Why me?!

[user 9172]

I used to have very bad social anxiety from about 12 years old onwards. Then, after much hard work to change the way I viewed myself and the world, I started to be less anxious. Last month I started a job that requires "people skills" for a promotions/sales company doing their promotions in supermarkets. Great! I have been coping and my anxiety has lessened substantially. The level of exposure is intense, but manageable.

Anyway, now disaster seems to be striking! I have just been informed that tomorrow at work there will be a film crew filming the event promotion I am doing all day (totally out of the norm.) I am NOT ready for this level of exposure. It's one thing to have to interact with hundreds of people all day, but it's another thing entirely to do so while being recorded (and yes, it's just me because I work alone,) without the pressure of being the super confident person who gets it right every time (i.e not me.)

This is going to knock me back. I just know it. It can't go well. I will probably lose my job, which is the first I have ever had at 23 years old.

Why is fate so cruel? Why is it just making things harder and harder for me the more progress I make? It's like the universe is conspiring to keep me locked in my house as some anti-social freak. I mean, why me? There are other really social people doing the same thing I'm doing elsewhere, and yet somehow the social failure that never should have passed the interview in the first place is the one who gets all the pressure? Wtf?

How on earth do I not fail this?!? I don't want to go back to how things were before: afraid to go out, afraid to speak to people, afraid to even look at people.

 

[A new life]

Just picture the film crew in their underwear, or in clown outfits! (I'm serious)
Nobody will understand the silly grin on your face.

Then after you've overcome this challenge, you'll be that much stronger.

 

[Sci-Fi]

Don't worry about it, well try not to worry about it so much. It is going to happen, you will get through it. Like A new life said, you'll be that much stronger. I'm right with you though, I've worked in customer service most of my jobs and that does sound terrifying and I'd be right with you with how you feel. But you've come this far, don't, DO NOT let this set you back. Push on, you can get through this and once it is over you'll wonder why you were so freaked out over it. Focus on your job and your tasks, and yeah picturing people in funny costumes or in their underwear might help. Especially if you decide to mix it up a bit and picture the guys in granny panties and the girls in mens underwear. LOL

 

[alonewanderer]

Just smile, talk louder, make sure your hair looks fantastic and stop caring, the world doesn't revolve around you or anyone else. We're all insignificant ants crawling around this rock trying to make it.

 

[kamya]

It's like the universe is conspiring to keep me locked in my house as some anti-social freak. I mean, why me? There are other really social people doing the same thing I'm doing elsewhere, and yet somehow the social failure that never should have passed the interview in the first place is the one who gets all the pressure? Wtf?

Or maybe the universe is giving you a chance to grow out of your social anxiety and confront your fears. You need this more than the other social people doing your job.

Let us know how it goes.

 

[user 9172]

Well... disaster struck again, and again, and again today. Everything with my job that could go wrong went wrong. Still, somehow I came out on top! Thanks for the words of encouragement, I really needed what I already know re-enforcing!

Just picture the film crew in their underwear, or in clown outfits! (I'm serious)
Nobody will understand the silly grin on your face.

Then after you've overcome this challenge, you'll be that much stronger.

Underwear was a no go. One of them was a gorgeous girl. I'd probably have been more nervous! Lol

Don't worry about it, well try not to worry about it so much. It is going to happen, you will get through it. Like A new life said, you'll be that much stronger. I'm right with you though, I've worked in customer service most of my jobs and that does sound terrifying and I'd be right with you with how you feel. But you've come this far, don't, DO NOT let this set you back. Push on, you can get through this and once it is over you'll wonder why you were so freaked out over it. Focus on your job and your tasks, and yeah picturing people in funny costumes or in their underwear might help. Especially if you decide to mix it up a bit and picture the guys in granny panties and the girls in mens underwear. LOL

I do feel much stronger.

It's like the universe is conspiring to keep me locked in my house as some anti-social freak. I mean, why me? There are other really social people doing the same thing I'm doing elsewhere, and yet somehow the social failure that never should have passed the interview in the first place is the one who gets all the pressure? Wtf?

Or maybe the universe is giving you a chance to grow out of your social anxiety and confront your fears. You need this more than the other social people doing your job.

Let us know how it goes.

You know what, I agree with that now. So much progress today it was unreal. It was a chance, and somehow I managed it!

 

[Lonesome Crow]

Learn how to seperate the performance from the performer....

Maybe u can relate to this even if ur not a musician
http://www.stumbleupon.com/su/4fS2Mu/wik.ed.uiuc.edu/index.php/Effortless_Mastery

People bascailly do the same **** when meeting new people, dating, *******, living in general.....thinking to god damn much..too critical
on themsleves and all kinds of ********.

As a musican and being a ble to improv....
If i think too much of this or that....I'll simply miss the beat. then if I think about that or dwell on my mistake too damn much...I'll **** up even more. A song happens in 5-6 mins. The same principles applies in life..it just happens at a slower pace.

poeple say to meditate to achieve the presence moment.
Being in the presence moment...it's where life happens.

You can practice being in the moment or awaken yourself from
the delusions of your mind without being a spiritual guru.

The sedona methdoe bascially teaches to to do the samething...
LET GO...dont figure the **** out...LET GO n live

 

[SherryGee]

I glad you still went for it! Well done!

I went through similar situation other day, I was housebound for while then I have to go to this college interview. I try not to go and make excuses, I realised that I am not going to win so I just went anyway. I glad I did even I feel so nervous. I don't want my illness take over my life because I want to be good role model to my brother, my younger cousins and deaf children (I am deaf and often we seen as stupid or something, I want to change that and prove to other people that we are equal).

 

[Badjedidude]

WHY YOU?

WHY NOT YOU?

Unexpected **** is always going to strike you... especially when you least suspect it; BUT ONLY if you always least expect it. Try to adopt an attitude that you can handle whatever comes at you (no matter what it is) and take small steps to prepare for things like this.

And then just get out there and do your best.

 

[user 9172]

I glad you still went for it! Well done!

I went through similar situation other day, I was housebound for while then I have to go to this college interview. I try not to go and make excuses, I realised that I am not going to win so I just went anyway. I glad I did even I feel so nervous. I don't want my illness take over my life because I want to be good role model to my brother, my younger cousins and deaf children (I am deaf and often we seen as stupid or something, I want to change that and prove to other people that we are equal).

Thanks.

Good job to you too! That's how it is though, like the Nike adverts say: "Just do it!"

WHY YOU?

WHY NOT YOU?

Unexpected **** is always going to strike you... especially when you least suspect it; BUT ONLY if you always least expect it. Try to adopt an attitude that you can handle whatever comes at you (no matter what it is) and take small steps to prepare for things like this.

And then just get out there and do your best.

Totally. Bring it.