omarlittle
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Hey all. So I came across this forum and I decided to give it a shot because it seems like a lot of people here are on the same boat as me. Let me just give a short introduction of my situation first...
I'm a 23 year old guy who just finished up school and just started a new job relevant to my field of study. It's a good job and for a starting salary, I'm making pretty good money I guess. But I'm still not too happy with my life...I've always been a quiet, somewhat introverted kid growing up and I think that's part of the reason why it was so hard making close friends growing up. All throughout middle school, high school, and college I made friends but they never seemed like the type of friends who I can talk to every day about any topic. As a result, now that I finished up school, I've grown apart from them, maybe only connect with them every now and day...but theres no real urge on either side to reconnect. I've never had a best friend. As a result, I'm sitting here worried about the lack of true friends I have at this age.
My shyness and lack of confidence has also made me terrible with the ladies. I always get flustered, nervous, and awkward whenever I talk to a pretty girl. And now I feel that it's super weird that at the ripe old age 23, I have never been with a woman.
Luckily I have a family that I love very much, but even with them I feel like I cant talk about this stuff...I dont want to burden them with my problems and I feel like its something I need to address by myself.
Bottom line is this: I like being alone, but I hate being lonely. Meaning, there are times where I do find pleasure in having my own personal "me-time" but I do wish I had someone, whether a girlfriend, or at least a couple of close friends that I can talk to about anything and do fun stuff with. I'm not depressed, rather I always look back at the past and regret things and opportunities that I felt I missed out on. And I'm constantly worried about what my future holds and if I'll feel like this forever. As a result I cant enjoy the present. And it certainly doesnt help seeing people on facebook enjoying their lives and doing things I wish I could do.
Sorry for this rambling rant...I understand if you decide to just skip reading the whole thing
but it kinda feels good typing this stuff out that I cant seem to tell to another human being.
Anyways, I'm excited to be on this forum and look forward to chatting with you all
I'm a 23 year old guy who just finished up school and just started a new job relevant to my field of study. It's a good job and for a starting salary, I'm making pretty good money I guess. But I'm still not too happy with my life...I've always been a quiet, somewhat introverted kid growing up and I think that's part of the reason why it was so hard making close friends growing up. All throughout middle school, high school, and college I made friends but they never seemed like the type of friends who I can talk to every day about any topic. As a result, now that I finished up school, I've grown apart from them, maybe only connect with them every now and day...but theres no real urge on either side to reconnect. I've never had a best friend. As a result, I'm sitting here worried about the lack of true friends I have at this age.
My shyness and lack of confidence has also made me terrible with the ladies. I always get flustered, nervous, and awkward whenever I talk to a pretty girl. And now I feel that it's super weird that at the ripe old age 23, I have never been with a woman.
Luckily I have a family that I love very much, but even with them I feel like I cant talk about this stuff...I dont want to burden them with my problems and I feel like its something I need to address by myself.
Bottom line is this: I like being alone, but I hate being lonely. Meaning, there are times where I do find pleasure in having my own personal "me-time" but I do wish I had someone, whether a girlfriend, or at least a couple of close friends that I can talk to about anything and do fun stuff with. I'm not depressed, rather I always look back at the past and regret things and opportunities that I felt I missed out on. And I'm constantly worried about what my future holds and if I'll feel like this forever. As a result I cant enjoy the present. And it certainly doesnt help seeing people on facebook enjoying their lives and doing things I wish I could do.
Sorry for this rambling rant...I understand if you decide to just skip reading the whole thing
but it kinda feels good typing this stuff out that I cant seem to tell to another human being. Anyways, I'm excited to be on this forum and look forward to chatting with you all
