My Pathetic Life...

[JP88]

I'm almost 18 and in college and have no girl in my life...In fact since Middle School (6th grade), I haven't had a girl in my life. And the only reason I did back then was because it was when we were 11/12

My parents think I'm gay, I can tell my dad is very dissapointed because he is a pervert. I'm too shy and I have very low self-esteem...I'm convinced I have Asperger's, because I am a horrible conversationalist and go into a shell when I see new people.

I go to community college and if my one friend at the school isn't with me, I sit alone or pretend to be busy texting, even though I just scroll through all my menu screens.

I was picked on althrough Middle and High School and I feel like that has hindered any chance to build my skills w/ meeting girls and new people in general.

It's sad when you don't even have a number of a girl...I'm very depressed, my parents get upset w/ me and keep bringing it up...I'm a wreck, basically. Last week there were about 3 girls at college I have tried to talk to/failed to talk to....I just don't know how to interact with girls.

I just don't understand how to befriend a girl...I don't and I just wish I could figure it out. I know I have to keep trying but I'm just not comfortable at all.

I would appreciate any advice

Thanks

 

[It was Mine]

I know the burdens that weigh you down seem so impossible to get through. In time the load will become lighter, this I'll guarantee. It sounds like you struggle with girls, as do all or most of us on this forum. You are on the right track though, you know what stops you from successes, now you just have to build up yourself.

Things won't change over night, but it's easy to over come your shyness of girls at least. I would start by trying to make girls as your friends and nothing more. I know it sounds like it's defeating the purpose but it'll give you a great start into what girl are like. They aren't some strange beast that's for sure....mind you don't get discouraged if a few won't even let you say hello to them. Just stuff we all go through it's natural. So don't let that bug you.

I wouldn't let your parents get under your skin about it either, in their minds they are trying to help you, not discourage you. I have huge self esteem issues too, but they are slowly passing. It's day by day, and I take risks because even when I get that expected rejection or embarrassment I know I gave it a try. I proved to myself I tried, And how else will you learn if not by your mistakes. So it may not be the greatest most inspiring thing ever, but I say start taking those risks you see as blocking you, and you will fall, more than once. but you now, that's the great thing about being a human being...we'll always get back up again.

 

[Remedy]

I feel the same way man and don't worry too much you're only 18 and have plenty of time to develop into what you want to become. Community college seems like a better start for getting where you want to get than a university because everyone just seems to party a lot at those colleges. It would be like tossing yourself into the fire instead of gently guiding yourself through.

My parents aren't nearly as bad but treat me like I'm never gonna have a girlfriend or have kids in the future.They act as if that my sister is the only one who's going to supply them with grandchildren so I sort of know how you feel.

I guess it just comes down to the fact that we all have to keep trying like the saying "practice makes perfect".I also agree with it was mine that your parents are just trying to help you but they are definitely doing it in the wrong way. I don't really know what else to say because I'm basically in the same predicament as you but I wish you the best of luck.

 

[RebeccaSarah33]

"They aren't some strange beast that's for sure"

haha I wouldn't be so sure of that hahahaha sometimes I feel like a strange beast rawr!