Passive aggression

[0mgofhappiness]

Passive aggressive presents like
Boots
Coats
A broken clothes rail
Piano
Batteries
Cat litter
Cat collar
Secondhand clothes
Old LP's
Make up ( telling me I am ugly) which I know already but that was harsh. He knows how I feel about my looks
Conversations that meant nothing to him but everything to me when I was feeling lonely

Genuine replies might help. I've already had the see a quack response. How about when I am alone after an hour with a doctor? Yes I can have a hobby. But I have literally been rejected in the worse way possible that I did see coming. He told me over and over how much he liked me after countless times of me thinking he didn't due to the above passive aggressive behaviour towards me. What the hell was his intentions for 3 years !

 

[Hoarse Whisperer]

It's impossible to know what was going on in his head. Sometimes relationships just aren't meant to be. A relationship is a two-way exchange in which both parties must feel emotional and physical attraction as well as security, trust, and chemistry. Sometimes these feelings fade for one person or both.

Also trust me when I say that men tend to be stupid when it comes to gifts we give to the women in our lives. One of my best friends from back where I used to live wanted to give his girlfriend of 3 years a t-shirt that said "I (potleaf) Cali" because his girlfriend's name was Kali and they liked smoking pot. That was the only gift he planned to give his girlfriend of three years. Because he was stupid. Only my guidance preserved his dignity when he got her jewelry instead.

My point is that we just can't know why people do the things they do but you shouldn't assume it's because you're less than he was. The problem could have been on his end.

 

[0mgofhappiness]

It's impossible to know what was going on in his head. Sometimes relationships just aren't meant to be. A relationship is a two-way exchange in which both parties must feel emotional and physical attraction as well as security, trust, and chemistry. Sometimes these feelings fade for one person or both.

Also trust me when I say that men tend to be stupid when it comes to gifts we give to the women in our lives. One of my best friends from back where I used to live wanted to give his girlfriend of 3 years a t-shirt that said "I (potleaf) Cali" because his girlfriend's name was Kali and they liked smoking pot. That was the only gift he planned to give his girlfriend of three years. Because he was stupid. Only my guidance preserved his dignity when he got her jewelry instead.

My point is that we just can't know why people do the things they do but you shouldn't assume it's because you're less than he was. The problem could have been on his end.

Yes I had a strong suspicion he had more than one other woman on the go but he continued to say he didn't whole my gut instinct was telling me he did.

Maybe she worked overseas. For the time he was constantly in contact with me. Or perhaps he was sat in a room full of other men taking the Mick out of me because I am.below him. I am council house trash, he is of high standing.

I thought this forum may have helped me find people that are going through similar situations but all I seem to find is pics of dogs and cats and speaking about things in hidden code (dog, cat) etc

Is this a help forum or just a general hang out to take the P out of people that have no friends ?

 

[okidoke]

Do you know how to search a forum? There are threads dedicated to certain issues.

 

[TheRealCallie]

Is this a help forum or just a general hang out to take the P out of people that have no friends ?

Sorry, but "hanging out" IS helpful. So why exactly can't it be both?

 

[0mgofhappiness]

Sorry, but "hanging out" IS helpful. So why exactly can't it be both?

Ok, ring leader alert. Maybe it's best we mite each other then. I am sorry for the inconvenience caused.

 

[Hoarse Whisperer]

Yes I had a strong suspicion he had more than one other woman on the go but he continued to say he didn't whole my gut instinct was telling me he did.

Maybe she worked overseas. For the time he was constantly in contact with me. Or perhaps he was sat in a room full of other men taking the Mick out of me because I am.below him. I am council house trash, he is of high standing.

I thought this forum may have helped me find people that are going through similar situations but all I seem to find is pics of dogs and cats and speaking about things in hidden code (dog, cat) etc

Is this a help forum or just a general hang out to take the P out of people that have no friends ?

I'm going to be completely sincere with you because I would want someone to be sincere with me. The way you portray yourself to others may have something to do with the way men see you. You have called yourself trash, garbage, less than in two threads now in less than ten minutes. I understand feeling worthless and subhuman, believe me. But people only see what you project from yourself into the universe. Nobody knows if you're secretly confident, afraid, brave, terrified, happy, sad, indifferent. All they know is what you tell them you're feeling. If you constantly tell people that you suck, people are going to assume the worst. Project the self that you want people to see when they look at you.

 

[Hoarse Whisperer]

I thought this forum may have helped me find people that are going through similar situations but all I seem to find is pics of dogs and cats and speaking about things in hidden code (dog, cat) etc

Is this a help forum or just a general hang out to take the P out of people that have no friends ?

This is a forum with on topic and off topic threads used for lonely individuals to find people with similar interests. Sometimes we talk about our depression and sometimes we want to introduce ourselves to a new forum member by talking about music and pets. Hope this helps!

 

[0mgofhappiness]

I'm going to be completely sincere with you because I would want someone to be sincere with me. The way you portray yourself to others may have something to do with the way men see you. You have called yourself trash, garbage, less than in two threads now in less than ten minutes. I understand feeling worthless and subhuman, believe me. But people only see what you project from yourself into the universe. Nobody knows if you're secretly confident, afraid, brave, terrified, happy, sad, indifferent. All they know is what you tell them you're feeling. If you constantly tell people that you suck, people are going to assume the worst. Project the self that you want people to see when they look at you.

I have gone from being married to a man that

This is a forum with on topic and off topic threads used for lonely individuals to find people with similar interests. Sometimes we talk about our depression and sometimes we want to introduce ourselves to a new forum member by talking about music and pets. Hope this helps!

I

I'm going to be completely sincere with you because I would want someone to be sincere with me. The way you portray yourself to others may have something to do with the way men see you. You have called yourself trash, garbage, less than in two threads now in less than ten minutes. I understand feeling worthless and subhuman, believe me. But people only see what you project from yourself into the universe. Nobody knows if you're secretly confident, afraid, brave, terrified, happy, sad, indifferent. All they know is what you tell them you're feeling. If you constantly tell people that you suck, people are going to assume the worst. Project the self that you want people to see when they look at you.

Why is it that I have held down relationships with men that did not view me the way one man has. The ratio is off? He told me I was ugly, smelly, took photos without me knowing of my female bits to show his friends at work. I have had children, of you are a woman. You will know what happens unless you can afford surgery down there. I can't prove it but since dating that man all men give me strange looks. He is forever talking about the female anatomy! He hated my body. Other men seemed quite happy with me. I have 4 children to prove that ! But I can't move on. He must have told other men I am a transvestite or something else. Maybe he told them I have aids ? So they won't go near me. None of it makes sense. Ot all happened after meeting one man online no I have lost everything. Of you want to be sincere and it will be appreciated. But after 3 years of stringing me along. He ends what we had with :ill send you some batteries'. He thinks I am a desperate fool when I have had plenty of men that thought the world of me on the past.

I came on here because this forum is called lonliness and depression. Everyone seems very pleased with themselves on here and happy. Am I in the wrong place ?

 

[okidoke]

.... Everyone seems very pleased with themselves on here and happy. Am I in the wrong place ?

I think you're just choosing to see what you want to see. I am neither of those things, as aren't so many others. Whenever we try to be helpful to you, you turn it the wrong way. You haven't answered my question in your other thread btw. I was sincere about you needing to sit down with a professional and then you gave a non-answer. We're trying to help.

 

[Hoarse Whisperer]

I have gone from being married to a man that

I

Why is it that I have held down relationships with men that did not view me the way one man has. The ratio is off? He told me I was ugly, smelly, took photos without me knowing of my female bits to show his friends at work. I have had children, of you are a woman. You will know what happens unless you can afford surgery down there. I can't prove it but since dating that man all men give me strange looks. He is forever talking about the female anatomy! He hated my body. Other men seemed quite happy with me. I have 4 children to prove that ! But I can't move on. He must have told other men I am a transvestite or something else. Maybe he told them I have aids ? So they won't go near me. None of it makes sense. Ot all happened after meeting one man online no I have lost everything. Of you want to be sincere and it will be appreciated. But after 3 years of stringing me along. He ends what we had with :ill send you some batteries'. He thinks I am a desperate fool when I have had plenty of men that thought the world of me on the past.

I came on here because this forum is called lonliness and depression. Everyone seems very pleased with themselves on here and happy. Am I in the wrong place ?

This forum is what you make of it. There are several of us that would happily sit and talk with you about your feelings and experiences but you need to be willing to actually read, comprehend, and take in what we're offering. Immediately assuming that you're being insulted in the present because you were in the past is a short road that leads to loneliness and despair. It took me a year of therapy to come to that realization and I hope you can receive it easier than I did.