skype conversations

[Wayfarer]

Lately I'm a bit down.. and I don't talk much to my skype friends. I understand how some people think it's annoying to always hear depressing talk and so I'm trying to avoid that, there.

However this leaves me writing just things like "hello", "how's it going", etc.. and hoping the other person answers or decides to start a conversation. Which doesn't really happen exactly often.

So now.. do you think it's better to stop talking to them for a while and return when I'm ok.. or.. what should I do. My mind is quite blank even when I'm ok, so finding topics to talk about is really hard at the moment.

Oh and since it just came to mind, I'll extend this post and ask you when a skype contact moves into the "annoying" region. Sometimes one lacks awareness.

Thanks in advance for your answers.

 

[LonesomeLoner]

I sent you a PM.

 

[ladyforsaken]

I always take a break when I am not feeling up to chatting with people. I just go quiet or if they look for me, I'll tell them I'm not in the best state so I'll catch up with them again soon. There's nothing wrong with that, your friends should be understanding with you on that.

At least this is what I do when my mind is mostly blank or I'm feeling negatively a lot. I just retreat and do my own thing. Some things just can't be forced.

 

[TheSkaFish]

I'm the same way. In fact, I was going through a period of this recently that I am just now getting out of. My mind often goes blank, especially when I'm feeling the blues. It's one reason that I don't feel interesting sometimes. When I feel down, I don't have much motivation to pursue interests or read anything new, so I'm don't take in many new ideas to talk about. Which, ironically, is one of the reasons I feel down sometimes - I feel like I'm not interesting enough.

And I too worry that I come off as annoying during these times when I'm feeling down, and I know that complaining can push people away. I usually keep to myself until I feel better again.

The thing is, sometimes it can take a month or more before I feel better. I just worry that my silence is mistaken for disinterest. It's not that. It's just that I don't talk very well when I'm not feeling so good.