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[lukinforsomeone]

Im so over my life at the moment. I feel so lonely sometimes and get really depressed about it.i have a partner who I've been with for 11 years.hes cheated, lied, treated me like trash, I like an *****, I went back. We decided to move country to try to have a fresh start. I thought it would be good for me, but it hasn't turned out that way. Im away from family, have no one to talk to, can't get a job, have no income and for the first time in my life, I've had to rely on him. He's controlling with money, never home, become verbally abusive I've told him I wanna go home but he blackmails me, says I got him into debt and I owe it to him to help him pay it off first.and our past haunts me so much I have nightmares about it.

 

[VanillaCreme]

My advice would be for you to get out. And don't let him isolate you again. Isolation is common in abusive relationships.

 

[Regumika]

He really has nothing to complain about. Debt? That's just the lame excuse he can come up with to try to keep you for his own purposes.

You already said he doesn't treat you well, at all. To leave isn't to "get back" at him, but rather just him reaping what he sowed, a bunch of nothing because he sowed nothing.

I agree with Vanilla, just get out of there.

 

[ctarchives]

Get out now. Trust me, this comes from experience. PM anytime if you like.

 

[Case]

I echo the above sentiments. You need to get out of there.

The article below might help you. And for what it's worth, I'm sorry you're in this situation.

http://heleneltaylor.com/planning-a-safe-escape-from-an-abusive-marriage/