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Solitary man
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This morning I **** in a bag and deposited the content in a grassy area up the street from where I live. I did this because there's a guy who throws his dog **** into my garden (in a bag) every so often, and he plays with his dogs in the grassy area up the street. So if I have to pick his dog **** up from my garden, he's going to pick my **** up from the grassy area where he plays with his dogs.
MrLonely86
Well-known member
Not today, but 2 days ago , I recorded few simple guitar riffs for my online cloud service.
I feel like we all need some sort of update on this story
Finally got my car in for a tune up and four new tires.
TheSkaFish
Jedi Guardian
I ran 3 times since coming back from my brother's, twice since my friends' holiday party, and once since the start of the new year.
Do you do any other sports, as well? Just curious
TheSkaFish
Jedi Guardian
Do you do any other sports, as well? Just curious
Nein. Well, at least not right now.
I used to play tennis, softball, ultimate frisbee, basketball, just casually in the parks with my friends.
Not on a league or anything. It was fun but we weren't serious about it.
I wouldn't really say I have an athletic body, but I do care about my health, and maintaining some level of being in shape.
I don't really like to sit around all day.
I know I always feel better when I get done exercising. I feel like I did something positive for myself.
As not-great as my mental health is, I think it would be even worse if I didn't exercise at all.
I just wish I never quit after high school.
If I stuck with it I might not have fallen into despair in the first place.
Sure, but how much relevance does that line of thinking really have? Just because you fell into despair once doesn't mean you're stuck there forever. It's really up to you, though, and that's the thing that you have to realise, I believe. I saw your posts yesterday, and it seems to me that you agreed, a long time ago, that you're a failure, and everything's a failure, and no matter what idea comes to mind, you automatically see how it's going to be a failure. That's an automatic belief that you accidentally accepted as truth at some point. However, a belief is just a thought you've repeated to yourself often enough. You can just as easily implement a new belief, and that can happen today.
You're not stuck in despair anymore if you decide that today you've stepped out of it. If exercising is one (or even the only) mental anchor for you, then exercise. Do the kind of sport that gives you joy. Try a new one every month or every other week and see what happens (something may ignite a new passion in you). You don't even have to leave the house. You may have seen me say that before (to other people), but I do all my workouts in my own living room, and loving it!
What I would love for you to understand is expressed best by this quote I once read: "There is no magic place to get your mind right. When you feel like sh*t, everything you see looks like sh*t."
This is you. You're interpreting everything that comes to you through the pair of metaphorical glasses you're wearing. That's why you think everything is always going to end in failure, no matter what you try. It's not true, though. It's YOUR interpretation. Nothing that shows up has inherent meaning. Two people can look at the exact same situation and come up with opposing interpretations - that's how you know nothing is inherently true, and there's always a different perspective to look at things.
It's just that YOU have to start looking at things differently first. You can't wait for something to magically show up to change your mindset, it's never going to happen that way. You see what you expect to see
Well, I hadn't planned on writing any of this at all, but for what it's worth - here it is. Please don't feel like I'm expecting a response, because I really don't. I hope you read it all the way through and maybe, whether consciously or unconsciously, it left a seed somewhere within. That's all I ever hope for.
Have a good Sunday
