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EveWasFramed
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What do you think is the biggest mistake that men/women make in their relationships?
What do you think is the biggest mistake that men/women make in their relationships?
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For both sexes: Being too emotional (or, conversely, not emotional enough)
Personally, immaturity has bugged me in the past.
(Disclaimer: I have not been in a relationship for about three years, so perhaps I'm not the best one to answer this question)
Personally, immaturity has bugged me in the past.
(Disclaimer: I have not been in a relationship for about three years, so perhaps I'm not the best one to answer this question)
Brian
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-Going to the extremes of over-emotional or under-emotional
-Failing to communicate
-Spending *too* much time with eachother
-Not compromising, or compromising too much (not being able to say no)
Essentially, extremes are bad. Just be moderate about things and everything will be fine if two people are compatible with eachother.
-Failing to communicate
-Spending *too* much time with eachother
-Not compromising, or compromising too much (not being able to say no)
Essentially, extremes are bad. Just be moderate about things and everything will be fine if two people are compatible with eachother.
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EveWasFramed
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Brian said:
That's a great answer, Brian.
Lonesome Crow
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nah....
They forget to treat one another like Ice Cream after a while.
I gave her a piece of rock just to break the ice when i first met her.
she had a wtf? look in her eyes.lmao
"It's a sign of love," i told her...and all she had to do was keep that rock near by
to remind her of the love we had for one another.
It took her a while to figure out that it was a piece of granted.lol
They forget to treat one another like Ice Cream after a while.
I gave her a piece of rock just to break the ice when i first met her.
she had a wtf? look in her eyes.lmao
"It's a sign of love," i told her...and all she had to do was keep that rock near by
to remind her of the love we had for one another.
It took her a while to figure out that it was a piece of granted.lol
Unacceptance
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They forget to be friends first.
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EveWasFramed
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Unacceptance said:
Excellent answer, Unacceptance.
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Bluey
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Drake said:
Ye I think your right. I think ppl forget that there other half is there because they wont to be there and not because they have to be there.
I also liked Unacceptance answer.
SunWeb
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I think they forgot thinking about one another. Especialy women. They think if he spent less time with her than he don't like her. They forgot that there is work and money won't come from the sky.
Papabear
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In my relationships the key things have been being taken for granted.
Being controlling is also very bad. In my area people want to be able to do whatever they want in relationships but don't want their mate to be doing anything else except sitting at home when they aren't with them. This ranges from emo-kids to rednecks, younger people to older.
I think another thing is messing up with the empathy thing. When I was in the Navy my Fiancee just couldn't understand what that meant. I would have to go on duty or to do something and she would get upset at me for having to go do this, whereas I couldn't understand the things she had to do for college or whatever.
Being controlling is also very bad. In my area people want to be able to do whatever they want in relationships but don't want their mate to be doing anything else except sitting at home when they aren't with them. This ranges from emo-kids to rednecks, younger people to older.
I think another thing is messing up with the empathy thing. When I was in the Navy my Fiancee just couldn't understand what that meant. I would have to go on duty or to do something and she would get upset at me for having to go do this, whereas I couldn't understand the things she had to do for college or whatever.
Gothmother
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Biggest mistake alot of people make, they make more of the *** and not the converstation and once the *** has gone, they feel there is nothing else.
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Satyr
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Expecting every moment to be complete perfection.
Real love means being there for her, even when she looks like she's been asleep for three years and her hair looks like the cat chewed it up and spit it back out.
If you can do that, then you know you have something special happening.
Real love means being there for her, even when she looks like she's been asleep for three years and her hair looks like the cat chewed it up and spit it back out.
If you can do that, then you know you have something special happening.
lovehurtme
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I don't know. In my last relationship, he had some growing to do before he was ready to be as serious as he thought he was ready to be. The one before that.....we had different opinions on what being faithful was. I don't know if anything could have saved my past relationships. I could go on, but this is not answering the question...
Ok, I think both men and women are scared to tell their partners what they really need to be happy. I also think sometimes, when a woman does too much, a man thinks that everything the woman does is a given. He starts to take her for granted. Women do the same thing. I had an ex that gave me a credit card attached to his account. He told me to buy whatever I needed. I soon began to expect those type of things. Since our break-up, I have learned that men like that are rare. Likewise, when we were together, if he was ever lonely or needed something, I'd drop everything and go take care of him. He soon expected that, and he calls me now to tell me that his current girlfriend does not do that stuff. So the moral:
1) Be honest about what you want and need in the relationship.
2) Be honest if you are not happy.
3) Don't take the other person for granted.
Ok, I think both men and women are scared to tell their partners what they really need to be happy. I also think sometimes, when a woman does too much, a man thinks that everything the woman does is a given. He starts to take her for granted. Women do the same thing. I had an ex that gave me a credit card attached to his account. He told me to buy whatever I needed. I soon began to expect those type of things. Since our break-up, I have learned that men like that are rare. Likewise, when we were together, if he was ever lonely or needed something, I'd drop everything and go take care of him. He soon expected that, and he calls me now to tell me that his current girlfriend does not do that stuff. So the moral:
1) Be honest about what you want and need in the relationship.
2) Be honest if you are not happy.
3) Don't take the other person for granted.
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Red_Apple
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Not being realistic or practical about where the relationship is going, or how the future could be with that other person.
fadingaway22
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I think that people often lose their identity in relationships. People become too comfortable, and they are unable to instill attraction into the relationship. I am not necessarily talking about physical attraction, but that one transcendental feeling that pulls the other person forward. The concept of attraction is one that has eluded me from time to time. Attraction is something that we seek out, yet are afraid to develope due to our insecurities. Thus, we give away our power in a relationship. Essentially, that was a crucial mistake I had made in one of my past serious relationships. I had lost my identity and had given away my power. I became a " yes dear " type of guy instead of that dominant " alpha male " that initially attracted my former lover. I am currently back on the path of rediscovery, a task that is daunting , yet imperative. It is amazing how much of a difference that little sparkle makes in the relationship.
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wolfshadow
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Not figuring out beforehand if they actually like one another enough to make co-habitation worthwhile, something that often is almost impossible when meeting under normal circumtances.
It's easy to fall in love (and I don't think anyone should be too hard on themselves for making mistakes whilst thus afflicted) but "being in love" is a leaf in the wind, a teardrop in the rain, it is as ephemeral as it is seductive. Unfortunately, not always enough to lead to lasting friendship and respect, which is what I believe that a solid partnership entails.
It's easy to fall in love (and I don't think anyone should be too hard on themselves for making mistakes whilst thus afflicted) but "being in love" is a leaf in the wind, a teardrop in the rain, it is as ephemeral as it is seductive. Unfortunately, not always enough to lead to lasting friendship and respect, which is what I believe that a solid partnership entails.
