I'm not sure where this fits in, but it might add another perspective.
I've previously within this thread, described my brother's unique personality traits. Unreliable and self centred, etc.
About 8-9 years ago, I had my mum move from her side of the River, to this side, nearer to me. We got rid of her big house, lodge, and other properties. Eventually moving into a modern apartment complex designed specifically for an older 55+ community, or something of that nature.
Prior to having done this, my brother periodically preached that we should all be closer and do more for each other. In writing, it is an amicable agreement. However, at that particular point in time, we will say for argument sake, mum had not seen him for 4 years, perhaps will the exception of having to bail him out. Yet, he and his son, lived maybe a whole 30 minutes walk away from mum.
8-9 years later, mum is very happily settled. She has a great community within her apartment complex. Many new friends, of which she holidays with frequently. She is perhaps 15-20 walk across a park, from my little house, and I am only ever a call away.
My brother, has yet to even step foot within her apartment. Yet, he has the options of bus, train and even a ferry, all of which stop mere minutes from mum's doorstep. The same can be said of his son, too
It is my mum's instructions, written and recorded, that when she passes, he is not to be informed, nor invited to any of ceremonies.
Infuriating though, is if you did meet him, chances are, you would find him both handsome and charming. He will often spout spiritual or political voodoo, and mystic mantras, whilst of course being entirely hypocritical.
Mum still follows him and his son, on social media. I don't think there has been anything other than a handful of superficial messages exchanged in the past decade.
So I suppose my message in all this is, just because they are family, it doesn't mean that you have to like them, or even tolerate them.
I've previously within this thread, described my brother's unique personality traits. Unreliable and self centred, etc.
About 8-9 years ago, I had my mum move from her side of the River, to this side, nearer to me. We got rid of her big house, lodge, and other properties. Eventually moving into a modern apartment complex designed specifically for an older 55+ community, or something of that nature.
Prior to having done this, my brother periodically preached that we should all be closer and do more for each other. In writing, it is an amicable agreement. However, at that particular point in time, we will say for argument sake, mum had not seen him for 4 years, perhaps will the exception of having to bail him out. Yet, he and his son, lived maybe a whole 30 minutes walk away from mum.
8-9 years later, mum is very happily settled. She has a great community within her apartment complex. Many new friends, of which she holidays with frequently. She is perhaps 15-20 walk across a park, from my little house, and I am only ever a call away.
My brother, has yet to even step foot within her apartment. Yet, he has the options of bus, train and even a ferry, all of which stop mere minutes from mum's doorstep. The same can be said of his son, too
It is my mum's instructions, written and recorded, that when she passes, he is not to be informed, nor invited to any of ceremonies.
Infuriating though, is if you did meet him, chances are, you would find him both handsome and charming. He will often spout spiritual or political voodoo, and mystic mantras, whilst of course being entirely hypocritical.
Mum still follows him and his son, on social media. I don't think there has been anything other than a handful of superficial messages exchanged in the past decade.
So I suppose my message in all this is, just because they are family, it doesn't mean that you have to like them, or even tolerate them.
