Physical Affection

[Codyjm]

I was just wondering about other peoples experiences with physical affection in their relationships. I never used to think about it very much, and it wasn't a large factor in my life, but after going through my first emotionally serious relationship, I realized it's a pretty big thing, at least for me. I dunno if it's like that for other people. I'll hold off on my story.

 

[edgecrusher]

i wish i had something to share on this topic.

 

[Drama]

Edit: sorry.

 

[Poueff]

I had physical affection without being in a relationship. Counts?

 

[A new life]

No big deal when you have it and take it for granted.
But when it vanishes..............................

 

[Codyjm]

I had physical affection without being in a relationship. Counts?

Definitely. I've received tons more physical affection from non-sexual people in my life, and I think it's had more of an impact on my being. I guess I include "I love you's" too (it's verbal I suppose) and anything like that. I spose when I said relationships I was narrowing it down too much...

 

[SofiasMami]

Hi-
Without physical affection, I feel like I'm shriveling up into a non-entity. I can't live without it. But I get it many ways, not necessarily from a man in a relationship. My daughter gives me lots of hugs and kisses and I hug my close friends when greeting them and that seems to suffice these days.

Teresa

 

[Badjedidude]

Can't go without it.

I like to touch and be touched.

 

[Lonesome Crow]

I belive the love N effection ive received throughout my life time had prevented me from turning into a serila killer...

even though Im still sexually active..the hugs N kisses play just as important of a role. For me on is not very than the other. I want N need both. It s why Im into romance.

a major factor that made it difficualt for me to break up a relationship is..I get very physically effectionate with my partner...lots of toucing.
when I sleep with my GF our bodies always touch.

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All the women Ive been with has a healthy appetite for sex..some more than others...some are even consider nymphos.

 

[A Desolate Soul]

it's pretty important when it's from a significant other for me considering i'm almost ******** when it comes to just emotions lol. other than that i don't care too much about it. i do like hugs though :]

 

[Sci-Fi]

It makes me uncomfortable, I'm not used to it. Sure my mom used to always say "I love you" when we went to bed at night and gave us a kiss goodnight but that was when we were younger. My mom isn't used to it either because my grand parents weren't the kind to show affection, but that's just the way they were raised. I have an employee who likes to give hugs, I found it weird at first. When you are shown affection though, even if it makes you uncomfortable it does feel good to know someone cares enough to show it in a physical manor. I think we could solve so many problems if people could just hug it out.

 

[Kenny]

Damned if I do, damned if I don't.

Want it more than anything, don't trust it or allow it when it's offered.

What to do in the meantime? Suggestions?

 

[Drama]

I like to touch and be touched.

I dont like to touch or be touched o.o

 

[Codyjm]

Without physical affection, I feel like I'm shriveling up into a non-entity. I can't live without it. But I get it many ways, not necessarily from a man in a relationship. My daughter gives me lots of hugs and kisses and I hug my close friends when greeting them and that seems to suffice these days. Smile

For sure.

Damned if I do, damned if I don't. Want it more than anything, don't trust it or allow it when it's offered. What to do in the meantime? Suggestions?

I know what you mean Kenny. I wish I had suggestions.

I wish I would have enjoyed my mothers affection when I had the chance, but there was so much else going on in our lives... Then I moved away and it's gone.

I now find myself afraid to give people hugs sometimes in case they think I'm weird... when somebody else gives me a hug of their own volition or an I love you it makes me pretty darn happy for a while. But I still find it hard to initiate it sometimes because if somebody loves me enough to say it, I can't afford to lose these people by driving them away.

I hate letting fear dictate stuff, but I dunno.

I guess it's pretty weird, but I hug myself sometimes when I think of my old love and when she'd hug me and say I love you, kinda like remembering the feeling of holding and being held. Gives me butterflys. **** sure is hard to fathom out...

 

[Badjedidude]

I dont like to touch or be touched o.o

That's too bad. lol

 

[A Desolate Soul]

I like to touch and be touched.

I dont like to touch or be touched o.o

don't lie ;]

 

[A new life]

It's been so long since I've been touched regularly
that when someone touches me now, I jump, and I end up saying
"Oh sorry, you startled me!"

 

[nerdygirl]

Cooties. Ugh!

Actually, I grew up in a family that is not affectionate. My mom does the stereotypical Asian slap to show love, rather than hugs. X was the complete opposite, growing up in one of those touchy-feely families. At times I felt trapped and miserable, because he'd want to hold me, and I'd just want to run.

At work, I end up with a lot of clients who want to hug me, and it gives me the heebie jeebies. I understand that they've got all of that oxytocin and vasopressin pumping, and they just cannot help it. So I smile and do that pat-pat-pat on the back hug, and gently push them out of the door.

 

[Kenny]

Cooties. Ugh!

Actually, I grew up in a family that is not affectionate. My mom does the stereotypical Asian slap to show love, rather than hugs. X was the complete opposite, growing up in one of those touchy-feely families. At times I felt trapped and miserable, because he'd want to hold me, and I'd just want to run.

At work, I end up with a lot of clients who want to hug me, and it gives me the heebie jeebies. I understand that they've got all of that oxytocin and vasopressin pumping, and they just cannot help it. So I smile and do that pat-pat-pat on the back hug, and gently push them out of the door.

Somebody needs a hug.

 

[Drama]

I like to touch and be touched.

I dont like to touch or be touched o.o

don't lie ;]

Rofl!!!!!!!!!! Ok let me resay it.
I dont like to touch or be touched unless it is aaron

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I dont like to touch or be touched o.o

That's too bad. lol

Indeed the shame