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Trent
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how long do you suppose that a game of "who can appear the most invested while actually being the least invested" can be entertaining for?
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IgnoredOne
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SophiaGrace
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I am currently on relationship hiatus. Problem solved, at least for now.
To answer this question on a more serious note (and possibly rambling note). You cannot control what people do or do not do. I have given up trying to control other people. They just are. Sometimes, if I deem them worth enough, I will say something but I always try to respect their wishes or desires because in the end they are in charge of those and I know how I don't tend to change much and fail at change. Or, is it, that I only change when I think I have no other choice.
With people though, they tend to be unpredictable variables that I see as possibly derailing my life if I would let them. So they are not an all-or-nothing sort of deal-changer for me. I just move on, gliding through life. Friendships come and go. Loves come and go. Nothing seems to stick (maybe there is something wrong with me for that).
There is one person who I would change for though. He took the time to care about me and help me when I was hurting deeply inside, when my family (who just yelled at me) and no one else cared and all my teachers seemed to hate me in real life. He cared. I would change for him if he wanted me to.
He cared when he didn't have to and it's inspired me to reach out to others who seem to struggle in my real life. Writing notes for someone that cannot see the board in my statistics class, talking and chcking in on a closeted transgender friend who becomes very distraught over not being in the right body.
I'm sorry if that went off track. People need to look around and care more. There will not always be benefits for caring about another person but I don't think love or care is ever wrong. Ever. Sometimes...people need that more than anything else. Little things can help. They need to not feel alone. They may not accept your care or your offer of help but aloneness is the worst. Thing ever
In conclusion, forget the ones that do not care. There are others in this world that would die to be cared about and feel forgotten, alone and rejected. Sometimes people cannot express how they really feel for one reason or another. Fear. Alternative motives...etc
Don't judge them. Its not worth it. The most you can do is let them know you care while at the same time doing self-care for yourself.
Oh and if you think I believe anything is as easy as I just stated it to be, you're wrong. Life is complicated. Sometimes burying your head under a pillow seems to be a very good idea.
To answer this question on a more serious note (and possibly rambling note). You cannot control what people do or do not do. I have given up trying to control other people. They just are. Sometimes, if I deem them worth enough, I will say something but I always try to respect their wishes or desires because in the end they are in charge of those and I know how I don't tend to change much and fail at change. Or, is it, that I only change when I think I have no other choice.
With people though, they tend to be unpredictable variables that I see as possibly derailing my life if I would let them. So they are not an all-or-nothing sort of deal-changer for me. I just move on, gliding through life. Friendships come and go. Loves come and go. Nothing seems to stick (maybe there is something wrong with me for that).
There is one person who I would change for though. He took the time to care about me and help me when I was hurting deeply inside, when my family (who just yelled at me) and no one else cared and all my teachers seemed to hate me in real life. He cared. I would change for him if he wanted me to.
He cared when he didn't have to and it's inspired me to reach out to others who seem to struggle in my real life. Writing notes for someone that cannot see the board in my statistics class, talking and chcking in on a closeted transgender friend who becomes very distraught over not being in the right body.
I'm sorry if that went off track. People need to look around and care more. There will not always be benefits for caring about another person but I don't think love or care is ever wrong. Ever. Sometimes...people need that more than anything else. Little things can help. They need to not feel alone. They may not accept your care or your offer of help but aloneness is the worst. Thing ever
In conclusion, forget the ones that do not care. There are others in this world that would die to be cared about and feel forgotten, alone and rejected. Sometimes people cannot express how they really feel for one reason or another. Fear. Alternative motives...etc
Don't judge them. Its not worth it. The most you can do is let them know you care while at the same time doing self-care for yourself.
Oh and if you think I believe anything is as easy as I just stated it to be, you're wrong. Life is complicated. Sometimes burying your head under a pillow seems to be a very good idea.
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Kindly elaborate your point.
shesafrozenfire
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Trent said:
As long as the one who is playing the game wants it to go on, I guess. Even the most ardent gamer players eventually get tired of their game and move onto a new game, or a new person to toy with, I suppose.
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perfanoff
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Trent said:
Ha. Depends on how full of .... these people are.
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Trent
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for those asking for specific details, i hate to disappoint, but there are none
this was meant to be an academic/philosophical exercise
the initial question was INTENDED to be open to personal interpretation
this struck me as very profound. thanks
this was meant to be an academic/philosophical exercise
the initial question was INTENDED to be open to personal interpretation
SophiaGrace said:
this struck me as very profound. thanks
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The Good Citizen
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Trent said:
Well "The more you know, the less you need to show" is a phrase thats always struck a chord with me.
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The Good Citizen said:
can you elaborate as to what that phrase means to you in regard to my initial question? i'm intrigued. (as that is the exact type of response i was hoping to solicit...thoughtful)
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Trent said:
I suppose I was considering the question and interpreting invested to mean invested with power or responsibility. Often I feel people who crave power and seniority but have very little will flaunt what little they do have more than those who actually hold the power. So a team leader being a jumped up little Hitler at work, where as the senior manager preferring to be laid back and one of the people, safe in the knowledge everyone knows they are in charge and so has no need to prove it.
Same with knowledge and wisdom, people seem to need to show off what they do know to make up for what they don't. With true wisdom comes a more laid back attitude, having nothing to prove to yourself and therefore anyone else.
So that was my angle I guess.
