Too good to be true !

[putter65]

It's over I can tell.

She's on facebook all the time, not chatting to me like she used to. Obviously chatting to somebody else.

Time to move on.

I bet if I don't get in touch with her, she won't. I will try that. I bet she doesn't get in touch.

 

[Lonesome Crow]

Sorry to hear that...but maybe she's chating with her mom, female friends or just playing
FB games. Thats what a woman was doing to me.
But I over reacted with all kinds of negative **** running through my mind.
So I wrote her a **** load of hateful stuff
I finally got her attention...but that wasnt the kind of attention I wanted from her.
She totally went off on me, saying I was an ******* and a jerk.
But i was like..."baby, i love ya"
She was like.."**** you"lmao

I am slower learner and fast forgetter.lol
Like i say..I went off on Reane a couple of weeks ago.

Renae and I are not even friends on FB anymore.
We were listed as a couple @ onetime.
She probably gose on FB....IDK
I'm not going to let my mind to there.
Im very creative and my mind creates alot of crazy ****.lmao

So anyway...I'm not examp from not having to practice what I wrote about the 5 R.
Got up today feeling OK...
So I texted Renae some positive kind words.
10 mins gose by...
So I'm feeling bent..thinking my baby aint thinking of me and all that good ****.
So I threw my fucken phone on the floor...saying to myself.."**** this ****".

Then i cuaght myself.
So I mellowed the **** out...
Applied the 5 R.
As soon as I got to the release or let go part.

Tell myself to be positive.

Then within moments of that... "Ding..ding" My fucken phone rang.
Actaully the ring tone gose "forever, whenever, wherever. I'll be there for you".hahahahaaaa
It was Renae.
I've been on the phone with her for hours.
We had to stop talking becuase the batteries on our phone went dead.lol

It's harilious **** dude....I'll have to laugh at myself sometimes.
It's all the part of the healing and being positive.

 

[IgnoredOne]

It's over I can tell.

She's on facebook all the time, not chatting to me like she used to. Obviously chatting to somebody else.

Time to move on.

I bet if I don't get in touch with her, she won't. I will try that. I bet she doesn't get in touch.

I see no reason why not to get in touch with her, and perhaps ask her about her new job. Even if you think that your current probability is slim, its a lot better than automatically saying no to yourself and drop your probably to a pleasant zero.

 

[Sprint]

I say let it go. It doesn't seem like she's interested at all... and yes you have something to lose... your pride.

Move on, there are other women out there.

 

[putter65]

I'll give a few days, the weekend. I won't send any text messages or facebook messages. I'll let her get in touch. I've done all the initiating the last 2 days. Before our date she was always texting, or sending facebook messages or 'liking' my posts.

Lets see what happens (if anything !)

It seems to me I am off her radar at the moment. Whether she has problems, maybe her ex husband or kids or work. Maybe she will come back. That is what she said in her last message 'we will catch up soon'

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Sorry to hear that...but maybe she's chating with her mom, female friends or just playing
FB games. Thats what a woman was doing to me.
But I over reacted with all kinds of negative **** running through my mind.
So I wrote her a **** load of hateful stuff
I finally got her attention...but that wasnt the kind of attention I wanted from her.
She totally went off on me, saying I was an ******* and a jerk.
But i was like..."baby, i love ya"
She was like.."**** you"lmao

I am slower learner and fast forgetter.lol
Like i say..I went off on Reane a couple of weeks ago.

Renae and I are not even friends on FB anymore.
We were listed as a couple @ onetime.
She probably gose on FB....IDK
I'm not going to let my mind to there.
Im very creative and my mind creates alot of crazy ****.lmao

So anyway...I'm not examp from not having to practice what I wrote about the 5 R.
Got up today feeling OK...
So I texted Renae some positive kind words.
10 mins gose by...
So I'm feeling bent..thinking my baby aint thinking of me and all that good ****.
So I threw my fucken phone on the floor...saying to myself.."**** this ****".

Then i cuaght myself.
So I mellowed the **** out...
Applied the 5 R.
As soon as I got to the release or let go part.

Tell myself to be positive.

Then within moments of that... "Ding..ding" My fucken phone rang.
Actaully the ring tone gose "forever, whenever, wherever. I'll be there for you".hahahahaaaa
It was Renae.
I've been on the phone with her for hours.
We had to stop talking becuase the batteries on our phone went dead.lol

It's harilious **** dude....I'll have to laugh at myself sometimes.
It's all the part of the healing and being positive.

I would never write any negative or hatefull to her.

I would rather have her send me a message saying 'she isn't interested' than just nothing. I hate that, getting forgotten about as though you don't exist or aren't worthy.

 

[putter65]

It just seems so odd that she can go from being so interested in me to having no interest. So quick as well. Sunday, Monday and Tuesday she was asking me what I was having for tea, asking me about my day, taking an interest in my life. Wednesday and Thursday it is curt, quick replies showing no interest in me at all.

 

[putter65]

Just sent a text saying 'have a nice weekend'

I think next week I will send another text asking her out. If I don't get a reply then I will move on. I want a 'no' instead of this ignoring me. I would rather have that.

 

[Felix]

It just seems so odd that she can go from being so interested in me to having no interest. So quick as well. Sunday, Monday and Tuesday she was asking me what I was having for tea, asking me about my day, taking an interest in my life. Wednesday and Thursday it is curt, quick replies showing no interest in me at all.

It's called hysteria... they talk to, they get close to you but then go away. Been there.

 

[putter65]

She sent a text back. She is feeling very stressed over her new job.

So all his not lost !

 

[Lonesome Crow]

Just be persistence...

Stay positive.

I still go through the same..but I try not to react.
Renae had already called me today. She tells me she loves
me all the time.

Then this evening I was getting anxieties.
Well...it's freakden friday and I'm trying to stay faithful.
Even at my age..I still erudges to go hang out @ bars and chase women.
So I sent her a text....Telling her i love her very much.
Of course....stupid **** runs across my mind. Lots of negative ****.
Which made me feel like i wanna crawl out of my fucken skin.
So I just went to a meeting...people were looking at me funni.
They knew I wasnt feeling right.
So I just set on my hands and breathe.

Right after I mellowed out...Sure enough Renae calls me to tell me she loves me.

 

[IgnoredOne]

You're getting rather emotional - evidently having ups and downs based on just receiving or not receiving texts from her. Isn't that not a good sign? You're becoming dependent on the sense of validation she provides.

 

[Lonesome Crow]

Errr...yeah.

I believe theres a lot of emotions when love is involved for some people..
Some people are more emotional than others. She cried sometimes when she talks to me or when we make love becuase she loves me very much. I feel the sameway. Its totally intense..
When I love someone...I LOVE DEEPLY and PASSIONATELY

I can seriouisly numb the **** out and **** the hottest chick @ the nearest bar.
Then numb the **** out even more to hopefullty forget what I might had done.
Regret is a ****** up negative feeling
I rather not have to deal and feel.

This is what distinguish me from a fucken dog...I HAVE A CONSIOUS.
I can repond instead of reacting.
Sometimes I can process it quickly. Other times it takes hours to go through the same process.

A simple I love you from her reassure me.. Yes I have trust issues.
But she used to text or call me everyday when we were living together...so in a way I kind da got spoil.

And I know exaclty why certain women come on to me. The hot gorgeous beautiful ones.
It's becuase Im very sensitive, willing to show my emotions and very passionate.
They can smell it from a mile away. It has nothing to do with my selfconfidence, how much money I make,
Alpha male or even my looks...ect..etc.
Plenty of women ask me out when I was down and out or pennyless.
They'll take me out or take me home with them reguardless.

****... A hot chick ran after me not too long ago becuase I was in a bad space feeling very emotion.
Straight up she wanted to take me home with her. Love me back to life sort of speak.
It happened to me plenty of time in my life. Becuase she too is very emtionally sensitive.

yes, I know there's a flip side to everything....
Such as being loyal. On the flip side of be loyal is also being codependent.

 

[putter65]

I can't see the point of her sending me a text saying 'we'll catch up soon' if she doesn't mean it. What would be the point ? She could have ignored my text.

 

[IgnoredOne]

I can't see the point of her sending me a text saying 'we'll catch up soon' if she doesn't mean it. What would be the point ? She could have ignored my text.

People text a lot of things if they intend to just temporarily put off people, or just feel better about themselves. Of course, she could also mean it literally. Point is to try not to get too focused on it and just generally never get too obsessed with exactly what people say by itself - read by their actions, not by their words.

 

[putter65]

You're getting rather emotional - evidently having ups and downs based on just receiving or not receiving texts from her. Isn't that not a good sign? You're becoming dependent on the sense of validation she provides.

It's not a good sign I agree.

You've got to understand I'm 43, never had a proper relationship, never been on a date for 15 years and then this woman comes along. The few days before the date, the date itself and a few days after I just felt normal. I felt as 'good as everybody else' - it felt so good to think 'hey I am good enough to go on dates and have a good time with a nice woman'

Of course I'm worried now that it's all over before it started. And it's not like I'm fixated on this particular woman, plenty of other women about I know. But none of them have ever wanted anything to do with me. I haven't got a host of women to go out with. This date came out of the blue, I don't see me getting many more dates in the foreseeable future.

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I can't see the point of her sending me a text saying 'we'll catch up soon' if she doesn't mean it. What would be the point ? She could have ignored my text.

People text a lot of things if they intend to just temporarily put off people, or just feel better about themselves. Of course, she could also mean it literally. Point is to try not to get too focused on it and just generally never get too obsessed with exactly what people say by itself - read by their actions, not by their words.

There is that way to look at things. Why aren't we 'catching up now' ? I'm only a phone call away.

I'll wait until she gets in touch now. And if she doesn't then that will be it. (I already know she won't !)

 

[IgnoredOne]

You're getting rather emotional - evidently having ups and downs based on just receiving or not receiving texts from her. Isn't that not a good sign? You're becoming dependent on the sense of validation she provides.

It's not a good sign I agree.

You've got to understand I'm 43, never had a proper relationship, never been on a date for 15 years and then this woman comes along. The few days before the date, the date itself and a few days after I just felt normal. I felt as 'good as everybody else' - it felt so good to think 'hey I am good enough to go on dates and have a good time with a nice woman'

Of course I'm worried now that it's all over before it started. And it's not like I'm fixated on this particular woman, plenty of other women about I know. But none of them have ever wanted anything to do with me. I haven't got a host of women to go out with. This date came out of the blue, I don't see me getting many more dates in the foreseeable future.

Oh, I can understand. Focus on the positive - you had a date, so clearly you're at least interesting to some women and you're not all that unattactive. Take heart in that and use that positivity to place yourself in a situation where you can date more people!

 

[putter65]

You're getting rather emotional - evidently having ups and downs based on just receiving or not receiving texts from her. Isn't that not a good sign? You're becoming dependent on the sense of validation she provides.

It's not a good sign I agree.

You've got to understand I'm 43, never had a proper relationship, never been on a date for 15 years and then this woman comes along. The few days before the date, the date itself and a few days after I just felt normal. I felt as 'good as everybody else' - it felt so good to think 'hey I am good enough to go on dates and have a good time with a nice woman'

Of course I'm worried now that it's all over before it started. And it's not like I'm fixated on this particular woman, plenty of other women about I know. But none of them have ever wanted anything to do with me. I haven't got a host of women to go out with. This date came out of the blue, I don't see me getting many more dates in the foreseeable future.

Oh, I can understand. Focus on the positive - you had a date, so clearly you're at least interesting to some women and you're not all that unattactive. Take heart in that and use that positivity to place yourself in a situation where you can date more people!

I'll try to.

Thanks !

 

[Lonesome Crow]

LOL... I was 43 too when I started dating again. I was in a long term relationship for over 12 yrs.

Not only was I rust at huinting...
I actually felt guilt for looking @ another womans ass becuase I was faithful to someone for so long...
My freaken mind and body was still
in relatiponship mode. In reality I was single. Lmao.
Slowly I made my way to younger women half my age without babies.lol

I started workoing out. Changed my woredrob...etc..etc to attrack younger women.lol...

I even install a loud sound system in the back of my truck....juist to makesure there no room for baby seats.lmao

 

[putter65]

LOL... I was 43 too when I started dating again. I was in a long term relationship for over 12 yrs.

Not only was I rust at huinting...
I actually felt guilt for looking @ another womans ass becuase I was faithful to someone for so long...
My freaken mind and body was still
in relatiponship mode. In reality I was single. Lmao.
Slowly I made my way to younger women half my age without babies.lol

I started workoing out. Changed my woredrob...etc..etc to attrack younger women.lol...

I even install a loud sound system in the back of my truck....juist to makesure there no room for baby seats.lmao

I've worked with my work mates for a long time, over 10 years some of them. All of them are women. I told them all I was going on a date. It made them all smile. They were all happy for me. They know I have no success with women, none at all. Of course after the date they all asked me how it went. On Tuesday I was saying it went great, she was lovely, hope to see her again etc. By Thursday I was saying (to only one or two) that she had lost interest a bit and it had died a quick death.

She may come back. Maybe she see's it as a going out every now and again thing, not really a girlfriend.

 

[putter65]

I just went on facebook and she was on. She clicked off seconds later. Now I know it could be coincedance but is it ?

Looks like I am in the nutcase / stalker category in her eyes. Not fair in my book. I've never initiated a chat with her on facebook. It's always been her. My last text to her was on Friday which simply said 'have a nice weekend' - there are plenty of women I know who I send messages to every now and again. How are you texts - I don't see whats wrong with that.

I think when the dust settles in a few weeks I will send a message to the mutual friend who set us up. And say 'thanks for everything'