perfanoff said:
When my own mother shouts at me on the phone for wanting to live a decent life instead of spending my money and living in misery for the next month wondering what to eat or to beg friends for money.. after I called her out of goodwill.. I got burned again. Well every time I speak with her, I feel verbally abused. God I ******* hate down to my GUTS that imperative mood she uses. I haven't felt so alone in the world in a long time. Even cigarettes are not my friend anymore. I can't trust anyone emotionally.. or to understand.. I've talked with some of my best friends a bit about it and I already feel like I am burdening them too much with my problems. After all they have theirs too, and people more central to them. But I can't even feel that my immediate family shares any kind of life with me. Many people think I'm born lucky but in what matters most I can't really say fate has smiled on me so far..
I'm going to get over the cigarettes and I will stop feeling so lonely but I know that my real situation will not change.. I will just keep moving on and telling myself my life is awesome or that awesome is just around the corner. FML..
perfanoff, I empathize/sympathize with you. It is terrible when you can't count on family to help you with advice or other things when you are in an unpleasant life situation.
I am not in an ideal living situation by far. There are 7 people, including me, in my family left, and my Brother told me not to long ago that if I was homeless, he couldn't let me stay with him and his wife until I could got back on my feet, even if it was for a short while, if I was to lose the living arrangement I have now.
I am just giving you my opinion, only, when I say please don't assume you are overburdening friends by telling them your problems though, unless you are sure of it. If they sound disgusted or tell you something that makes you know they don't want to hear what is bothering you, that is the only way you really know it.
I have been told I am a good friend, and I believe one reason is because I welcome friends to open up and tell me their problems even when I am going through a rough time. I still can listen and hope to make that friend feel better--even if I don't have any advice, at least I can let them vent and that shows them I care.
Geez, I don't remember now what I was going to post on here!
Well, I hope that your problems lessen and you start to feel a bit better. I don't know you, but I care about you and everyone struggling with their lives, especially ones that have issues similar to mine.
If you'd like to PM me, please do. Like I said, I may not be able to help you, but you can get things off your chest, so to speak, that way.