sex

[jjam]

:my:

 

[Nolife Princess]

*INSERT YOUR NAME HERE*------->>>M.A.S.T.U.R.B.A.T.E!
HAPPY NEW YEAR!

 

[Hoffy]

Sex + masturbation = great way to start my Friday!

 

[Arsenic Queen]

I’m not liking this hostility to each other.

At the end of the day sex is what you make it; be it masturbation, an emotional bond with someone dear or a quick fling while dressed up as a gorilla at a policeman’s ball (I quit drinking after that) but there is no right or wrong answer.

If it works for you, and providing you aren’t causing harm to others (remember those safety words kids) then no one can argue or tell you otherwise. We all have our own wants and needs, some will be similar and some will be different but let’s all drop the accusations and judgements because sex, like a good barbeque sauce, is all relative.

Asking someone with Arsenic as first name to be always nice, cool and collected is kinda contradictory, isn't it?

I never said sex wasn't something very personal, and to each their own; but I don't have to tolerate being accused of anything by someone who just doesn't understand my point or can't agree with it.

That being said, for men and women, sex is different. Most men are very fine with loveless, shallow sex and getting dismissed at the end of the act is fine by them as they enjoy a connection to their sex partner but don't always create/require it.

For most women it's different, as there's an emotional bond that gets created when there's a complete intercourse or an orgasm. This is something biological, it's a trick Mother Nature found to bound women to their men so human families have better chances to survive. This is why a lot of women suffer in casual sex, they "fall in love" or at least create an emotional bond, with every dude they mate with. And as you know, when there's unilateral love, comes the dependancy, state of lack, longing, emotional frustration, expectations, jealousy, etc. All one-sided. Not too healthy for someone's self esteem.

That's one more point in favor of going solo for women who got that blind bonding reflex. I read in more than one place that a majority of single women have this.

And as for judgements, if you referred to me, I'm sure you and the people you know treat casual sex with a little more decorum but a lot of serial daters and one-nighters treat their casual sex partners as coldly and disrespectfully as I described. It's wham-bam-thanks-oh yuck you stained my sheets-get your ass outta here I got some laundry to do. It's no fiction.

When I just had an orgasm, I do not like to have someone there to dismiss me the next minute. I don't like men calling me only when their bag is full, either. I find it insulting, it makes me feel used and has something like an emotional cold shower. They take my sexuality and reject who I am, they reject my thoughts and my emotions. You don't get this when you're on your own. When you're rejected (even partially), you're not just alone, you're also undesirable. I prefer to avoid that part. How is that hypocritical???

nicely explained.

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Kamaya, if you just don't want to understand why some people would choose masturbation against meaningless sex leave it like that. nobody need to explain anything, it's pretty obvious and after Arsenic Queen's explanation there's no room to any doubt.

You have your own perspective, like everyone else. and everyone respect that, but when someone try to push this perspective down others throat isn't nice.
Live and let die.

Thank you very much, I tried. It was very nice of you to defend me.
Live and let die? LOL. Masturbation ain't death with my magic artist's hands.

*INSERT YOUR NAME HERE*------->>>M.A.S.T.U.R.B.A.T.E!
HAPPY NEW YEAR!

LOL Princess.

Guys, there's waysss to make masturbation a great self-treat, not just a genital act. Be creative.

 

[Lonely in BC]

I have to stop reading this posting when it pops up- no action for a long time, no sign of it in the near future and 1 person sex is kind of boring.

The best intimacy has always been in relationships for this guy, the casual thing just doesn't quite make the grade.

Maybe tomorrows jump in the cold lake will help..........

Sigh

 

[Arsenic Queen]

of course sex in relationships is better, but good relationships don't grow in trees. gotta make do with what you got sometimes. sad reality of a lot of single people.

 

[Lost Drifter]

WALL OF TEXT HERE

Ok your turn:

 

[Arsenic Queen]

WALL OF TEXT HERE (mostly in reply to YOU - don't you love the attention?)

Ok your turn:

http://2pep.com/funny pics/very fun...s funniest_pictures_of_water-war-funny-13.jpg

You're mean. A cold shower on a sex thread? pff!
Let's reconciliate. Hot tub together?

 

[Lonely in BC]

Agggghhhhh- like a moth to the flame!

 

[TheSolitaryMan]

I keep trying to tell myself that I'm not missing a whole lot by focussing on my studies over learning to show my passionate side more (kisses and such would be wonderful) with the ridiculously pretty girls all around me at present.

Then something always happens to make me feel like I'm missing pretty much the most amazing experience imaginable -.-

Like today, a friend insisting on telling me that when she apparently did stuff with her boyfriend recently it was "So sensational, as if the boundaries between us actually melted away and we became one collective being temporarily."

A guy who has been awaiting the first time he gets to kiss a lady with painful self-awareness for 6 years really does not need to hear smug anecdotes such as that! >_<

 

[Arsenic Queen]

Agggghhhhh- like a moth to the flame!

LOL, yeah been told I was a hot chick.



Solitary man, I think your friend was taking pleasure at arousing you in telling you about this. I call this "side-flirting". Like when a girl is kissing her bf passionately but looks at you instead of having her eyes closed.

I don't think your friend does this by cruelty though, probably by desire of your desire. Or maybe by desire of you?

 

[TheSolitaryMan]

Solitary man, I think your friend was taking pleasure at arousing you in telling you about this. I call this "side-flirting". Like when a girl is kissing her bf passionately but looks at you instead of having her eyes closed.

I don't think your friend does this by cruelty though, probably by desire of your desire. Or maybe by desire of you?

Desire of...err...eh? You may have to clarify that last bit, lol

Well, she used to have a bit of an interest in me beyond friendship in the past. We regularly flirted in fact. For various reasons though (she has an intimidating amount of sexual experience that I wouldn't feel comfortable with for one) I told her I consider her my best friend and I'd rather keep it that way.

She lives in another country now, which makes it all the more perplexing details like that are told to me. Even weirder, she said to me that she has told her BF things about me that apparently made him feel jealous.

I have absolutely no idea why she'd do that since we were never romantically involved and I assumed she was happy with the guy :\

So perhaps you're right, though the whole concept of "side-flirting" confuses me utterly I have to say!

Also, with that new information I think I'm gonna be making sure any snogs I may deliver in future are sufficiently intense as to greatly discourage sideways glances at other boys

 

[Arsenic Queen]

Also, with that new information I think I'm gonna be making sure any snogs I may deliver in future are sufficiently intense as to greatly discourage sideways glances at other boys

LOL, ok. Yes, I think it's better. ^^

What is it you would like me to clarify? The "desire of desire" question? It's something kinda narcissistic. You don't really want the other person, you just want them to want you. Like someone looking for an admirer.

Sometimes it is a bit more cruel than that. Cruel without really wanting to be cruel, they're just immature. They want you to desire what they have. Like in a childish way to "show off".

For example, a girl is kissing her boyfriend passionately while all you can do is watch (or in this case, know about it and get all aroused alone in your corner). This puts you in a situation of inferiority, her in a situation of superiority (because she has something you don't have). This situation of superiority towards you can have something sexually arousing to her. Or, maybe she's aroused by the idea that she's arousing you.

Not sure if I'm any clearer, lol.

 

[Lost Drifter]

This puts you in a situation of inferiority, her in a situation of superiority (because she has something you don't have).

Get your own back:

 

[Lonesome Crow]

Errr....the power trip game.

All i know is I can make my FIANCE...
( notice i wrote FIANCE)
have multiple orgasim, all day
Long.
Sometimes she express that its
Not fair because I own her because no one
Can get her to do that. Sometimes all I
jave to is just touch her.
When shes not with me, she plays
With herself and thinks about me.
Othet times i can either text or call her..
Talk diRTY TO HER.

Yes, she Feels vunerable becuase i left
Het before. Thats my fault and the biggest
Mistake IVE MADE IN MY LIFE.
Yes, lots of trust I've destroyed and
She makes me pay for it, i assure you.

You notice I wrote FIANCE...
Somewhere alone the line I asked her to
Marry me.

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My FIANCE IS A HOT WHITE CHICK.
SHES BLOND AND HAVE DOUBLE D.
PLENTY OF GUYS WANT HER...I ASSURE YOU.

SHES ALSO TALLER THAN ME.
IM ASIAN....

im AKA...ROCKET, NUTZ and Hung Lo..
Lmao

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One of my favorite children books is
THE VELVATINE RABBIT.
The story is a metaphor of many
Living principles of TRULY LOVING SOMEONE.

 

[Lost Drifter]

Errr....the power trip game.

All i know is I can make my FIANCE...
( notice i wrote FIANCE)
have multiple orgasim, all day
Long.

Othet times i can either text or call her..
Talk diRTY TO HER.

My FIANCE IS A HOT WHITE CHICK.
SHES BLOND AND HAVE DOUBLE D.
PLENTY OF GUYS WANT HER...I ASSURE YOU.

 

[Lonesome Crow]

If you scan through this forum...there's plenty of pics of ****ies
Shots of ber....JFYI.

freaken dudes with all kinds of infority coplex posting
About being to damn short, ugly or whatecer the ****
Excuses theyll come up with to why they cant get dates
Or get a GF.

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I post them, not so much to show off...
But rather to show...
If i can do it...anyone can.

It all depens how you preceive it.

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Btw...my duagthrr is a porn star. The world knows im her father.
She list me as her father on her FB.

I wonder what kind of sexuality advice, moral and values advice
I can give her as a parent.lol

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I have a total of 4 dusghters.
2 step daughter
2 biological
The youngest is 21.
All very young beautiful women.

You know....
Every now and then my gitls calls me broken
Hearted because they been used and hutted
By men. Stuff like that, that i dont mention.
Too much informations cuase im such
A womenizing prick.lol

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Cuase i ma be trying to motivate dudes to go
Out can bang chicks.
Ironic aint it? Hahahaa

 

[Lost Drifter]

But that’s what I’m getting at, the pictures and bragging makes it sound like you have the inferiority complex, no need for that my friend.

 

[Lonesome Crow]

Err... i dont know what part of the world
U come from...but EQUALITY is sweet idea
I can put under my pillow.lol

ALL MEN ARE CREATED EQUAL..
( is true cuz al u ******* bleeds like me)
SOUNDS GOOD ON PAPER.
FUCKEN REALITY IS ALL MEN GETS
TREATED DIFFERNT.ITS MY FUCKEN
REALITY AND EXPERIENCE.

Beats the hell what gose on in your head.
Whatever sounds good to you.

Btw...
I DONT GIVE A **** WHAT PEOPLE THINK
ABOUT ME...
ITS TEXT BOOK GOOD SELF ESTEEM ****.

 

[Lost Drifter]

Alright buddy whatever makes you feel better, no need for language like that though.