funny, I'm a big fat nerd who not only has watched everything Marvel, I'm working on DC, too. I've spent hours discussing movies and the multiverse with my boys and friends online. I'm a gamer. I am not GOOD, but I play a few online single person shooter games. I LOVE adventure! Pack a bag for a quick weekend trip? Dude... mine's already packed!!

I guess I'm saying all this (which seemed a little like creating a dating profile... lol) to say, maybe don't limit who your friends "can be". I work with active duty Navy corpsman in their 20s and they are constantly asking me to hang out with them. They text me and I text them back. Again, because we click.

Anyway, I wish you the best of luck, sweety. My circle of close friends closed considerably a few years back. My therapist said it's because I've always been a caretaker and I'm reaching the point that if you don't have my same level of effort, you're not in my inner circle. So, I feel your pain!! Sucks it's happening so young to you!

 

[user 135671]

I didn't read any of these posts they're all way too long and I'm freakin' busy innit

 

[user 148069]

One of the best things you can do for a friend in need, is just to be there for them when they want to talk

be there for them with cheese, crackers and wine or juice...

 

[Finished]

Hello. I had a nearly daily coorespondance with a women for a few years with most messages being several pages long. I put so much of myself into that. However, things went side ways when she didn't like my view on one thing. I suggested we just avoid discussion that issue. But, she kept bringing it up. So, I stated my opinions in a nice matter of fact way. Our communications stopped shortly after that. So, I seriously doubt I will be doing that again. Good luck!

 

[user 188685]

Hello I would love to talk to you,but I do not fit your parameters,I will be 40 in July,I like to stay in shape by walking everyday.

 

[Puppykat56]

um, whoa! I got nothin’…

 

[Seadog63]

It sounds like you want too much from a person. Some people prefer to listen then talk all the time. Others don’t like writing boring essays. I would rather have a short interesting message than a 3 page boring letter.

 

[user 164061]

On a penpals site many years ago i met someone who i exchanged huge messages with. It was basically like a book, but they randomly disappeared after leaving me on read and couldn't even tell me they'd gone on holiday (2 weeks later they told me). After that i don't bother with essay messages anymore and i want friendship with a person who wants to hear my problems and i'll listen to the problems they've got as well. It's like a therapy session, not a friendship even though i fit your parameters.

 

[howdidifindmyselfhere?]

Wow, thats quite a long first post and quite a lot to take in.

Sadly on this occasions I can not help you as by your own words you wouldn't want to talk to me as I don't fit your parameters. Physically I am in my late 40s, (but I'm young at heart), so you just wouldn't want to know, which I totally get and is your choice.

Personnaly, I quite like a quick short message, especially when its with someone you don't really know as it kind of acts as an ice-breaker.

Maybe I am alone here but I certainly don't need to imagine never getting any messages from others, always waiting for someone to text you, been there done that and it totally sucks. It really hurts when it just seems that there is no-one out there thinking of you, but arn't you adding to someones else misery by not responding to messages you don't find interesting? I myself would be sitting here thinking did they get my message, while you're there just completely ignoring the time and effort people have put in.

You are right about one thing, everyone does deserve to find a friend and for some people this comes easy. For me, it takes ages to truly open up and be myself, to truly trust someone and get to know them. How anyone can do this by a single message I've never understand. However, I wish you well in your quest and hope that you find the friend you are looking for out there somewhere.

 

[Butterfly 2]

I just bumped into this thread now. I mean none of the parameters, but I did happen to notice that the original poster joined May 24th and that was also the last time they were here. It's too bad they didn't stick around for any of the feedback or to see if anyone was interested.

 

[Claudia1794]

be there for them with cheese, crackers and wine or juice...

I love cheese and crackers

 

[Claudia1794]

I just bumped into this thread now. I mean none of the parameters, but I did happen to notice that the original poster joined May 24th and that was also the last time they were here. It's too bad they didn't stick around for any of the feedback or to see if anyone was interested.

I’m sure she realized that’s a tall order