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[upandabout902]

obviously I am new. When I am around people, I hate talking. I don't find parties fun, so I drink by myself (IM 21). I used to have friends, but the past couple years-nada. Part of me likes it, part of me hates it. Today on the bus, I heard a couple guys (complete strangers) talking about their plans for the night. They said they were going to play FIFA and watch the miami-orlando game. I was so tempted to ask if I could come over, because that sounds like my kind of night. But everytime I open my mouth,I feel stupid. I never know what to say. Besides, I think I'd look extremely weird asking that. I'm not gay, but I thought that they would think that (I got nothing against gay people). I really miss my friends from High School. I had such a connection with them, like they were my brothers. We had so many common interests, and they always cracked me up. Whenever I am in class now, and I laugh at the stupidest stuff like I would back then with them, I always feel like they are next to me, but they are not. And then I look extremely odd laughing, by myself. My best friend growing up does not ignore me, but he never initiates the conversation any more. I just can;t keep initiating the conversation no matter how much of a brother he was to me. I don't really get what happened, I guess he just got sick of my immature ways. I never talk about myself to other people, so I just felt like doing this for a change. See ya

 

[brickinthewall]

Hey upandabout and welcome , I'm also new here only joined a few days ago but like you have probably seen there are a lot of people with similar issues so I'm sure you'll feel at home.

I sometimes sit by myself and drink in front of the TV or computer because like you I'm not really a party person , to me a party would be 3-4 people in a room listening to music , playing xbox or something (yeah I'm childish I know lol). Sorry to hear about your friend but maybe you will find someone else in time (maybe even here on the forums).

I'm also the kind of person that laughs when nobody else does but I try not to care too much about what others say.

Welcome to the forum and hope you will find people you can relate to here.

 

[Nina]

Hi and welcome to both of you!

 

[Mary Mary]

Hello

 

[evanescencefan91]

hey up and about welcome to the forum

i've nver found those parties anyways they never play the right music it's quite lame, and it can be quite ddifficult to find someone to connect with, but there's someon out there who would enjoy to hang out with you I'm sure

it can be hard i know what you mean about freezing up,

if someone is talking about something, like i don't know a movie or something, you can lie, and say oh are you talking about so and so i just saw that last night or something

( if you put something directly like that, then it's like you have something to say on the subject rather than someone just joining in on the convo)


*hugs*

 

[Bread]

Heya, Up-and-about, welcome to ALL. Also drifted apart from my pals in high school, and generally have problems with taking the initiative with folks. Especially annoying when people don't seem to take the initiative at all, you start to wonder if they're hoping 'you get the hint' and so on...*Sigh*

But still! Hopefully you'll find what you came for, here. As a final note, you might want to ask your childhood friend what's up with him- even if it means gritting one's teeth and going about it once again. Might be that he is boggled with an important stretch of school/work or a very special lady.

 

[Minus]

Welcome to the site.

 

[WishingWell]

Welcome to the Forum. I believe you will make some friends on here like I have, and maybe get some good advice/input.

You mentioned about the guys on the bus talking about their plans to watch the football game, and you not wanting to see if it would be alright with them if you joined them because they might think you were gay. I don't know why you would think that. In my opinion, they would just think you were interested in hanging out and watching the game. And, if I were you (and this is just my opinion also) if something like that happens again, I would ask the guys if they would mind if you joined them. The very worst they can say is NO. The only way to get somewhere in life is to take chances, but I KNOW it is hard.

I am sorry you are having a tough time of it.

Good luck on the Forum. Don't be afraid to post any questions or concerns you have. I certainly don't!

 

[SherryGee]

hey upandabout902