Any blokes ever considered buying a 3rd world bride and just hoping she's grateful and nice?
Has crossed my mind a few times. It would be embarassing with friends and family knowing, but possibly better than this misery...?
"whom you really have no idea as to what's going on in their head."
This is my problem... I do know what's going on in their heads. I was a professional poker player for nearly 10 years and I am extremely good at reading body language, expressions and human motivation.
I also don't think it's helpful to crack on to a girl, make her uncomfortable and get myself even more depressed, when I know and can see she is thinking 'what is this weird ugly dude doing talking to me, he's funny, but fekin hell he's weird looking, I hope he doesn't try anything on'
I don't need to have cracked on to women to know that. I've been on plenty of dates through dating agencies, blind dates etc... it's not that I've never tried. Girls always just say the same thing - sorry James, you're a lovely guy, just not my type.
I've also seen it from the other side when some really unattractive girl comes on to me and I am the one panicking and being put in an awkward and uncomfortable position of having to turn them down without hurting their feelings. I wish most women were as careful about not saying anything to upset blokes, but women seem to think men can take it and they can be very, very cruel and spiteful in the way they say no when they are approached by a stranger in a bar. I've seen good looking men reduced to tears by cruel put downs and I'm far too sensitive to get over any more horrible and cruel memories of evil, cackling women tell me I'm crazy for trying.
It isn't no guts no glory... it's no guts for good reason and to reduce shame and embarassment for myself and others.
Asking an ugly person to 'get out there and try' is very dangerous advice given they would be turned down by any girl they went near and I'm already suicidally depressed.
and yes, obviously I wish I didn't care what a girl looked like.
if a girl is good enough for me to want her, then there is no way she could want me. If she's a bit of a retard or just hideous then she might be lonely enough to settle for me... that isn't a recipe for a happy future either though is it?
FYI, I know the other photos didnt really show how unattractive I am so people keep denying it. I tend to delete any photo that does - which is 90% of them - but here's one that gives a better idea than the last two and shows 50% of my ugly side, so people stop saying 'you're not unattractive' and irritating me.
This is not the kind of human male face which a female could be physically attracted to. My face is just nose, lips and baggy eyes and my physique is impossibly skinny.