Running club...

[ardour]

You're implying I have the mindset of a child, looking for undue attention everywhere. If that's going to be a theme in your responses, I'd rather you didn't.

I can't tell if you're replying to me or to TB here because no one is quoted.
If it was to me, that's certainly not what I meant, so please don't take it that way.

Triple Bogey.

 

[EveWasFramed]

You're implying I have the mindset of a child, looking for undue attention everywhere. If that's going to be a theme in your responses, I'd rather you didn't.

I can't tell if you're replying to me or to TB here because no one is quoted.
If it was to me, that's certainly not what I meant, so please don't take it that way.

Triple Bogey.

Oh ok. Thank you for the clarification.

 

[9006]

No, it was awkward before. I got the impression that the women and some of the guys stopped going because of me. The numbers went back to normal once it seemed like I had disappeared.

Why do you think this?

Fewer and fewer people going after I became a regular at the meetups.

Do you arrive with a gun? Because that's the only reason I can think of that would push people away. I doubt it has anything to do with looks, either. It's difficult to say why people would do this from here, but whatever the case (and if it was actually me making the difference) it would make me want to go more to piss them off.

 

[ardour]

No, it was awkward before. I got the impression that the women and some of the guys stopped going because of me. The numbers went back to normal once it seemed like I had disappeared.

Why do you think this?

Fewer and fewer people going after I became a regular at the meetups.

Do you arrive with a gun? Because that's the only reason I can think of that would push people away. I doubt it has anything to do with looks, either. It's difficult to say why people would do this from here, but whatever the case (and if it was actually me making the difference) it would make me want to go more to piss them off.

Not looks per se, but a combination of looks, social awkwardness and some intangible aura about me. All I know is women don't don't like me and aren't comfortable around me.

 

[TheRealCallie]

No, it was awkward before. I got the impression that the women and some of the guys stopped going because of me. The numbers went back to normal once it seemed like I had disappeared.

Why do you think this?

Fewer and fewer people going after I became a regular at the meetups.

Do you arrive with a gun? Because that's the only reason I can think of that would push people away. I doubt it has anything to do with looks, either. It's difficult to say why people would do this from here, but whatever the case (and if it was actually me making the difference) it would make me want to go more to piss them off.

Not looks per se, but a combination of looks, social awkwardness and some intangible aura about me. All I know is women don't don't like me and aren't comfortable around me.

Are you comfortable around yourself? If you're not, they are likely picking up on that.
Are you planning to go back and give it another shot or maybe look for a different group. Even start your own, perhaps?

 

[ardour]

Are you planning to go back and give it another shot or maybe look for a different group. Even start your own, perhaps?

I'll go one more time to see how it is. There are other weekly events not associated with the university. A bigger group might allow me to blend in more.

 

[Triple Bogey]

No, it was awkward before. I got the impression that the women and some of the guys stopped going because of me. The numbers went back to normal once it seemed like I had disappeared.

Why do you think this?

Fewer and fewer people going after I became a regular at the meetups.

Do you arrive with a gun? Because that's the only reason I can think of that would push people away. I doubt it has anything to do with looks, either. It's difficult to say why people would do this from here, but whatever the case (and if it was actually me making the difference) it would make me want to go more to piss them off.

Not looks per se, but a combination of looks, social awkwardness and some intangible aura about me. All I know is women don't don't like me and aren't comfortable around me.

If this is true then I am sorry you have to put up with this.
Because it sounds truly horrible. I have known some blokes who are hated by women for whatever reason. They get called a 'creep' or 'molester' or other things like that. From my experience it isn't totally what the guy looks like, more his attitude. Or sometimes one woman doesn't like him and then the others follow. There is this old guy and he is hated by all the women at work. But he touches them up at every opportunity so it's understandable. One other guy is nothing but polite to everybody but he isn't liked especially by the women.

 

[TheRealCallie]

Are you planning to go back and give it another shot or maybe look for a different group. Even start your own, perhaps?

I'll go one more time to see how it is. There are other weekly events not associated with the university. A bigger group might allow me to blend in more.

Try not to worry about what others are thinking of you.
Eventually, you will find your stride and people that want to be around you. But, keep in mind that if you go into something with expectations, you will, more often than not, be disappointed.
Just go, do your thing and keep going back, no matter what you do...Unless of course people are insulting and attacking you without consequence.

 

[9006]

Are you comfortable around yourself? If you're not, they are likely picking up on that.

This is probably true, there are times when you kinda pick up on vibes like that. But it mostly depends on the mentality of the people who are there on how they react. Personally you'd kinda try and make the effort for such a person to relax into the group by something as simple as a conversation.

 

[Niantiel]

Not my thing, never has been.
I've been in a few, but I honestly prefer small pubs.
Where there's music, but not so loud that you have to shout to have a conversation with the person sitting next to you.
Besides, always too much drama in the club scene (which for me) defeats the purpose of going out.