My life is a mess...

[Cavey]

What I am saying to you is to never give up and not to put so much importance on being in a relationship. Love often happens when you least expect it...

Oh but I didn't. I never was that guys that is constantly looking for a relationship. I waited, and waited, and waited, until now. I will turn 22 soon and I feel that my life is passing by me without me taking advantage of it. I see 40 years old peoples here with similar problems as me. With all due respect, I don't want to end up like them. This is not life...

I get where you're coming from - few people enjoy being alone - but while you are, concentrate on yourself. Try to challenge yourself to do things you wouldn't/couldn't ordinarily do. Take small steps every day to build your confidence. The more confident you appear, the more approachable you become and with that will hopefully come the friends and relationships you desire.

If nothing else, take comfort from the fact that many people here are suffering from similar problems and many others once did.

 

[PrinceOfPeace]

What I am saying to you is to never give up and not to put so much importance on being in a relationship. Love often happens when you least expect it...

Oh but I didn't. I never was that guys that is constantly looking for a relationship. I waited, and waited, and waited, until now. I will turn 22 soon and I feel that my life is passing by me without me taking advantage of it. I see 40 years old peoples here with similar problems as me. With all due respect, I don't want to end up like them. This is not life...

My post isnt aimed at anyone in particular but anyone who reads this and finds them selves in a similar boat, Attitude accounts for so much, you ever notice how successful people are quite vibrant, lively outgoing and zesty they see opourtunity & charge into it without fear of failure, their personality has a great deal of positiveness about it & therefore people want to be around them all the time because its attractive & intoxicating now take a moment to think about the opposite of that.... A person who is sad, dull & somber sits back and waits never taking opourtunitys for fear of failure, unattractive & depressing to be around, maybe its time to make a few positive changes in your life, if u never take the time to change anything the results will never be any differnt & at 40 you will still be in the same place, be bold be strong because you have beautiful & attractive qualities in side you just waiting to burst out!

 

[perfanoff]

^ True and true.

+1

 

[Insomnia]

I've been lurking around here for a few weeks now and found some stories that I could relate to, but this.. Damn, this is like the story of my life except that I'm one year younger than you. Even the thing about video games and my age when my parents got divorced is identical..

About that thing with the father figure, I've been trying to figure this out for a while now since we don't really have a lot of contact anymore and the relationship with the guy is strained, to say the least.

My conclusion is that I can't really blame the man for the way my life isn't working out right now. What I believe is that if you take a lot of "wrong" decisions early on in your life (like isolating yourself a lot, not managing to gather up the nerve to talk to girls or failing to obtain a group of close friends etc.), it might snowball against you and take some extraordinary efforts to correct later on. I think a lot about when/how my life went south and how to fix it, but so far I've not come up with a viable solution.. My hope for now is starting University this fall, maybe I can change things then.

I guess you really reminded me of myself.. Anyway, I hope you turn things around and try to not let depression get to you.. :>