What have you done lately to make this forum a better place?

[Naleena]

It seems a lot of people agree that this forum isn't the best place to be. The general consensus is that people want more support, more friendly people, etc. As I posted in another thread, I believe change begins with us. YOU have to be what you want to see in the world..or in this case, the forum. I also would like to see more support and this place reach it's potiential. As members it is EVERYONES responsibility to do thier part in making it so. SO what have YOU done lately for this forum or for the people here? How many people have you reached out to, or how many posts have you answered?

 

[Steel]

I think this raises a fair point. Too often people point the finger at others, while ignoring their own role in things. A thread like this has a much more positive spin

 

[EveWasFramed]

uh huh, I agree. Im gonna go send some random person a hug in PM.
Seriously!

 

[Naval_Fluff]

I can attest to Eve's statement I don't know what I've done really, come to think of it. I like to believe that I've given at least one person some good advice, but I'm not sure that the things I say actually do anything for anyone...

 

[EveWasFramed]

You do plenty! You positive attitude and good nature always bring a smile to my face.

 

[Estreen]

I need to step up more. :s I've been getting helped lately so now it is my turn to try and offer my support to someone else.

 

[EveWasFramed]

Yay!

 

[Punisher]

I try to give advice to people if i've been through the same experiences or have some knowledge on the subject.

I don't think i'm very good at giving advice, but i have had a few "well said"s and a few other nice comments for trying

I made a thread for the "writers" on the forum, but it was ignored . I could say what i'm really thinking about that, but i don't really care. If i see something that will help (or even be of interest to someone), i'll make a thread on it

Oh, and the best thing i was a part of was getting two members here get together (you know who you are) that made my face like this --> YAY!

 

[Brian]

I think this is an important subject. I don't think we have any cliques here, but I do think we have a sort of established group of 'regulars' who have either been here for a long time or are in chat a lot. The irony here is that it's sort of difficult for people like us -shy, lonely, or what have you- to make an impression like that. It's good we're close, but we need to be taking more than a half-interest in new people.

I haven't been very active on the forum's more serious threads because I've been dealing with some stressful things, and I sort of feel like I need some new things to say to people to help; I relate and offer advice through my own experiences, and in some ways I think I'm becoming a broken record on my part.

On chat, though, I've been working to show genuine interest in unfamiliar faces and include them in discussion. I think that's a big part of feeling included as part of that tight knit group that might initially seem daunting (just like in real life), even if it shouldn't appear so.

 

[Jesse]

I always like to harp on balance. I agree with Nal, but I wanted to add that sometimes each of us have things that are bothering us too and I hope everyone feels comfortable reaching out. So please, help and comfort each other, but don't forget that you need hugs too and we'll be here for you.

 

[cheaptrickfan]

I try to be supportive where I can, and if I can relate to someone else, I do my best to show that they're not alone in what they're going through by sharing a bit of my own experience. Sometimes a virtual hug is the best I can do. Quite often, just joking, playing games or posting back and forth with others about random things helps me feel connected with people here.

I don't participate in chat here, and although I do see that there is a bond there amongst chatters, I haven't felt that there's a badge of exclusivity there. I just ignore the inside jokes. No biggie.

 

[EveWasFramed]

+10

 

[Naleena]

I always like to harp on balance. I agree with Nal, but I wanted to add that sometimes each of us have things that are bothering us too and I hope everyone feels comfortable reaching out. So please, help and comfort each other, but don't forget that you need hugs too and we'll be here for you.

Jessie, thank you so much for pointing this out. I am glad that you did. It is always ok to reach out and yes, everyone needs a shoulder from time to time. No one is above being human and having problems. And giving support without getting it in return is a sure way of someone draining themselves dry.

 

[Oceanmist23]

I decided to take a break from the forum in order to try and deal with some personal issues,
and I left a message in my profile Bio about that so that members wouldn't wonder why I barely post any more.
I don't know if that helps to make the forum a better place, but I hope it shows that I've come to care enough about the members here
to at least let them know if I won't be able to post much or reply to PMs for a while.

 

[jales]

its sad that people refuse to even try to understand what people mean when they criticize this site. it has nothing to do with what someone does to make this forum better, it has to do with how people feel as a result of the way certain close groups here behave. my goodness.

 

[EveWasFramed]

This thread has remained positive so far. We should keep it that way. We don't have nearly enough positive here.

 

[Jesse]

This thread has remained positive so far. We should keep it that way. We don't have nearly enough positive here.

What?!?1 You have 44 positive! Don't get greedy

I'd like to thank everyone who's helped me with things. I'm really glad to have this site.

 

[EveWasFramed]

Let's get rid of reps and get the guestbook back! Everyone PM Bjarne!! !

 

[Jesse]

Let's get rid of reps and get the guestbook back! Everyone PM Bjarne!! !

Oh yeah true that! Guestbook is wayy better

Jessie, thank you so much for pointing this out. I am glad that you did. It is always ok to reach out and yes, everyone needs a shoulder from time to time. No one is above being human and having problems. And giving support without getting it in return is a sure way of someone draining themselves dry.

Sure! You said it very well too. I hope everyone remembers to go about things this way.

 

[epileptic]

me joining this site is my contribution to it p:] .. i know, i know, i shouldn't have... But, I did.