TheRealCallie said:
Hate to break this to you, but real estate people ARE busy on the weekends. They have open houses and show people other houses on the weekends because they work during the week. I have friends who work in real estate. They ARE busy on the the weekends.
I'm sorry, but you sure do throw people away for the slightest reason. You may want to look into why you do....
^^ Hey listen. Yes, I do know that realtors are busy during the weekend.
However, in subsequent text messages, I have asked her to have lunch or dinner together. Nothing more, none of this "let's walk in the park together."
Last week, one of the days was my birthday. She said that she would treat me for a meal for my birthday.
Come two days ago, I wish her happy Chinese new year, because of her ethnic background and our culture.
She only responded with a "hi, I hope your trip was great." and that was it!
So oh well, I came to grips to realize that she doesn't like me.
However, there are other girls I have messaged, and am currently dating, so forget about that other girl.
Northern Lights said:
Are you still responding to messages from other women?
I think that you are emotionally investing yourself too much into this person who is a stranger. She could actually be busy or is just making excuses. At this point, it's not clear (to me) but time will tell. You have made it clear that you are interested and available so if she does not take up your offer then that is her loss. I'd suggest keeping in touch with her but give her space for now.
As for looks, as long as you are not repulsed by the thought of kissing/ ***/ romance with a person then I think it is possible for attraction to grow if she has a complementary personality, goals and beliefs to yours. There are people who I did not find attractive at first but they became more attractive with time.
As for "thickness", many people gain weight over the years. I have a conventionally "beautiful" family member and she is honest-to-god batshit crazy with a terrible personality. Men initially are attracted to her for her beauty and overlook her flaws at first. However, with time, they realize that she is not a good person to be with (she's verbally abusive etc.) and that looks aren't everything.
^^ Hey Northernlights, yes, I am still mainly sending out private messages to women on the dating website I have been using.
No luck at all for the past four weeks. There was one girl who wanted to meet up with me after my trip back home. I even gave her my phone number via personal message to send me a text message. I have not heard from that girl. I'm actually bummed and depressed right now because I just turned 34 years old, half of my life is freaking gone, and I still don't have a person whom I can call my true/bona fide girlfriend. No, I'm not looking for "friends" or platonic relationship.
Look wise, I liked the third girl who finally met with me for dinner about a month ago. This was the girl who texted me that she was sick and couldn't make it to dinner on Dec 29th. I kept pestering her, and we finally had one (and last) dinner date together. I thought she liked me, but a hint that she didn't want to continue the relationship was that she thought I was ethnic Chinese (when I'm Korean).
We have been texting each other on and off. I really did like her, she looked pretty, and was kind of tall (a tad shorter than me) and had a good career going for her.
Unfortunately, when I ask her questions about simply meeting up for lunch or dinner, she avoids answering those questions. Hence, I have come to terms, and realize that she doesn't like me. I guess I'm in the "friendzone" for her.
Lastly, in terms of thick women, I am turned off by women with big bellies and flabby thighs.
The first two women I have met on the dating website were fat, and their profile pictures/photos LIED about their body type.
