Want to be told im loves, attractive and sexy

[JustALonelyGuy]

Im still single and ahve been for a while. I want to come across a sweet single woman (off or online) who just loves me for me. Me - compassioante, kind, thouhtful, lovin and understnading. Its so hard knowin that people are locking themesleves up into a world of untrust or superficiality. Im scared of bein 50 alone and the negative labels that may arise out of that.

Any thouhts?

 

[duff]

Im still single and ahve been for a while. I want to come across a sweet single woman (off or online) who just loves me for me. Me - compassioante, kind, thouhtful, lovin and understnading. Its so hard knowin that people are locking themesleves up into a world of untrust or superficiality. Im scared of bein 50 alone and the negative labels that may arise out of that.

Any thouhts?

yes forget about negative labels, why worry what others think ? People who mean nothing to you.

People want a lot of things in life, it doesn't always happen. I am sure there are plenty of sweet and single women out there, the trick is meeting them. It will probably happen when you least expect it too, don't put too much pressure on yourself. A girlfriend should be the icing on the top of the cake of your well being and happiness !

 

[JustALonelyGuy]

Im still single and ahve been for a while. I want to come across a sweet single woman (off or online) who just loves me for me. Me - compassioante, kind, thouhtful, lovin and understnading. Its so hard knowin that people are locking themesleves up into a world of untrust or superficiality. Im scared of bein 50 alone and the negative labels that may arise out of that.

Any thouhts?

yes forget about negative labels, why worry what others think ? People who mean nothing to you.

People want a lot of things in life, it doesn't always happen. I am sure there are plenty of sweet and single women out there, the trick is meeting them. It will probably happen when you least expect it too, don't put too much pressure on yourself. A girlfriend should be the icing on the top of the cake of your well being and happiness !

Thanks duff, your advice helps alot and is appreciated.

 

[Lady X]

Well, if it helps, I think you're not an unattractive guy at all - your sideys infact totally rock!


I get what you're saying though. We all feel that way deep down - love is the essential core of what it means to be human.

But I second what Duff says, don't worry about any labels that come with being single. I used to get mithered incessantly as a young single woman by my grandmother who would happily have had me married off at 20 lol. Nothing much changes though, now I am married, I'm just mithered incessantly about when I am going to have children.

You can never please everyone - but that is not the purpose of your life.

I really do believe there is someone out there for everyone, its just finding them that's tough.

I met my husband on a dating website, something I would never have done years before it. But I gave something new a shot, and while I did meet one or two weirdos, I did find a total gem.

There is no need to rush though. I know people who are with someone they are not happy with, all for the sake of "being with someone". And all those years they spent unhappy, if they had waited instead of rushing into something with someone unsuitable, they could've met the perfect person.


Having seen your other posts on here, I know I wouldn't be pushing my own beliefs on you here to say that you and I both know that spiritually, as people, we are part of a much bigger picture. Finding how we fit into that, and who we fit into that with, is so much more important, rewarding and fulfilling than rushing into something empty for the sake of having "something" - no matter how sexy they think you may be lol.

 

[JustALonelyGuy]

Well, if it helps, I think you're not an unattractive guy at all - your sideys infact totally rock!


I get what you're saying though. We all feel that way deep down - love is the essential core of what it means to be human.

But I second what Duff says, don't worry about any labels that come with being single. I used to get mithered incessantly as a young single woman by my grandmother who would happily have had me married off at 20 lol. Nothing much changes though, now I am married, I'm just mithered incessantly about when I am going to have children.

You can never please everyone - but that is not the purpose of your life.

I really do believe there is someone out there for everyone, its just finding them that's tough.

I met my husband on a dating website, something I would never have done years before it. But I gave something new a shot, and while I did meet one or two weirdos, I did find a total gem.

There is no need to rush though. I know people who are with someone they are not happy with, all for the sake of "being with someone". And all those years they spent unhappy, if they had waited instead of rushing into something with someone unsuitable, they could've met the perfect person.


Having seen your other posts on here, I know I wouldn't be pushing my own beliefs on you here to say that you and I both know that spiritually, as people, we are part of a much bigger picture. Finding how we fit into that, and who we fit into that with, is so much more important, rewarding and fulfilling than rushing into something empty for the sake of having "something" - no matter how sexy they think you may be lol.




Hi lady, nice to see you aian. Thank you likin my sideburns! Youe met you husband on a dating site? well, thats great.

Im open minded when it comes to meeting people. Online dating is defiantely a good thing for alot of people. I did that too with my previous gfs. ia dmit without it, id had never had met them and had a relationship.

Yes you are right. It is important I look into my spirituality more as I am trying to and yes there is a bigger picture out these as you say

Thank you for replying I look forward to people here such as you, duff, rosebolt, Lilianna and ladyforsaken and others.

Love & light to you all

 

[duff]

Well, if it helps, I think you're not an unattractive guy at all - your sideys infact totally rock!


I get what you're saying though. We all feel that way deep down - love is the essential core of what it means to be human.

But I second what Duff says, don't worry about any labels that come with being single. I used to get mithered incessantly as a young single woman by my grandmother who would happily have had me married off at 20 lol. Nothing much changes though, now I am married, I'm just mithered incessantly about when I am going to have children.

You can never please everyone - but that is not the purpose of your life.

I really do believe there is someone out there for everyone, its just finding them that's tough.

I met my husband on a dating website, something I would never have done years before it. But I gave something new a shot, and while I did meet one or two weirdos, I did find a total gem.

There is no need to rush though. I know people who are with someone they are not happy with, all for the sake of "being with someone". And all those years they spent unhappy, if they had waited instead of rushing into something with someone unsuitable, they could've met the perfect person.


Having seen your other posts on here, I know I wouldn't be pushing my own beliefs on you here to say that you and I both know that spiritually, as people, we are part of a much bigger picture. Finding how we fit into that, and who we fit into that with, is so much more important, rewarding and fulfilling than rushing into something empty for the sake of having "something" - no matter how sexy they think you may be lol.

There seems to be a craze at work with people saying 'that's why your single !' to me. Usually they say it loudly in front of aload of customers. Usually after I have made an observation of some kind that doesn't go down very well with the women I work with.

My answer from now on is 'I'm single because I want to be !'

I like the freedom and the fact I can do what I want when I like.

 

[missyou]

I think you will definitely find it. You seem nice enough. Someone will appreciate you for that. I don't think you will have to wait till 50 either

 

[ardour]

You're a sexy beast! Better?

Excellent sideburns by the way.

 

[ladyforsaken]

Heh. See JALG - you're loved....or is it just your sideburns really? Told you they're blinding people!

Just thought I'd add on, having known you is such a pleasure. And as I've told you, any woman would be lucky to have you for your good-natured personality and always being kind and caring towards others. I guess a lot of people nowadays are just insecure really to open up so easily.

 

[JustALonelyGuy]

Heh. See JALG - you're loved....or is it just your sideburns really? Told you they're blinding people!

Just thought I'd add on, having known you is such a pleasure. And as I've told you, any woman would be lucky to have you for your good-natured personality and always being kind and caring towards others. I guess a lot of people nowadays are just insecure really to open up so easily.

*hugs* thank you always lady. You are very special in my life and Im grateful for you friendship always <3

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You're a sexy beast! Better?

Excellent sideburns by the way.

Thanks rdor that made my day!

 

[LeaningIntoTheMuse]

I know what you mean. Sometimes I wonder where that dream girl is?

I can't lose hope, and you can't either. There is always hope.

 

[Regumika]

1. You want a girl that fits your description/profile. Right?
2. You want a girl that will like you for who you are. Right?

who doesnt want 1 and 2? (and same in reverse, for what women look for in men)

now, lets think. do you fit the #1 for the person that fits your #1?
does #2 (being yourself) put you in a situation where you will find such person?

lets take an example of... someone who is into anime and cosplaying. or a hardcore gamer. (sure they come in all different sizes, but there are stereotypes and stereotypes are true). will the girls that like gamers be the type of girls that the particular gamer wants? What if the gamer wants a hot and cute girl that will serve him while he plays all day? a homebody servant. Would the homebody servant (even if they are willing to do so) really settle for a gamer? (im a gamer). shouldnt they shoot higher?

so, in the end the likelyhood of the gamer finding a normal hot and cute girl to serve him all day and night, doesnt cheat, with no anxiety, no disorders, no trust issues is slim. So what does he do? either change his profile for his girl, or change himself to fit his profile girl.

 

[Moe'sTavern]

1. You want a girl that fits your description/profile. Right?
2. You want a girl that will like you for who you are. Right?

who doesnt want 1 and 2? (and same in reverse, for what women look for in men)

now, lets think. do you fit the #1 for the person that fits your #1?
does #2 (being yourself) put you in a situation where you will find such person?

lets take an example of... someone who is into anime and cosplaying. or a hardcore gamer. (sure they come in all different sizes, but there are stereotypes and stereotypes are true). will the girls that like gamers be the type of girls that the particular gamer wants? What if the gamer wants a hot and cute girl that will serve him while he plays all day? a homebody servant. Would the homebody servant (even if they are willing to do so) really settle for a gamer? (im a gamer). shouldnt they shoot higher?

so, in the end the likelyhood of the gamer finding a normal hot and cute girl to serve him all day and night, doesnt cheat, with no anxiety, no disorders, no trust issues is slim. So what does he do? either change his profile for his girl, or change himself to fit his profile girl.

homebody servant? Isn't that a little extreme?

 

[LeaningIntoTheMuse]

You are ruling out the kind of women that are geek chasers. They do exist, you know...

 

[duff]

You are ruling out the kind of women that are geek chasers. They do exist, you know...

I'm not sure I am a geek. Loser maybe ? Nice guy loser ?

 

[ladyforsaken]

I'm not sure I am a geek. Loser maybe ? Nice guy loser ?

Geeks, nerds, weirdos are cool. You're a nice guy, full stop. Not a loser.

 

[Regumika]

You are ruling out the kind of women that are geek chasers. They do exist, you know...

I am not saying they don't exist. You will then know your odds. And yes, I went to the extreme to explain my point. Hard to explain a point when you can take it multiple way. This way, it can't be misunderstood.

Take a homeless guy for example. What chances does a homeless bum have with a, popular writer? or someone of mention? Probably zero. Unless for some reason he is a super cool and attractive homeless bum, because otherwise, he probably has nothing else going for him. But unless you get to know the person you can't make that judgement right?

So lets take the OP for example. He, probably likes girls. See's one and likes one. Right? but wait, how much of the girl does he really know? Maybe he is the type that requires looks to pass before he can move on to personality, who knows. Maybe the OP doesn't have a lot of requirements for #1. Maybe anything goes with him. I don't know, but I'm throwing the possibility out there so he can consider what the Girls are thinking.

Put yourself in their shoes, and put them in your shoes. Perhaps it may all be clear and give you the drive to do something about it.

 

[Skid Row 89]

You are ruling out the kind of women that are geek chasers. They do exist, you know...

I'm not sure I am a geek. Loser maybe ? Nice guy loser ?

I would say the same for me. I'm dependent on there being women chasing after a questionably lovable loser

 

[Drew88]

This is nothing but a fantasy, unless you have money. Then girls will tell you anything.