Coming into this knowing nothing at all about the conversation, if your woman gives half a **** what size your **** is and it's an issue for her, find another woman worth your time cause she aint that into you as a person and it won't last anyways. If it's -you- that has a problem with the size of your ****, I can't help you. Mine's below average, but I still like it cause it's mine. It's okay that it bothers you because you're a human being. Try to find someone to be with that it doesn't bother you to talk about it with. When a woman understands your insecurities she may be apt to give you a pep talk. It may come off as patronizing, but she probably just wants to make you feel good about yourself so you can have a good time with her instead of being worried about yourself. There's not a damn one of us on this planet that's built the exact same as the next one over. I don't agree at all that it's entirely on the man to whether or not the *** is good. If you're feeling pressured, it's probably going to be bad regardless. That's a
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It's not about how big it is, nor is it about how you use it nearly as much as it's about how who your with perceives you and how they feel about you. You can't build a house without a foundation. After that, the two (or two hundred, I'm not judging) of you can learn how to better please one another.
If it's just meaningless *** you're after, then don't worry about it either way. Do your thing and let her do hers.
And no, I'm no expert. I've only been with two women. Ever. Both had far more experience than me. In fact I'm pretty sure I almost screwed up one of their back's one time when I tried to be fancy. Just enjoy yourself. Anxiety is a poison.
There is most assuredly a societal pressure put upon men to have a certain image and body type just as there is upon women. One of my ex's commented to me once on how it was sad that men felt they needed to be a certain way or a certain level of macho. Societal **** is garbage, ignore it, let loose with a good one who doesn't give a ****. And don't bother comparing yourself to **** star men because you're not getting paid to sleep with women who are getting paid (way ******* more than the men, double standards in all things) to sleep with you.