Yes. BUT, your mind has had the sweet taste of the low to high difference. So, you have to out think what your mind is craving. You can do it. But, like drugs, it takes time, effort, and you may have relapses. So, you should NOT be punishing yourself for it. You did NOT create the situation. You merely are reacting to it.Omfg Finished, this is so well broken down, ******* hell my brain is like... come on miss psychology pants, why have you never done the math. Thanks, oh god, I was thinking I was just toxic, but theres this hidden mind game.
IMO, the first thing one should do is continually say to yourself that abuse is NOT acceptable ever, period! You ARE worthy of a loving, caring realtionship without abuse. You are a beautiful person! As you learn to realize and believe this, as you should, you'll start to realize how controlling and unhealthy the previous relationship really was. Then you can have a successful healthy relationship.
But, then you'll have to fix the guy because 80% of them are just ********. Ha! ha! Then there are those you know how all of this works and does it solely for the purpose to make the other person their slave. Those guys are the ones that I want to beat the honeysuckle out of.