I'm going to go back to the original topic and post this while I have it in my thoughts...
Sometimes - and I speak as a woman who has been in an abusive relationship - we don't realize just how deep we are. Sometimes, it takes us a while to understand just where we are. And it takes us even longer to actually get out. I know a lot of people think, "Why don't they just leave?" "Why don't they just get away from it?"
And believe me, for two years, I asked myself the same thing. It's not as simple as it should be. It takes a lot of effort to realize and understand that you deserve better than to be abused. And what makes it worse, is that abuse comes from someone you love. It's hard enough to escape abuse, but it's even harder to leave someone you love.