Questions for the Men

[Claudia1794]

Sorry, there I go again not paying attention to what thread I'm in.

 

[CenotaphGirl]

Well the fellow Ive been hanging out with met me at the gym. He's made it pretty clear that he is the type of guy that doesn't care about all that ****. I pretty much look the same all day no matter what I am doing. I will say that he did compliment me repeatedly when I wore my hair down Saturday. I told him he could dial it back because Im not the one to fall for flattery and he wasn't getting any. He laughed but I know what he was getting at with the hair remarks so I told him, "Besides youve got to excite me before I let you pull my hair." We laugh a good bit and its fun how much we have in common. Im not sure if that's good or bad? Sunday he had a different approach. The boy might be teachable.

I loveee that he changed his approach, I can't stand endless compliments and it's like sooner or later they start to become a little unintentionally backhanded lmao.

 

[Claudia1794]

I loveee that he changed his approach, I can't stand endless compliments and it's like sooner or later they start to become a little unintentionally backhanded lmao.

But is it really unintentional?

 

[CenotaphGirl]

But is it really unintentional?

It bloody better be! God knows I don't think men are usually the type to be underhanded that way, well maybe....

 

[9006]

I will say that he did compliment me repeatedly when I wore my hair down Saturday. I told him he could dial it back because Im not the one to fall for flattery and he wasn't getting any. He laughed but I know what he was getting at with the hair remarks so I told him, "Besides youve got to excite me before I let you pull my hair." We laugh a good bit and its fun how much we have in common. Im not sure if that's good or bad? Sunday he had a different approach. The boy might be teachable.

When I was younger in relationships I used to pile it on like that too, for me it seems a kind of immature mindset to score points lol. It's only when you grow up you realise the daft things like that you used to say, I mean it's one thing to compliment someone but to me if someone kept piling it on like that it would seem a bit... fake lol. It's always more genuine after you've been with someone for a while and they still say that stuff.

 

[Claudia1794]

When I was younger in relationships I used to pile it on like that too, for me it seems a kind of immature mindset to score points lol. It's only when you grow up you realise the daft things like that you used to say, I mean it's one thing to compliment someone but to me if someone kept piling it on like that it would seem a bit... fake lol. It's always more genuine after you've been with someone for a while and they still say that stuff.

I agree, but I also tend to not care for compliments about silly stuff like how my hair is worn or the clothes I wear. Oh and my hair will be pulled back up tomorrow night when I see him.

 

[ardour]

Lool you men are on fire today I can't stop laughing.

But question, why do men police other men's types so much? I remember Ewomack talking about this, if you like a different type of woman maybe you like a woman with short hair you are some how not a real man and obviously gay. I don't understand this, I don't know if us women have our own version of this maybe?

I don't care what other men's types are and commenting on their girlfriend's appearance would be begging for free dental work.

The new manager has taken an interest in my personal life though, which is bizarre as I've never experienced that. First she suggested I ask out one of the girls at the service desk who are all student age, then after I let the cat out of bag about my age, tried to set me up with a woman I'm on friendly terms with in the next office within earshot of the discussion ...who luckily had headphones on.

 

[CenotaphGirl]

I don't care what other men's types are and commenting on their girlfriend's appearance would be begging for free dental work.

The new manager has taken an interest in my personal life though, which is bizarre as I've never experienced that. First she suggested I ask out one of the girls at the service desk who are all student age, then after I let the cat out of bag about my age, tried to set me up with a woman I'm on friendly terms with in the next office within earshot of the discussion ...who luckily had headphones on.

I need to move to NZ the men there are just, so different guys could slap my butt in front of my hypothetical fella and walk out the room in mint condition over here.

 

[MrLonely86]

I need to move to NZ the men there are just, so different guys could slap my butt in front of my hypothetical fella and walk out the room in mint condition over here.

Same, I need to move to Spain. Girls from Spain are just soo nice to me. <3

 

[CenotaphGirl]

Same, I need to move to Spain. Girls from Spain are just soo nice to me. <3

Lool where are you from?

 

[MrLonely86]

Lool where are you from?

********. Girls here are golddiggers.

 

[CenotaphGirl]

********. Girls here are golddiggers.

Ah sucks, I thought that was girls everywhere

 

[CenotaphGirl]

Okay men… change of pace!

Is it okay to be mad at a man if he compliments you on things that arent really you? Like how much he loves my blue eyes when he knows they are just contacts or how hot my blonde hair is… idk… I always feel so low when that happens

 

[user 135671]

Okay men… change of pace!

Is it okay to be mad at a man if he compliments you on things that arent really you? Like how much he loves my blue eyes when he knows they are just contacts or how hot my blonde hair is… idk… I always feel so low when that happens

Yeah it is, it shows a lack of tact and intelligence. I've dated girls who wore coloured contacts or dyed their hair and it' was easy enough to compliment them on their eyes or hair without reference to colour with a wee bit of thought. I met a girl once when I was gigging, I used to wear blue contacts on stage. She bloody kicked me out when we got back to hers and I took out my lenses.

 

[user 139760]

I don't really compliment women to be honest. They compliment me lol.
But yeah. Shows a lack of observational skills.

 

[9006]

Okay men… change of pace!

Is it okay to be mad at a man if he compliments you on things that arent really you? Like how much he loves my blue eyes when he knows they are just contacts or how hot my blonde hair is… idk… I always feel so low when that happens

If he KNOWS that you have colored contacts in or dye you hair I don't think you could get mad at him for complimenting you.. unless he's saying it on purpose knowing it bothers you. I mean my ex used to dye her hair and say "What do you think" and I always told the truth: that it looked good on her, but then she'd look good wearing a bin bag.

I think if you feel mad about that it's the fact that he didn't compliment your natural eye or hair by saying "I prefer your eyes/hair" which seems like a bit of insecurity. But then it's not helping changing those 'insecure' things and then expecting reinforcement, lol.

 

[MrLonely86]

Okay men… change of pace!

Is it okay to be mad at a man if he compliments you on things that arent really you? Like how much he loves my blue eyes when he knows they are just contacts or how hot my blonde hair is… idk… I always feel so low when that happens

I don't compliment if I don't mean it.

 

[Cherubino]

fake for fake ... grooming is supposed to enhance not replace your native data

 

[CenotaphGirl]

If you dont wanna answer my questions nicely then just skip as…. I do not wish to be cyber bullied

 

[user 135671]

Our Princess may change the colour of her eyes and hair occasionally but take the time to get to know her and you'll soon realise there's nothing fake about her.