Meeting members.

[TheRealCallie]

I'm not sure that I would. I'd feel bad having to turn down any more women

Yeah, see, now you need to come meet me so I can kick your ***.

 

[user 139760]

Yeah, see, now you need to come meet me so I can kick your ***.

Seriously? One look at that thing and you wouldn't try to kick it. Sorry kid, I don't want to hurt your feelings...

 

[user 181147]

I’ve never met anyone from here, but I haven’t been too active since I joined. There’s the possibility that I would, if I got know some people and were in close proximity.

 

[U-122]

I may be open to it but i'm too shy and withdrawn now. Nobody here that i know of is in my area. I'm definitely not worth meeting and traveling for.

 

[ewomack]

If you don't like me online you REALLY wouldn't like me in person...

 

[ringwood]

I'm 'myself' through a keyboard, but in person? Nah - my shyness and awkwardness would be too overwhelming and by the time I felt comfortable enough to express the real me, everyone would've buggered off home again.

 

[Finished]

I'm a magnified reflection of other people. If someone is a jerk then I'm a complete *******. I seem to be finding all the jerks IRL lately too. If someone is nice. I'm nicer. If someone is quite I just smile. If someone is being bullied I step in. If someone becomes agressive the I become more agressive. If they back off then I back off. But, mostly IRL I just want to do my own thing, be left alone and not be bothered. It is becoming more and more difficult to do that though.

 

[U-122]

I'm a magnified reflection of other people. If someone is a jerk then I'm a complete *******. I seem to be finding all the jerks IRL lately too. If someone is nice. I'm nicer. If someone is quite I just smile. If someone is being bullied I step in. If someone becomes agressive the I become more agressive. If they back off then I back off. But, mostly IRL I just want to do my own thing, be left alone and not be bothered. It is becoming more and more difficult to do that though.

When i first came to this forum i was devastated and i never really recovered but the more i work on my case which involves this disgusting whore neighbor i originally posted about, who destroyed me but also opened my eyes even wider, the more i realize i absolutely need to isolate myself from the evil toxic public here. I really need to exist in solitude and not let loneliness get to me, or else disasters happen. I will never ever allow anyone get close to me again. I don't care how nice they pretend to be. I don't have problems with anyone else who never give me time of day. Nobody here has friends and i no longer complain how they should at least say hello to me because i'm lonely and they are alone/lonely and i wouldn't mind talking to them. I don't want them even looking in my approximate direction and acknowledging my existence. I want them all out of my life.

 

[CenotaphGirl]

Sometimes I have to triple check this bloody thing isn't some dating site in disguise honestly....

 

[U-122]

Sometimes I have to triple check this bloody thing isn't some dating site in disguise honestly....

Yea the kind of site where most members don't want to meet in real life lol

 

[Finished]

When i first came to this forum i was devastated and i never really recovered but the more i work on my case which involves this disgusting whore neighbor i originally posted about, who destroyed me but also opened my eyes even wider, the more i realize i absolutely need to isolate myself from the evil toxic public here. I really need to exist in solitude and not let loneliness get to me, or else disasters happen. I will never ever allow anyone get close to me again. I don't care how nice they pretend to be. I don't have problems with anyone else who never give me time of day. Nobody here has friends and i no longer complain how they should at least say hello to me because i'm lonely and they are alone/lonely and i wouldn't mind talking to them. I don't want them even looking in my approximate direction and acknowledging my existence. I want them all out of my life.

Well, you have to be careful because you'll be riding the edge. After awhile of being alone you get super annoyed by other people.

Nobody is going to help me, not that I want their help. At best nobody is going to bother me. But, mostly people are going to cause me problems and/or grief. So, when someone does something that effects me negatively I quickly get mad especially when there is no good reason for it. Then if they confront me for some reason I get really mad. I didn't used to be like that.

It's like being in a desensitizing chamber for a long time and then all a sudden you get out of it and are over stimulated. The problem is that one can't be 100% alone. Supplies and other items are needed. You will still have to intermingle with other people.

 

[U-122]

Well, you have to be careful because you'll be riding the edge. After awhile of being alone you get super annoyed by other people.

Nobody is going to help me, not that I want their help. At best nobody is going to bother me. But, mostly people are going to cause me problems and/or grief. So, when someone does something that effects me negatively I quickly get mad especially when there is no good reason for it. Then if they confront me for some reason I get really mad. I didn't used to be like that.

It's like being in a desensitizing chamber for a long time and then all a sudden you get out of it and are over stimulated. The problem is that one can't be 100% alone. Supplies and other items are needed. You will still have to intermingle with other people.

I know. I do it in business environment when money is exchanged for something, but that's about it. i mean everyday situation with those who are close to me where there's a chance of having a conversation or even saying hello. like neighbors or strangers that want to try to get close to me for whatever reason. i can't do that anymore.

 

[U-122]

Well, you have to be careful because you'll be riding the edge. After awhile of being alone you get super annoyed by other people.

Nobody is going to help me, not that I want their help. At best nobody is going to bother me. But, mostly people are going to cause me problems and/or grief. So, when someone does something that effects me negatively I quickly get mad especially when there is no good reason for it. Then if they confront me for some reason I get really mad. I didn't used to be like that.

It's like being in a desensitizing chamber for a long time and then all a sudden you get out of it and are over stimulated. The problem is that one can't be 100% alone. Supplies and other items are needed. You will still have to intermingle with other people.

Where i am now one doesn't need much to get problems and grief. One simply needs to get involved with other individuals. It could start with a simple hello, like in my case. All i had to do was walk away and not chit chat because loneliness was killing me. A simple "hello" made my life even worse.

 

[TheSkaFish]

I'm 'myself' through a keyboard, but in person? Nah - my shyness and awkwardness would be too overwhelming and by the time I felt comfortable enough to express the real me, everyone would've buggered off home again.

I can relate to this. Behind a keyboard I have time to think about what I'm going to say and I can express myself clearly. In real time, it's a lot harder, you have to think faster, you have to think on your feet which I don't feel has ever been my strongest suit.

It takes a long time for me to be comfortable with another person, to "tune" myself to them so to speak. Even my good home friends, we didn't start out laughing and joking and all that right away. It takes a while for me to warm up to people in general - especially because I'm still trying to find myself/know myself/figure out who I really am, all the while.

 

[sparkyn98]

Where i am now one doesn't need much to get problems and grief. One simply needs to get involved with other individuals. It could start with a simple hello, like in my case. All i had to do was walk away and not chit chat because loneliness was killing me. A simple "hello" made my life even worse.

Sounds like the small town I live in... where everyone knows someone and they all want to be in each other's business. I can't stand it.
I have no problem isolating and my circle of friends is extremely small.

 

[NoxApex(N/A)]

I no longer meet people in person I've met online, despite my loving interest in people I meet online to do so. Or rather, I put it through preliminary filters instead. Requiring a long time of getting to know each other and becoming comfortable with being friends that webcam chat first. My reasoning for this is that I actually got robbed at gunpoint by someone I met online once over a business deal. It really messed me up mentally for several years, and so now because of that I'm super finicky about my online identity transgressing into my IRL identity.

 

[ewomack]

Yes, I'm here to remain anonymous. As such, I don't really have any intention of meeting anyone here in person, or I'm at least not planning on it. I don't really share a lot of personal information about myself with people in "real life." Many of the stories I've shared here I've never shared anywhere else. So it feels much safer to stay anonymous. I would probably feel extremely uncomfortable if I were to meet someone from here, knowing what I've posted here. That's also why I'll never share a picture of myself (you'll have to make do with the hedgehog). Besides, we all live in different corners of the world, we'll likely never meet in any case. So that feels safe. But I do enjoy the virtual interaction and people can find some solace and support here despite the digital atmosphere.

 

[Nicolelt]

For curiosities sake, has anyone met another member from within the forums. Do any of us live remotely close enough that this might be plausible. If it were an option, would you be willing.

I live 20 mins from another member. Have mutual friends on facebook.....but we have never met lol.

 

[Zorananda]

I would meet IRL if I got to know someone or if it was a group meeting in a public place. I'm willing to chat with people if they send me a message.

However, I don't expect it would result in any major changes for me. I think as time passed I've veered farther and farther away from the current social constructions of normality and probably have personality flaws that have worsened over time due to having few friends in youth and then no friends for over a decade (after being badly raised by two loser parents). Every time I tried to make friends in the past 15 yrs or so the people turned out to be psychopaths (one was a proud self-labeled psychopath, the other was just way mentally ill), ******** looking to dominate someone, snivellers keen to excercise what little opportunity for snobbery they can exercise on someone "living" on their knees, or people who just have nothing in common with me and have no desire to cultivate a friendship with someone who, objectively, is existing in several forms of poverty.

 

[Beth Griggs]

I’ve never met anyone from here, but I haven’t been too active since I joined. There’s the possibility that I would, if I got know some people and were in close proximity.

I am not at all shy and would be open to meet people I have enough in common with, but whenever someone online has asked to meet up they never consider that you need to have enough in common and always want to rush into meeting based on us being just two people online!