Pushing my comfort zone

[GraceBlossom]

I have realised that I have been dreading weekends, that is when I feel the worst, everyone else seems to be having fun socialising and while I can be busy, I am still so, so lonely, I crave other adult company.

So, I decided to ask some people round not this Saturday the Saturday after. They are a couple of Mums from school who I have been making an effort to get to know. They have always been friendly, they are fun and always try and include me in somethings like coffee, but I have always been afraid (down to so many reasons, and my mind is trained after so long to find an excuse).

But now I am panicking, they say they are really looking forward to it, and their families are coming too, so all in all there will be 13 people here. I have never had people round in all my adult life except for family. I am terrified they will judge me, my home, my hosting skills. I am on the verge of cancelling, but I won't get what I crave will I if I don't try. I know I will feel sick on the day. I think one of them has an idea how I feel, she is very gentle and patient.

What have I done...I am never that brave.

 

[Walley]

sounds good =)
you should be proud of yourself.
pushing the comfort zone is exactly what you should do. some say it is the secret to success on many levels.

remaining within your comfort zone can only guarantee that you stay exactly where you are!
so only those that are 100% happy their lives should attempt it =)

 

[Simey145]

Hey,

It looks like you've done the hard part in terms of organising the meetup. It seems like a great opportunity to make friends and I think whilst everyone is worried about being judged, don't let it affect you. Yes maybe some people will judge, but the ones that don't are likely to be the people you can get to know and make friends with. I guarentee out of this big crowd there will be some nice people. You have nothing to lose, you may be on edge, but it'll be worth it!

 

[Edward W]

Go for it!

You'll be fine, just relax, enjoy it!

 

[Peaches]

awesome! remember not to worry too much, they come for the company and not for your hosting performance. I find it useful, when it is a lot of people, to cook most of it the day before, so I don't end up sweaty and exhausted on that evening. Well done, take care!

 

[Runciter]

Pretty much what everyone else said. Try not to worry about impressing them and just try to have some fun! Don't forget to let us know how it goes.

 

[Bones]

Great!

I got out of my comfort zone today too.

While I am only interested in someone who does not live in my state, I had lunch today with a woman after stepping her toes with the heal of my foot during break time from our meeting - it provided a chance for small talk; that I absolutely abhor, but decided I needed practice for the real deal if I ever get my chance.

 

[ladyforsaken]

Pushing myself out of my comfort zone was what made me move on from a painful past, as well as from getting rid a bit of my shyness. Take it with a positive mind, yes you'll feel uneasy and all that, but think of what comes after - you'll gain experience and be able to pick up some learning points from it.

Relax, let it flow and just have fun. Take care and good luck!

 

[Coeur]

I think moms will understand a household that isn't flawless. They have sticky, boisterous children or even messy teenagers at home.

 

[GraceBlossom]

Ok so I am doing it tomorrow, I am doing a BBQ so that it will be relaxed, fingers crossed that bad rain patch holds off until after I have cooked the food lol!

I am not as nervous as I thought I would be, so I am hoping that is a good sign.

 

[ladyforsaken]

Ok so I am doing it tomorrow, I am doing a BBQ so that it will be relaxed, fingers crossed that bad rain patch holds off until after I have cooked the food lol!

I am not as nervous as I thought I would be, so I am hoping that is a good sign.

Good luck, Grace. Have a good time!

 

[libby08]

Weekends seem to be really crummy for me too. I think it's great you have gone outside your comfort zone with this get together. Very brave of you!

 

[GraceBlossom]

Hi everyone

Thank you all for your lovely supportive messages, they really helped boost my confidence. I kept re-reading them to help me before they came.

It went well, once I got tidy and clean I relaxed. I think I am right with my instincts about these people, they are good, so friendly. All the kids played out together nicely and I just did the bbq and the adults all pitched in and made themselves at home which made me feel more comfortable.

I also got texts from them later saying what a good time they had . So for once in years and years I had some company on a Saturday evening Yay! They invited make out for a night out, but I can't get a baby sitter for that night .

I am so proud of myself for taking the plunge and reaching out to these people who have took the time to try and get to know me. For years I would have just stayed to myself or sabotaged it in some way.

I am going to do another before the summer goes, but knowing England that could be it now lol!

x

 

[libby08]

So wonderful to hear how well the get together went! That's really great news. Sometimes good things happen when we get out of our comfort zones.

 

[duff]

Hi everyone

Thank you all for your lovely supportive messages, they really helped boost my confidence. I kept re-reading them to help me before they came.

It went well, once I got tidy and clean I relaxed. I think I am right with my instincts about these people, they are good, so friendly. All the kids played out together nicely and I just did the bbq and the adults all pitched in and made themselves at home which made me feel more comfortable.

I also got texts from them later saying what a good time they had . So for once in years and years I had some company on a Saturday evening Yay! They invited make out for a night out, but I can't get a baby sitter for that night .

I am so proud of myself for taking the plunge and reaching out to these people who have took the time to try and get to know me. For years I would have just stayed to myself or sabotaged it in some way.

I am going to do another before the summer goes, but knowing England that could be it now lol!

x

Glad it went well for you !

 

[solonely20]

Thats great