The thing about change is that it is difficult to know where to change, what exactly, and that it is very easy to keep thinking: I am changing, here I am, so changed, but in fact one is still stuck in the same mechanisms, so I agree deep change is much less easy that it sounds. Still, making the extra step, trying is what makes the world go round, even if it doesn't work, I want to be like those persons who give it a try, because they are cool.
My personal experience with negativity was (ok, still is sometimes) that in spite of how much I suffered it was always a warm bath of Ego, I, I, I, am so ------ (insert: ugly, stupid, unlovable) and after a while I would pay less attention to other people because I was so stuck with self pity. About being ugly, I wanted to mention it in another post, but I can't find it anymore: some time ago I read this book called Seductresses about the famous seductresses in history,
and I was shocked to see that half of them were for conventional beauty standards ass-ugly, one looked like an Indian chief and had marriage proposals well into her 60, another one had a hunchback and was disfigured by smallpox, they only thing they all had in common was this huge sexual desire and probably that they were really cool, anyway, just food for thought, interesting also for guys I guess, because for women there is even more pressure on physical appearance to get attention from the opposite sex. Anyway, I don't want to deviate this inspiring thread toward lower grounds, but here is the link
http://www.amazon.com/Seductress-Women-Ravished-World-Their/dp/0143034227
