Climbergirl
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I'm 28, and I had a perfect life. I was in school at the fire academy, a part time paramedic and also doing some daycare. I have 2 kids that are 6 and 8 and was happily engaged to the man of my dreams. (not my kids dad) My fiance had promised me to take care of my finances while I was in school and to quit my jobs and just finish school and have less stress etc. Then a week after we were engaged, I found out I was pregnant. So I had to quit school, put the wedding and my dream of being a firefighter this year, on hold. I was devastated. I avoided getting pregnant like the plague, but do not believe in abortions, and I was disappointed in myself and felt like a failure. The 3rd accident child in my life.
My fiance was happy, but I warned him that I will be miserable and also be VERY sick. With both my pregnancies I had hyperemesis which is EXTREME pregnancy nausea and vomiting. Which turns into depression, suicidal thoughts and an overall general negative outlook on my life. The day we found out, he said he'd be there for me no matter what, He wouldn't take anything I said to heart and he would support me etc etc. Well, that lasted about 5 days until I started getting sick, and it wasn't that bad at first, but gradually got worse. I became grumpy, and miserable, lashed out at him. And didnt want him around me while I was sick and depressed. So he said he'd give me space, and I didn't want him to leave, I just didn't want him in the ROOM while i was always sick. So he ended up going out almost every night staying out until 1,2,3,4,5 am in the morning, getting wasted, smoking cigars, hanging out with MY friends, talking behind my back about how grumpy I am and meanwhile I was at home barfing my guts out, crying, wanting to die, I also have other health problems, and couldnt take my pills because I'd puke them up. So all of ME was deteriorating. One day I told him I was getting a friend to take me to the hospital for IV therapy and he asked if he could come, but i knew he had plans that night. So i said no, I'll let you know how it goes. Then he didnt answer his phone or texts or email all night. Came home at 5:30 am and was WASTED! and I wanted him to watch my kids in the morning, so I could go to the hospital( I hadnt gone the night before) And i had texted and called him to tell him that I was going in the morning instead, but no response. So i drove myself to the hospital, and it was just another day in my life. This cycle has continued for the last 8 weeks. I started counselling the day I found out I was pregnant and have gone every week. I finally convinced him to go, but by that time it was only a week and half ago, and it had been 7 weeks of hell for me, and my 2 kids, and my health etc. He hasnt helped me with any money, and he makes 300 K per year. and wont give me a dime. I've been bed ridden and on bed rest for that amount of time. I've been out with a friend or family member 3 times in that 7 weeks, and I've done nothing to cause any of his actions or behaviour. He got so mad the only time I stayed at a girl friends house and didnt tell him where I was going. He dwells on that one time and says thats why hes been out all those nights and wasn't there to support me. Even though that night Was only 2 Fridays ago. He uses me as an excuse for his behaviour. I started to feel better recently, so I came to visit a friend that is a ferry ride away. And I brought my kids with me. HE emailed me to tell me that he wasnt coming home from work this past friday, and that he was staying at his druggie friends house for the weekend. Which is where he has been lots lately. ( avoiding me) and then he emailed me sunday night saying " Actually I'm gonna stay here all week"
I replied" ok, thats fine, I'm actually staying with a friend right now for the week, so we'll see you when we get back". So I didnt check my emails for 2 days after that because im on vacation, and I've been so TRAPPED in my house, Broke, pregnant, nauseaus and depressed that I wanted a break! So I checked my emails 2 days later and theres another one " I thought it was best that I moved out"
WHILE I'm on vacation with my kids, he MOVED OUT!!!!!!!! So, he's not only abandoned me the last 2 months, hasn't given me any money in 3 months to pay my 2400$/month bills. Now hes left me and my kids homeless, while pregnant, and broke. and I have 8 days to find a place and move out of a 5 bedroom house. Which is a LOT of stuff.
My fiance was happy, but I warned him that I will be miserable and also be VERY sick. With both my pregnancies I had hyperemesis which is EXTREME pregnancy nausea and vomiting. Which turns into depression, suicidal thoughts and an overall general negative outlook on my life. The day we found out, he said he'd be there for me no matter what, He wouldn't take anything I said to heart and he would support me etc etc. Well, that lasted about 5 days until I started getting sick, and it wasn't that bad at first, but gradually got worse. I became grumpy, and miserable, lashed out at him. And didnt want him around me while I was sick and depressed. So he said he'd give me space, and I didn't want him to leave, I just didn't want him in the ROOM while i was always sick. So he ended up going out almost every night staying out until 1,2,3,4,5 am in the morning, getting wasted, smoking cigars, hanging out with MY friends, talking behind my back about how grumpy I am and meanwhile I was at home barfing my guts out, crying, wanting to die, I also have other health problems, and couldnt take my pills because I'd puke them up. So all of ME was deteriorating. One day I told him I was getting a friend to take me to the hospital for IV therapy and he asked if he could come, but i knew he had plans that night. So i said no, I'll let you know how it goes. Then he didnt answer his phone or texts or email all night. Came home at 5:30 am and was WASTED! and I wanted him to watch my kids in the morning, so I could go to the hospital( I hadnt gone the night before) And i had texted and called him to tell him that I was going in the morning instead, but no response. So i drove myself to the hospital, and it was just another day in my life. This cycle has continued for the last 8 weeks. I started counselling the day I found out I was pregnant and have gone every week. I finally convinced him to go, but by that time it was only a week and half ago, and it had been 7 weeks of hell for me, and my 2 kids, and my health etc. He hasnt helped me with any money, and he makes 300 K per year. and wont give me a dime. I've been bed ridden and on bed rest for that amount of time. I've been out with a friend or family member 3 times in that 7 weeks, and I've done nothing to cause any of his actions or behaviour. He got so mad the only time I stayed at a girl friends house and didnt tell him where I was going. He dwells on that one time and says thats why hes been out all those nights and wasn't there to support me. Even though that night Was only 2 Fridays ago. He uses me as an excuse for his behaviour. I started to feel better recently, so I came to visit a friend that is a ferry ride away. And I brought my kids with me. HE emailed me to tell me that he wasnt coming home from work this past friday, and that he was staying at his druggie friends house for the weekend. Which is where he has been lots lately. ( avoiding me) and then he emailed me sunday night saying " Actually I'm gonna stay here all week"
I replied" ok, thats fine, I'm actually staying with a friend right now for the week, so we'll see you when we get back". So I didnt check my emails for 2 days after that because im on vacation, and I've been so TRAPPED in my house, Broke, pregnant, nauseaus and depressed that I wanted a break! So I checked my emails 2 days later and theres another one " I thought it was best that I moved out"
WHILE I'm on vacation with my kids, he MOVED OUT!!!!!!!! So, he's not only abandoned me the last 2 months, hasn't given me any money in 3 months to pay my 2400$/month bills. Now hes left me and my kids homeless, while pregnant, and broke. and I have 8 days to find a place and move out of a 5 bedroom house. Which is a LOT of stuff.
