Kitsune Tora
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If I found the owner of said ginger hair attractive (physically/ personality wise or both) then yes.
Would you date/marry someone with ginger hair?
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There are two things you can do.
1. Work with the criticism and turn it into a joke, get good with comebacks, and work on being the "cool" ginger person. Watch "Walker, Texas Ranger" for inspiration.
2. Shave all body and facial hair. Keep your hair short, or dye it another color, or explore being bald altogether. Maybe wear a hat outside.
If the people being prejudice consider you a "friend" and aren't realising the impact of it on you, you could try telling them how you feel about it, so they realise the impact it has.
It's hard if it actually causes you to lose out on things, but where you can, it's also a good idea not to respect nor listen to the opinions of people who don't know you or aren't your friend. Sometimes in some situations you have to build a thick skin to deflect their words and prevent them from bothering you.
1. Work with the criticism and turn it into a joke, get good with comebacks, and work on being the "cool" ginger person. Watch "Walker, Texas Ranger" for inspiration.
2. Shave all body and facial hair. Keep your hair short, or dye it another color, or explore being bald altogether. Maybe wear a hat outside.
If the people being prejudice consider you a "friend" and aren't realising the impact of it on you, you could try telling them how you feel about it, so they realise the impact it has.
It's hard if it actually causes you to lose out on things, but where you can, it's also a good idea not to respect nor listen to the opinions of people who don't know you or aren't your friend. Sometimes in some situations you have to build a thick skin to deflect their words and prevent them from bothering you.
Hi Kitsune Tora, you comment saying yes, you would if you found the person physically and/or personality wise,is it the way I've read it or does that mean if they had ginger hair it wouldn't be an issue,but if they had ginger hair and ugly or boring you wouldn't ? I'm confused ?
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gabriel20 said:
Well, does it matter if they did have ginger hair if they weren't appealing to Kit? I think that was more or less the point.
Well,I've certainly learnt something. American people are certainty more tolerant of people with ginger hair.than English people.Also Americans call ginger "red heads". Pity I wasn't born in USA , I wouldn't have been beaten up every day in school.
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Interesting thought that gabe-about not being beat up every day due to hair colour.
I wonder/suspect that there are kids that are prone to being bullied & those that aren't, just as some kids have a tendancy to be bullies & some don't.
Growing up I was the ideal bullies target, my parents were older, mum was an alcoholic, dad was retired, we lived in a poor area & we were the poorest family in the scheme. My clothes came from 2nd hand shops, my school uniform was bought by the local authority, which at the time meant it was the most awful/tragic looking garb going(sack of **** tied in the middle look is so last century), I've always had crap feet & so in primary school wore 'special'(not quite ortho) NHS provided shoes. I also had buck teeth(I've grown into them lol) & my hair was generally brushed & tied up badly(I never had a haircut-not so much as a trim-we're talking split end central til I was a teenager!) either by myself, my sister, dad or alcoholic mother, so it was usually in a bit of a state.
Quite an oil painting I musta looked back then haha
I didn't give a damn though, because I could run & play, climb trees & was mostly harder, faster & stronger than any of the other kids around my agegroup(including the boys) & I admit, pretty qick to raise my fists if someone upset me(or someone I was friends with)-this seems to me, looking back, what must have saved me from the bullies.
My sister, 7 years my senior, had a different outlook, she was bullied at high school for a while.......until a certain young scruff showed up at the school gates & attacked one of said bullies-ok I was a hooligan but it did the trick at the time lol
I wonder/suspect that there are kids that are prone to being bullied & those that aren't, just as some kids have a tendancy to be bullies & some don't.
Growing up I was the ideal bullies target, my parents were older, mum was an alcoholic, dad was retired, we lived in a poor area & we were the poorest family in the scheme. My clothes came from 2nd hand shops, my school uniform was bought by the local authority, which at the time meant it was the most awful/tragic looking garb going(sack of **** tied in the middle look is so last century), I've always had crap feet & so in primary school wore 'special'(not quite ortho) NHS provided shoes. I also had buck teeth(I've grown into them lol) & my hair was generally brushed & tied up badly(I never had a haircut-not so much as a trim-we're talking split end central til I was a teenager!) either by myself, my sister, dad or alcoholic mother, so it was usually in a bit of a state.
Quite an oil painting I musta looked back then haha
I didn't give a damn though, because I could run & play, climb trees & was mostly harder, faster & stronger than any of the other kids around my agegroup(including the boys) & I admit, pretty qick to raise my fists if someone upset me(or someone I was friends with)-this seems to me, looking back, what must have saved me from the bullies.
My sister, 7 years my senior, had a different outlook, she was bullied at high school for a while.......until a certain young scruff showed up at the school gates & attacked one of said bullies-ok I was a hooligan but it did the trick at the time lol
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The outside is just the icing I would like it off to get to the cake on the inside. lol Honestly, I have never judged someone by their outside nor could I. Now I am English, living in Canada. I know about the ginger issue thought it was a big old load of *****. I had platinum curly blonde hair as a child. I got called ****** curls, mind you I was a tough tom boy. It hurt at times sure, but I just felt sorry for the kid, for they could not see the book for the cover. Smile Gabriel you only need to look in the mirror and say I am who I am and that is flipping marvelous. 
TheRealCallie
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VanillaCreme
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gabriel20 said:
Do you not liking having reddish hair? I think it's quite lovely myself. My hair is an ordinary dark brown. Red-heads are certainly not ugly simply because of their hair tint.
Having ginger hair as a kid and teenager was a problem,but combined with being 6' 2' inches tall,skinny 7 stone in weight, and a last in the line when they handed out looks , as you can try and imagine , I was a school bullies dream target. Things are better now i'm older, still 6' 2" tall, 15 stone,. Still an ugly b****r though! At least I got a sense of humour !
TheRealCallie
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gabriel20 said:
Depends on the mirror. Fun house mirrors lie to you.
Aside from that though, the mirror doesn't have to lie to you, if YOU lie to you. Perhaps you aren't seeing what's actually there, we are each our own worst critics, after all.
VanillaCreme
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gabriel20 said:
I can't imagine, because I don't bully or judge. But I do know that I think you're way too harsh on yourself. There are people, such as myself and plenty of others here, that wouldn't make fun of you for being tall, skinny, or red-headed.
Thanks VanillaCreme, my motto has always been keep smiling and (Illegitimi non carborundrum). That's Latin. It means don't let the b******s grind you down!
Callie, if one person tells you ugly,they could be mistaken ,if two people tell you your ugly it could be a coincidence ,when everyone tells you your ugly there's a good chance it's true !
Callie, if one person tells you ugly,they could be mistaken ,if two people tell you your ugly it could be a coincidence ,when everyone tells you your ugly there's a good chance it's true !
VanillaCreme
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gabriel20 said:
So what if it is true? You're a person, a human, just like those who do call you names. I could almost guarantee you that 75% of those people wouldn't appreciate someone calling them any name. And why listen to people who can't take their own criticism... You should like who you are because it's you and you know where your heart lies, despite others trying to throw stones in a glass house.
I don't know you personally, but you seem decent to me so far. I think that's a major issue with the world today... Seems like hardly anyone truly likes who they are anymore. People always trying to change to be in favor of something else instead of just being who they are.
TheRealCallie
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gabriel20 said:
If one person is an *******....etc etc etc. It doesn't matter what other people say. Chances are, these are people that either don't know you or don't like you, which means their opinions are worthless. How many of these people have said other mean things to you about things other than your looks?
I can't comment on how you actually look, because I don't know how you look, other than the red hair and being tall and skinny. Personally, I love tall guys and I love red hair. But, I can tell you that you aren't ugly, because I don't believe anyone is ugly.
However, there's also a good chance that you are just letting the haters get you down and after you hear something so often, you start believing it too. Stop listening to them and definitely stop believing them.
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