Two girls, what to do?

[ReaderGuy]

Ok, so here's the story. I'm friends with these two awesome girls who I met last September. We were walking around the city looking for someplace to eat, and a guy randomly comes up to us with a couple flowers in his hand and starts talking to us. He talks with us telling one of them to kiss me, and asking me if I want to buy one of them a flower. I kinda just stand there wierdly and dont really say anything. It was really awkward, and after the guy realizes he's not going to make some money he asks us all to hug, which we do. And i kind of feel a little bad, since I had just given some random lady 5 bucks like 10 mns earlier to get her off our back (this was in dallas haha). And the thing is I actually do want to be more than friends with them if they want to. They are both great, but I actually like one more than the other.

So I was thinking, maybe I should go get a flower and actually give it to one of them, referring back to that day when i could of bought her one. However, I really like hanging out as a group, and dont want to make anything super awkward...and at the same time i want to do something a little daring like that and get a flower. Ive always been shy and have never been in a relationship and I really want to find one in college...

Im also worried that if i did do it, and she didnt respond favorably, that i would make it awkward with everyone, hurting my chances with the other one if I decided to go that route later.

We are all freshman in college...and they have pretty much been best friends since elementary school. Some times I feel as if maybe they both like me, but I'm not sure if that's just me being overly optimistic in my favor. I don't want to screw something up. Should I wait a year and just see how things go? Im afraid if I wait too long they will either find someone (i mean hey, its college, and they are two beautiful girls), or we will just get stuck with this group thing and it will be hard to do anything. They are actually some of the very few friends I have in college that i can hang out with day to day.

So what should I do? Maybe I should just forget about it and be wait? I could just wait and see what happens in the next couple months of college, although I feel like im not going anywhere as we are ALWAYs hanging out as a group since these two are best friends and do everything together. Is it better to take a risk or be safe? Im a little worried that they both feel something and it would just make things more complicated. At the same time I WANT a relationship so bad and ive never been this close friends with girls.


Wow, thanks for reading that...I realize in my ramblings I was probably a little repetitive.

 

[Gutted]

Having quickly read that and it being past 4am here, forgive me if you've already answered this question. How are things between you and these girls at the moment? If you guys are all good then don't do anything. If it ain't broke, don't break it, lol.

I'm in a sort of similar situation to you. I met these 2 French Girls last year and I like one of them. I've not said anything about it though and I try to treat them both equally (Hard work at times) As it stands, I don't think I should risk awkwardness or worse. So I do nothing but continue as I am. If it ain't broke, lol

 

[Okiedokes]

You want to be in a relationship really bad. Well you may just find this with someone else in college. Plenty of other girls, even if you don't see it now, there's the chance right there. I kinda sense that the risk of losing your friendships would be more painful than not having a relationship. You have a good thing going on right now. I'd just go with it how it is.

 

[ReaderGuy]

You want to be in a relationship really bad. Well you may just find this with someone else in college. Plenty of other girls, even if you don't see it now, there's the chance right there. I kinda sense that the risk of losing your friendships would be more painful than not having a relationship. You have a good thing going on right now. I'd just go with it how it is.

In the whole semester they are really only the only girls I've talked too/am friends with. And really its not even because of me- my roommate actually met them, then introduced me to them...I was kind of lucky in that my roommate found a girlfriend right after and has never hung out with us. I am horrible at meeting people.

Even though you may say oh "you will learn to meet people/ you can meet someone else", the truth is I'm not sure if I can or will be able to. But yes, I do value the friendship we have as a group, but I still don't know if I could stand it to watch them grow into relationships while I just hang there...I know that's something I just kinda have to decide on my own though. But thanks. It helps hearing opinions.

 

[Limlim]

Get cup and a video camera

 

[AFrozenSoul]

If you are attracted to one or both of them, stop waiting and go for it. The worst that happens is you are already just a friend in their eyes and you get rejected. What is the best thing that can happen? You get a girlfriend? There is no time like the present. This forum is the result of what happens when you do not take action.

Things might be a little awkward at first. However, once you get over it. You will be much more attractive to other girls because you have two beautiful girls hanging outwwith you.

 

[PyramidHead]

So, as far as I was told, you may have dates with both of them, but not with both of them at the same time. Try to find out, which one you like more or which one of them likes you more. Then you should decide, which one of them you want to get serious with, unless you want to try the "Bigamy Route" ... just this small advice: Don't take this last choice.

Or you wait until one of them gets into a relationship and then you date the other.

 

[Barbaloot]

If you want to stay friends, don't try to date either of them. If you are happy with your group, be happy with your group. Once you cross that line, a lot of people aren't so keen on trying to stay friends.

 

[Gutted]

Get cup and a video camera

I have visited this topic a second time because I was thinking this lol. Don't get that Girl a flower. Get her a cup

 

[ReaderGuy]

So, as far as I was told, you may have dates with both of them, but not with both of them at the same time. Try to find out, which one you like more or which one of them likes you more. Then you should decide, which one of them you want to get serious with, unless you want to try the "Bigamy Route" ... just this small advice: Don't take this last choice.

Or you wait until one of them gets into a relationship and then you date the other.

That last suggestion actually crossed my mind. Just wait until one of them finds someone so it wont be as awkward when I ask the other one.

If you are attracted to one or both of them, stop waiting and go for it. The worst that happens is you are already just a friend in their eyes and you get rejected. What is the best thing that can happen? You get a girlfriend? There is no time like the present. This forum is the result of what happens when you do not take action.

Things might be a little awkward at first. However, once you get over it. You will be much more attractive to other girls because you have two beautiful girls hanging outwwith you.

Yeah, I do realize my inactivity may just push me into the friendzone. Though either way, if i get accepted or rejected, it would probably cause tension in the group. One thing I just dont like is that they are always together, which makes it difficult for me to get one alone. Right before we went on winter break I actually got to spend like 2 hours with one, since the other had left early, and i enjoyed it.

Just yesterday I decided to text them both separately about something they both went to (a football game), and I'm pretty sure they were together at the time i was texting them...which was probably why the conversations werent very long; they both ended after 10-15 texts. Though i was the one who didnt respond back. One of them just texted a "haha" and the other one just texted a short sentence, so I just assumed they were getting tired of texting already (could i have been wrong?) And i could only imagine it was wierd for them, since they were texting the same person.

 

[AFrozenSoul]

Yeah, I do realize my inactivity may just push me into the friendzone. Though either way, if i get accepted or rejected, it would probably cause tension in the group. One thing I just dont like is that they are always together, which makes it difficult for me to get one alone. Right before we went on winter break I actually got to spend like 2 hours with one, since the other had left early, and i enjoyed it.

Just yesterday I decided to text them both separately about something they both went to (a football game), and I'm pretty sure they were together at the time i was texting them...which was probably why the conversations werent very long; they both ended after 10-15 texts. Though i was the one who didnt respond back. One of them just texted a "haha" and the other one just texted a short sentence, so I just assumed they were getting tired of texting already (could i have been wrong?) And i could only imagine it was wierd for them, since they were texting the same person.

Well yeah, of course choosing one or both as potential mates is going to cause tension. However, you know good friends can get over it. Things might be rough at first. However, things will stabilize. Plus planting a few seeds of lust cannot hurt. I cannot really say much more than that.

As for your texting.. yeah I cannot comment. Texting is supposed to be a convinence. Not a way to carry on a 24 hour conversation. Who is to say that she did not have an errand? Just calm down a bit. Maybe wait for one of them to text you.

 

[ReaderGuy]

Planting a few seeds of lust lol...

One of them actually texted me back yesterday and we had a nice conversation. Of course I'm completely at a loss as to whether she actually likes me or is texting me as a friend. We do have a good amount of common interests; I could see it being either way. I'm not even sure if I should text her back again in the next day or two. I feel like I would be making my feelings too obvious and I go back to college this weekend anyway.

And thanks everyone for the advice. I will probably wait and see how things go. Part of me doesnt want to make things weird, part of me is extremely shy. If one of them finds someone I will definitely be galvanized into action with the other.

Maybe when I'm looking at the prospect of a lonely summer I will be pushed into action.

 

[theraab]

If you have the stomach to do this, one thing you could do is go to the one you like more (call her Ann) and tell her your plan to get the girl you like a little bit less (call her Betty) the flower with the explanation that it would be in lieu of the one the guy was selling. But, tell her you don't want things to get weird in your group if things don't work out, and so you wanted Ann's advice on the matter. See how she reacts.
For some reason (and I don't know why this is), many of the women I have dated over the years become more interested when a guy is going after their friend (or someone they know).

 

[ReaderGuy]

If you have the stomach to do this, one thing you could do is go to the one you like more (call her Ann) and tell her your plan to get the girl you like a little bit less (call her Betty) the flower with the explanation that it would be in lieu of the one the guy was selling. But, tell her you don't want things to get weird in your group if things don't work out, and so you wanted Ann's advice on the matter. See how she reacts.
For some reason (and I don't know why this is), many of the women I have dated over the years become more interested when a guy is going after their friend (or someone they know).

Wow, that is an interesting suggestion. I definitely dont have the guts to do that! I probably dont even have the guts to give the flower to "Ann"...Although, I see the logic... it would probably prevent awkwardness since I'd be getting one of their advice, and either way, I would probably be able to get close to one of them. If Ann really doesnt feel that way about me, then she will let me go after Betty. If she did feel something then she would (hopefully) say something.

It really does seem like an interesting idea, but I'm just the wrong person to do it. And plus, I would hope Ann would do something if she liked me, but I would be afraid she would just suppress it because of my confession for Betty. And since they are close friends I bet they would share every single detail that occurred.

 

[AFrozenSoul]

Planting a few seeds of lust lol...

One of them actually texted me back yesterday and we had a nice conversation. Of course I'm completely at a loss as to whether she actually likes me or is texting me as a friend. We do have a good amount of common interests; I could see it being either way. I'm not even sure if I should text her back again in the next day or two. I feel like I would be making my feelings too obvious and I go back to college this weekend anyway.

And thanks everyone for the advice. I will probably wait and see how things go. Part of me doesnt want to make things weird, part of me is extremely shy. If one of them finds someone I will definitely be galvanized into action with the other.

Maybe when I'm looking at the prospect of a lonely summer I will be pushed into action.

One more bit of advice, in person time will do you far more good than texting. You can also probe her level of uhhh mate interest with physical actions and such. -_-... you know you can see mirroring, see how she reacts to you touching her hand, look for dilation of the pupils when you look at her, see if she plays with her hair a lot. THOSE kinds of things.

Plus in person you can get drunk with her. Then you can say things and if you are rejected blame the booze. Just some ideas to consider. The problem with being a man. Things do not just play out for us. Things can just play out for girls, not for men. We are the ones who are supposed to be the aggressors.... sucks but it is true. You wait and you won't get the date. If you take action you will get action... eventually.

I still recommend trying to date either one of them before you move onto other girls. Planting seeds of interest and lust can bring forth favorable things. Such as jealousy leading into a new relationship. Well that and a drunken bedtime romp .

 

[ReaderGuy]

Planting a few seeds of lust lol...

One of them actually texted me back yesterday and we had a nice conversation. Of course I'm completely at a loss as to whether she actually likes me or is texting me as a friend. We do have a good amount of common interests; I could see it being either way. I'm not even sure if I should text her back again in the next day or two. I feel like I would be making my feelings too obvious and I go back to college this weekend anyway.

And thanks everyone for the advice. I will probably wait and see how things go. Part of me doesnt want to make things weird, part of me is extremely shy. If one of them finds someone I will definitely be galvanized into action with the other.

Maybe when I'm looking at the prospect of a lonely summer I will be pushed into action.

One more bit of advice, in person time will do you far more good than texting. You can also probe her level of uhhh mate interest with physical actions and such. -_-... you know you can see mirroring, see how she reacts to you touching her hand, look for dilation of the pupils when you look at her, see if she plays with her hair a lot. THOSE kinds of things.

Plus in person you can get drunk with her. Then you can say things and if you are rejected blame the booze. Just some ideas to consider. The problem with being a man. Things do not just play out for us. Things can just play out for girls, not for men. We are the ones who are supposed to be the aggressors.... sucks but it is true. You wait and you won't get the date. If you take action you will get action... eventually.

I still recommend trying to date either one of them before you move onto other girls. Planting seeds of interest and lust can bring forth favorable things. Such as jealousy leading into a new relationship. Well that and a drunken bedtime romp .

Thanks for the advice. Makes me realize I need to do something sometime soon/ in the next semester probably. If it were just one of them and I knew them as well I did now, I would honestly go give them that flower. But I think itll get easier for me to talk to them about my feelings the longer we are friends. This probably could have also gone in the "Shyness" or "Social Problems" category seeing as how im extremely introverted

In retrospect, the situation with the flower was perfect, even if I thought it was super awkward. It brought up to their minds something I had been thinking about. And it gives me the awesome opportunity to give one a flower later

 

[AFrozenSoul]

Thanks for the advice. Makes me realize I need to do something sometime soon/ in the next semester probably. If it were just one of them and I knew them as well I did now, I would honestly go give them that flower. But I think itll get easier for me to talk to them about my feelings the longer we are friends. This probably could have also gone in the "Shyness" or "Social Problems" category seeing as how im extremely introverted

In retrospect, the situation with the flower was perfect, even if I thought it was super awkward. It brought up to their minds something I had been thinking about. And it gives me the awesome opportunity to give one a flower later

Hmm well if you want too. Remember you are in college, and they are freshmen. They will have plenty of other guys swooning them. Your position as a man to hate other men with them will become more vital.

 

[ReaderGuy]

Thanks for the advice. Makes me realize I need to do something sometime soon/ in the next semester probably. If it were just one of them and I knew them as well I did now, I would honestly go give them that flower. But I think itll get easier for me to talk to them about my feelings the longer we are friends. This probably could have also gone in the "Shyness" or "Social Problems" category seeing as how im extremely introverted

In retrospect, the situation with the flower was perfect, even if I thought it was super awkward. It brought up to their minds something I had been thinking about. And it gives me the awesome opportunity to give one a flower later

Hmm well if you want too. Remember you are in college, and they are freshmen. They will have plenty of other guys swooning them. Your position as a man to hate other men with them will become more vital.

Hmmm... You're making me rethink this. They are pretty social people...Gah.

 

[bodafuko]

Threesome?

 

[ReaderGuy]

Threesome?

Lol I dont think so. Id be happy to have one person for the first time.