Drew88
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I don't know where to start ,so I probably will be rambling. As many of you may have known about my past rants on here, that when it comes to me and relationships things haven't been smooth. I would like to say that after last night things have only gotten more complex. The fact of the matter is that I took advantage of a girl last night, something I had no intention of ever doing. Nor something I sent out to do. Which is a shame because I really like the woman and had hope for more and still kind of do. We met online Wednesday. I was talking to her and some other girl and I was deciding on who maybe I should go on a date with. I picked her. I even restrained from self pleasuring myself just incase something woulds happen. We met last night and we got together really well. We played a couple games, walk, dinner, movie and then I go to drop her off. I decided that I was going to kiss her at least, so she knew I was serious. We made out and one thing led to another on both sides and then I came.... She then said that she we should get a condom if we were going to go any farther, I told her that I already came. she got the dead look in her eyes and yelled that she wasn't protected. I told her that I would except responsibility if something arises and I was sorry, but the chances of that happening were low do to my questionable fertility. A cop pass so we quickly got dress, all while I was trying to comfort her, then she got out of the car angerly. I tried to reflect in my car, but figured I should probably get out of there in case she sent her dad after me.
Here is where it gets tricky. As I rode back in shame in my reflection I was dealing with the fact that I didn't feel anything one way or another. I felt shame yes, but that was probably due to the fact that I knew that nothing will come now for certain. I cried yes, but over the fact that the only thing I felt was the fact that I didn't feel anything. I don't know what happened to me or if anything happened at all. I am a very selfish, cold, apparently manipulative person. I don't know if it is my nature or if it was due to factors in my development growing up. If it was my Isolation growing up, The interaction or lack of from my parents,, my failed relationships, or my false exceptions of the world. All I know is that everything has been on my mind from suicide, to self castration, to intentionally sabotaging my fertility, to stop going after relationships, to total despair. I have thought about it nonstop and will probably think about it for a while. Its effecting my appetite and my sleep. I have have felt everything from sadness and despair to anger and hate. I in fact just got up not that long ago and had an anxiety attack and now I have a headache. I see, and have always seen, I am a bad guy. My love for others is far from apparent. I call myself Christian, but the fact of the matter is I don't care about anything. It is said that relationships are not for everybody and I refuse to except that for myself, but I am afraid that it is so for myself. The pain that I have knowing that I can not give myself to another person, not provide for a family or I can but act very controlling and eventually destructive (at least so far) is discouraging. The fact I want someone, I want a child, a family, a lover, but I will not take my time, or slow, or safe is even more reason. Why give me these wants, when I am clearly unable to be good? I wish I can get rid of those feelings some how and just live and not have to worry about loneliness or wanting more. I want those emotions out. I know that alot of my problems with progress is due to my FSGS in my kidneys and alot of the uncertainty that it brings. But that is not justification. And the worst part? Even though I betrayed her, she told me that she was going to take the morning after pill. Which probably isn't a bad thing from most people POV. Me? I am taking it as rejection even though she said before hand that she had little interest in continuing this.
I am a bad person. The truth of the matter is that I use people, I do not care. I do not need anybody to point that out. I do not need people to tell me what i have done is wrong, on here or anywhere else. I also do not need pity, pity does little. I deserve my continued isolation, its whats best and safe for other. I just thought I would share. and please somebody shoot me. I do a whole lot of hell worse for the world then good. The people in my life would be better off....
Here is where it gets tricky. As I rode back in shame in my reflection I was dealing with the fact that I didn't feel anything one way or another. I felt shame yes, but that was probably due to the fact that I knew that nothing will come now for certain. I cried yes, but over the fact that the only thing I felt was the fact that I didn't feel anything. I don't know what happened to me or if anything happened at all. I am a very selfish, cold, apparently manipulative person. I don't know if it is my nature or if it was due to factors in my development growing up. If it was my Isolation growing up, The interaction or lack of from my parents,, my failed relationships, or my false exceptions of the world. All I know is that everything has been on my mind from suicide, to self castration, to intentionally sabotaging my fertility, to stop going after relationships, to total despair. I have thought about it nonstop and will probably think about it for a while. Its effecting my appetite and my sleep. I have have felt everything from sadness and despair to anger and hate. I in fact just got up not that long ago and had an anxiety attack and now I have a headache. I see, and have always seen, I am a bad guy. My love for others is far from apparent. I call myself Christian, but the fact of the matter is I don't care about anything. It is said that relationships are not for everybody and I refuse to except that for myself, but I am afraid that it is so for myself. The pain that I have knowing that I can not give myself to another person, not provide for a family or I can but act very controlling and eventually destructive (at least so far) is discouraging. The fact I want someone, I want a child, a family, a lover, but I will not take my time, or slow, or safe is even more reason. Why give me these wants, when I am clearly unable to be good? I wish I can get rid of those feelings some how and just live and not have to worry about loneliness or wanting more. I want those emotions out. I know that alot of my problems with progress is due to my FSGS in my kidneys and alot of the uncertainty that it brings. But that is not justification. And the worst part? Even though I betrayed her, she told me that she was going to take the morning after pill. Which probably isn't a bad thing from most people POV. Me? I am taking it as rejection even though she said before hand that she had little interest in continuing this.
I am a bad person. The truth of the matter is that I use people, I do not care. I do not need anybody to point that out. I do not need people to tell me what i have done is wrong, on here or anywhere else. I also do not need pity, pity does little. I deserve my continued isolation, its whats best and safe for other. I just thought I would share. and please somebody shoot me. I do a whole lot of hell worse for the world then good. The people in my life would be better off....