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Nyktimos

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I know some of the people on ALonelyLife.com have partners. If I told my girlfriend I use a forum like this she would be confused and unable to handle it. Does anyone else's partner know they are on ALL? If not, why haven't you told them?
 
Oh God...NO

well first of all i don't have a partner anymore.
second ..the last inneraction forum I was on, I got stalked by my ex.
We were saperated when I signed on.
That as fucken fun...:p

Then we made an agreement to just be cool..no flirting and all that good stuff.
We kept an anonimity of not tell'in people we were partners...
Fucken sure enough all the the ********* were sending her PM , writing all kinds
of ****, hitting up on her and all kinds of love letters...

It's so fucken retarted ..she denial of course...but she was so fucken wacked out
taking pills...she forgets to log off ....lmao
Another reason why i was fucken mad at her...Aggrrrrhhhhh...Fucken bitch !!!!
And all the ******** denial it of course...
I fucken confronted everyone and wrote a really nasty post and on my-ex blog.
Errrr....yeah, the mode threaten to fucken Banned me.
I posted a screen shot of his PM to my EX in the forum...he banned me of course....duh, Imagine that.lmao

Her blog was like this.....a couple of pages long.
Fucken bitch..fucken whore...fucken Cant..:p

I have trust and anger isssues...man.

I actaully leave ALL forum's main screen On almost 24/7s
mmmm....I think my parants knows I'm a home body...lmao
 
My husband knows I come here. He also noted that it seemed to make me happy, so that makes him happy. My entire family knows that I interact in an online forum, because....well, I normally do not interact online.

I am also the type of person that could care less what anyone thinks of me coming hereor anything else for that matter.....those people can pretty much go **** themselves rather than waste their time judging me...lol

If I had to hide it, I would really not be able to understand why?
 
ledchick said:
My husband knows I come here. He also noted that it seemed to make me happy, so that makes him happy. My entire family knows that I interact in an online forum, because....well, I normally do not interact online.

I am also the type of person that could care less what anyone thinks of me coming hereor anything else for that matter.....those people can pretty much go **** themselves rather than waste their time judging me...lol

If I had to hide it, I would really not be able to understand why?

My girlfriend's paranoid. Whether that's because she senses something wrong with the relationship but won't accept it (which is in character for her) I don't know, but she's paranoid about most things. I go on two other forums, both sci-fi forums, and she's always asking me what I've been doing on them in that nervous 'I've got to check on him but can't let him think I am' kind of way. Fact is, I don't have much to tell her because I spend most of my computer time reading stuff on this forum.:D

Perhaps if I could talk to her and know she'd listen, I wouldn't need to hide anything. But, because I'm honest by nature, I just feel more like **** for telling her I spend all my time on sci-fi forums when I know she's worried. She's probably worried I'm on porn or dating sites, so in fact the truth is not as bad as she thinks it might be.
 
I think that my husband knows that there is nothing bad or wrong about me talking with others,as opposed to being on a site where the purpose is to meet someone for more than friendship. I even exchange postal mail with a member and he is a male.
We have also been married a very long time and the days of raging jealousy has given way to trust and knowing each other very well.
I would find it easier to just tell my significant other the truth, so you go on sci fi forums and ALL, I can't see a thing there to be upset about, however, her not knowing at all whatcha are doing, well, that just opens the door up for all sorts of crazy things she could be thinking you are doing......I would just tell her.
 
ledchick said:
I would just tell her.

Have you read some of the posts I've made about her?:D It would lead to some very uncomfortable conversations if she decided to check the forum out. Oddly, she thinks trust is the main strength of our relationship. But I can't trust her to be there for me, only to think about herself. So I'm afraid she can't trust me not to try to connect with people outside our otherwise stifling relationship. To be fair to her, considering what both her husbands were like, she has reason to be a little paranoid.
 
Nyktimos said:
ledchick said:
I would just tell her.

Have you read some of the posts I've made about her?:D It would lead to some very uncomfortable conversations if she decided to check the forum out. Oddly, she thinks trust is the main strength of our relationship. But I can't trust her to be there for me, only to think about herself. So I'm afraid she can't trust me not to try to connect with people outside our otherwise stifling relationship. To be fair to her, considering what both her husbands were like, she has reason to be a little paranoid.
I give bad advice, I am sorry Nyk, I guess I am lucky that I can tell my husband and he is cool with it.
 
My husband does. He knows I'm lonely. He thinks it's stupid. He's one of the reasons I come here and I've told him so. I tell him every day how much I hate him and want a divorce and yet he won't go. If I had the money to move and be free, I'd leave. But, until then, I just keep on and on.

I came here to meet ppl and feel like I had friends in the world. I don't come much anymore, I get too depressed. But, it's still a nice place.
 
My husband knows I come here.
I wasn't actually looking for a forum, but Naleena, another forum member, (my sister in real life), thought I might like coming here since I enjoy helping others. My husband is glad that I have something to keep me occupied (that I tend to enjoy). I actually talk to him about forum happenings now and then and I even coaxed him into chat once to play pool, lol. :p
He's military, so he works long hours and is of course, deployed at times. He supports me in whatever I do. :)
I'm very lucky to have such an AWESOME partner. :D
 
My boyfriend knows that I go on here, but hasn't really asked much about it, and I don't think he cares one way or the other. As long as I'm happy, I don't think it matters to him what sites I go on. Well, I mean, as long as it's not a dating site or something like that, lol. :p
 
No partner.. but I think my friends would freak out cuz they'd be like "What we arent good enough for you?" or something like that. My parents and siblings would think I'm over exaggerating and make it seem like something is wrong with me and I'm not thankful with what I have. Meh.
 
I've met a girl online, and i'm thinking about telling her about ALL. She knows i'm a freak already, but she still likes me, so i don't think she would think too much of it. She may even join. She seem's lonely everytime i chat with her, and this is a place for lonely people afterall. But it may cause a few problems if she did join, because her thoughts on most things are exactly the same as mine, lol. So be ready for the better looking, American, female Punisher 2.0 :D That's if i do tell her though :p
 
ledchick said:
I give bad advice, I am sorry Nyk, I guess I am lucky that I can tell my husband and he is cool with it.

No, your advice is always welcome!:D You two seem to have a really strong relationship. I remember worrying when you first started posting that he wasn't very understanding. Clearly, your family has a lot of strength.

Irishdoll said:
My husband does. He knows I'm lonely. He thinks it's stupid. He's one of the reasons I come here and I've told him so. I tell him every day how much I hate him and want a divorce and yet he won't go. If I had the money to move and be free, I'd leave. But, until then, I just keep on and on.

This is a pretty horrible situation. I feel for you. Being stuck in a relationship when the other person won't let go like being in prison. Does he say he still loves you?
 
Punisher said:
I've met a girl online, and i'm thinking about telling her about ALL. She knows i'm a freak already, but she still likes me, so i don't think she would think too much of it. She may even join. She seem's lonely everytime i chat with her, and this is a place for lonely people afterall. But it may cause a few problems if she did join, because her thoughts on most things are exactly the same as mine, lol. So be ready for the better looking, American, female Punisher 2.0 :D That's if i do tell her though :p

The Punishers are dominating both sides of the Atlantic now! No place is safe!:D Glad to know you've met someone. I hope things go well.
 
Nyktimos said:
Punisher said:
I've met a girl online, and i'm thinking about telling her about ALL. She knows i'm a freak already, but she still likes me, so i don't think she would think too much of it. She may even join. She seem's lonely everytime i chat with her, and this is a place for lonely people afterall. But it may cause a few problems if she did join, because her thoughts on most things are exactly the same as mine, lol. So be ready for the better looking, American, female Punisher 2.0 :D That's if i do tell her though :p

The Punishers are dominating both sides of the Atlantic now! No place is safe!:D Glad to know you've met someone. I hope things go well.

Lol, you're making me sound cool :p and thanks, i hope so too :D
 
current partner knows, but the one before didnt.......i was afraid to tell him, so i know how it feels.
 

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