jales
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I remember when I was looking my two big issues were
-I wanted someone who was not religious and where I lived everyone seemed to believe in the Bible.
-I wanted someone who understood loneliness. I believe that relationships heal loneliness and I didnt want someone who didn't understand that. If they didn't how was I to be sure that they would offer themselves to me if I ever got lonely. I'm not explaining it well, but I wanted someone who had experienced both depression and loneliness. They needed to know what it felt like, I dont think that they would have understood me if they had never felt either of those two things.
Other than that I would say
-Look for someone who truly loves you, someone who would change themselves for you. Don't try to change anyone, but it is important that they are willing to adapt to make you happy.
-Look for someone who you can accept and look up to and understand and truly love. And for someone who you are willing to change for.
I also wanted someone who could write letter.
For now: I ended up getting someone who is soooooooo much more than anything I could have ever asked for. He is everything I wanted and much, much, much more.. stuff I didnt think to ask or look for in a guy.
But yea, the guys who replied on this thread all seem to be people who would make good pathners.
My mom and dad have been married for a long time. They sleep in the same house but not the same room, and my dad makes her cry all the time. And he does not care.
I think that is really important to marry someone who will care when you cry.
So yes it is important that the other person CARES about the relationship. I mean when my dad makes my mom cry and she complains, he says..'If you dont like what I say leave this marriage'. He really just doesnt care.
Thing is though sometimes people appear to care in the beginning... but with time that changes. But mostly you can see who a person is well enough in the beginning.
-I wanted someone who was not religious and where I lived everyone seemed to believe in the Bible.
-I wanted someone who understood loneliness. I believe that relationships heal loneliness and I didnt want someone who didn't understand that. If they didn't how was I to be sure that they would offer themselves to me if I ever got lonely. I'm not explaining it well, but I wanted someone who had experienced both depression and loneliness. They needed to know what it felt like, I dont think that they would have understood me if they had never felt either of those two things.
Other than that I would say
-Look for someone who truly loves you, someone who would change themselves for you. Don't try to change anyone, but it is important that they are willing to adapt to make you happy.
-Look for someone who you can accept and look up to and understand and truly love. And for someone who you are willing to change for.
I also wanted someone who could write letter.
For now: I ended up getting someone who is soooooooo much more than anything I could have ever asked for. He is everything I wanted and much, much, much more.. stuff I didnt think to ask or look for in a guy.
But yea, the guys who replied on this thread all seem to be people who would make good pathners.
My mom and dad have been married for a long time. They sleep in the same house but not the same room, and my dad makes her cry all the time. And he does not care.
I think that is really important to marry someone who will care when you cry.
So yes it is important that the other person CARES about the relationship. I mean when my dad makes my mom cry and she complains, he says..'If you dont like what I say leave this marriage'. He really just doesnt care.
Thing is though sometimes people appear to care in the beginning... but with time that changes. But mostly you can see who a person is well enough in the beginning.
