online dating?

[evanescencefan91]

soI've been using an online website for a while

and I recently have started messaging between a few people, and I've gotten messages back, yay

one person I've been messaging since about christmas she's a little older than me, average looking likes buffy and movies, and goes to the UI

another girl, I've started chatting with for the last couple days she's my age, she goes to kirkwood community college, plays guitar, likes gulf and tennis, really pretty cute, but kinda immature from what I can tell from her profile

but basically, how long until it's okay to meet in person, if not for a date at least like a meetup, and um
yaa

I guess I mean I'm okay atm I've got some friendss and studies, I don't need a girlfriend, but i donno, i guess it'd be cool to see what it's like

although for the whole kiss thing, I'm going to have to try and get over the fact the human mouth is probably the most bacteria ridden place in the entire body

AHH,

or well, maybe just someone to cuddle with,
...and that's what stuffed animals are for

 

[LGH1288]

Hi EF91 -- Try to avoid focusing on the bacterial issue cuz it'll become a fixation. Once you meet someone in person you'll know if they have good oral hygiene! I agree that is very important. But, my advice is to hold off on the relationship stuff until after you graduate. Why? You said, "I don't need a girlfriend" so then why complicate your educational focus? There's plenty of time after graduation to get involved in a relationship. Don't get off track from your main goal. If you fall for someone and she breaks your heart it'll just make school even tougher. Yes, school friends are cool but IMO your primary concern should be to study hard and graduate. LG

 

[SofiasMami]

Hi-
I've been on a few online dating sites for about 5 months or so now. Before that, I was single for 4 years. I think if you meet someone online and send a few messages back and forth, it's fine to meet for coffee (I call it "date zero") to see if there's any chemistry or if they have green teeth (kidding)
A new person in your life can take up a lot of time and energy so just make sure you have the time with your studies, that should be your priority now!
And if you're really worried about germs, don't shake hands, there are far more bugs on one's hands than on the lips!

Teresa

 

[Kataphractos]

I've always been kind of leery of dating sites, but good luck to you.

although for the whole kiss thing, I'm going to have to try and get over the fact the human mouth is probably the most bacteria ridden place in the entire body

Fun fact: There are more bacteria/microbes in your body than there are cells that make your body up.

Sleep well

 

[Lonesome Crow]

Theres no set rules Sweetie.
Move on ur own pace. Relationships takes time to grow. Kind of like taking care of a plant...cant water it tto much or too much sunshine...but cant ignore it either.
whatever u feel comfortiable with.
How did u get so luckie?
How come I never get a chick that plays guitar

I didnt have any luck beyound on line or talking on the phone with relationships like that...but it still helped me. Those relationships could had grown beyound those stages iif we wanted to. Just becuz it didnt worked for me..dosnt mean it wont work for you.
So Im doing it the OLD fashion way.
Im OLD school.lol
Yeah..its freaky when a chick wanna suck on my tongue for the first time.
Good luck ...
Ur having fun...No?
its all good then...

 

[jales]

Well if you have friends at uni, or anyone you are close to..and you are a bit scared about meeting the girls (from online) in person. Meet them with friends, invite them to a party, or a movie get-together or something like that.

Meet them with people you know around you.
Good Luck.

Also I think online dating is great. That way you can only meet people that you are really interested in

 

[evanescencefan91]

Fun fact: There are more bacteria/microbes in your body than there are cells that make your body up.

Sleep well

haha i actually have heard that before thanks for reminding me

thanks for the replies guys

I don't really plan on anything really soon, but I'll let you guys know if anything happens

 

[Nina]

EvanF have fun and enjoy exchanging with the new folks. You'll know when the time is right for a meeting. Then enjoy that too!

 

[tangerinedream]

Good luck to you, EvFan.

As for me...

Online dating: I WILL NEVER DO IT AGAIN

The last time I fell for someone I met online (not even a dating site), I wasted nearly a year of my life becoming emotionally invested in someone who, as it turned out, was not fit for any sort of relationship. That's from the horse's mouth, even. Gee, sweetie, I wish you had told me about this, um, way back in the beginning and we could have spared my heart being broken - AGAIN.

Hell, after the almost-year I've had with him, I wouldn't even give him a dog to take care of, let alone my heart.

 

[jales]

@tangerinedream
dont say never,

the last time i dated a guy who I met in person he ripped my heart out as well. After almost a year of dating the moment he got sex ..yea I know.. I take long.. but yea he was gone. He was there for one reason and completely lied to me till he got what he wanted. This guy messed with my mind on so many levels it is hard for people to believe it when I tell the story. He did not care about me. And I doubt he cared about the other females he was with AT THE SAME TIME.

Yes, it was not only a wasted year..relationship wise, it was a waste of tears, and it was a whole lot of heart ache and it left scares that arent even fully healed yet.

But what if I had said.. I will never date a guy from Real Life again?
That would make no sense. We are all different. Online people can be *******s, the guy next door can be a ******* as well.
There are pros and cons to each experience.

 

[Mary Mary]

evanescencefan91: I've done a lot of online dating, but I haven't said much because I imagine dating men is different from dating women. For example, if a man takes the time to email, he's already decided he wants to meet you; but that's not true for women (at least, according to the men). Also, there's an element of risk when dating men, which definitely effects the dynamics. Therefore, I haven't said much because I didn't know if I could offer anything meaningful, but I did think of something.

If you don't want to give your actual phone number out, you can get a google voice number. You can program it so that when someone calls that number, it rings through whatever phone that you want it to. You can also call from the website; so if they have caller ID, they'll see that number. (You would have to *67 [block caller ID] them if you call from your cell phone.)

I've had it for about six months. Works great.

 

[jales]

@Mary mary. Good advice.

 

[Mr. Sir]

Looks are extremely important when it comes to online dating. Post a pic that shows that bod.

 

[alonewanderer]

Just use photoshop or someone else's pic since that's the norm online.