An encouragement for new members

[Badjedidude]

^^^haha well then you're more talented than me by far!

So... what else about ya can I ask, hmm? Siblings? Parents? Bf/gf? Living situation?

lol I might end up interrogating you!

 

[lonely_in_love]

2 brothers (one older one younger)
i have parents
i have a bf, but that can be debated sometimes.
i live alone.
i don't mind the interrogation, i'm an open book.

 

[Badjedidude]

You're an open book? Well good, because I love to read!

Wow, I'm cheesy and retarded. XD haha

2 brothers (one older one younger)

Holy crap! Me too!

i have parents

Again, me too!

i have a bf, but that can be debated sometimes

Ehhh off & on a lot, huh?

 

[lonely_in_love]

no i just like debating it.

 

[Badjedidude]

Haha nice. ...who usually wins that debate?

Well, it's storming here, and my goddamn power keeps going off... so I'm gonna sign off. Thanks for chattin', and I hope to bump into you around the site. ^_^

 

[raines]

This is just a suggestion, but it is a thing I know many people would appreciate:

Fill in your profile data, in particular it would be very nice if you could specify:

• your location
• sex
• birthday (thus age).

This will help people getting a better idea of who you are, and what timezone you are in (thus it becomes easier to anticipate when someone might come online).

Dont worry about your privacy, this information will not be used by alonelylife.com for any other purpose but showing in your profile .

I will repeat though:
This was just a suggestions and an encouragement, you are NOT forced to fill in your profile data.

how i can chat to everyone?????

 

[Minus]

Chat room

 

[Stacyg]

New Member Here...
Stacy from Texas.
Birthdate is March 1973.
Married, mother of 2.... although I constantly am surrounded by my children I have never felt more lonely then I do right now. Thus, I googled loneliness to see what was out there and I found this website.

 

[subversivephilosophy]

Hi everyone, My name is Gil, I am 48 and I live in Anchorage Alaska. I am male. I have finally admitted to myself that I am a very lonely person. I have done my best to cover these feelings w/alcohol and meaningless sex - all to no avail as the emptiness within only grows worse the older I get. I think maybe that I'm an odd fellow; most people do not get me that is for sure. I am doubtful about the future - think Cassandra in the Iliad. I am an anarchist at heart even though I realize it to be a utopian dream, I am a socialist as well; not because I think it any better in practice but it is my "NO" to this age of debased consumerism and empty Hollywood BS.
I am contemptuous of popular culture & I despise television. Quite frankly I can be an arrogant SOB. But that arrogance is a shield so to speak to hide or compensate for the fact that I am very sensitive and feel things deeply. I have strong passions that I occasionally have difficulty controlling. I feel alienated from people - I know that I am in large part to blame for this myself because I have chosen a path that is isolating; I have been corrupted by philosophy. All values are provisional at best; nothing is sure and as the Hebrew scriptures say knowledge is a curse. Yet I cannot stop and devour all that I am capable of understanding in philosophy, psychology, and science.
I hide from myself what I want because I doubt that I will ever find it, I have pretty much lost hope in ever being happy. In my heart though I want simply to find a woman who is worthy of being the center of my world. I know that this is not a dating site and in any event my desperate neediness makes it most unlikely that I shall find the subject of my heart's desire.
I Googled "loneliness" and found this site.
I do not know if this is the right place to post my intro or not??

 

[Mr.Grey]

Hi... Im a 31 year old male from NJ,just looking for answers. Im a very attractive person w/ confidence but since i broke up w my g/f for cheating ive closed off the world..its been a year like this & its not getting better

 

[Minus]

That can be pretty rough Mr Grey. Welcome to the forum.

 

[clio]

I am 57, been divorced for a year, live in a very rural setting and my 2 children are grown--do not live nearby. I like solitude, but sometimes loneliness is overwhelming. I mostly overcome loneliness by travelling. Recently I spent 2 months in India, Bhutan, Nepal and Tibet.

 

[Mr.Grey]

Im new, 31 years old from NJ, life sucks for me lately

 

[Minus]

Welcome to the site clio.

Well Hi again, Mr Grey

 

[kamal.farid]

Hi Ma Friends
Im 27 years and will be 28 in next August 15 , Im new Here so I hope to find friends , to share my time , I found this site by searching in google , I feel very lonly , any replies ?

 

[Drama]

Welcome to ALL
Feel free to share your feelings with us I'm sure you'll be able to find friends here. See you around

 

[incognito]

Hey I'm 22 male and from Coventry, UK i like art and photography and have pretty bad depression and an empty feeling inside that is destroying what little is left of me inside... hi folks x

 

[epic fale boy]

Hey.

It's a tough life... and I just made mine toughrer and toughrer as I went along... now I'm in my 30s and I've spent five years trying to get myself together and just as I thought it was actually going ok, like for once in my god **** life... it all went wrong. Lost so many friends to drink, drugs and self-inflicted deaths suicides and other ways... /whinging self pity (believe the / at your peril lol)

and a combination of bloody minded self-punishment and mental/emotional/psychological spastication has left me lonely... and alone. I could take it, but god I actually CARE. I HATE caring. But I do... and it'd be nice to have people to care about... coz I can't care about myself that easily...

*WAILS*

 

[Nina]

Hello all--
I've only been here for two days and am very new to this sort of forum but I have already seem the warmth, compassion and real wisdom many of these folks are willing to share. I came in feeling a sense of emptiness and distance in my life, but have found the words of others to be very inspiring. Already, my emptiness feels a bit less vast and maybe the distance I felt isn't quite as far anymore...Thank you to those who reached out.

epic fale boy--Your posts seem so sincere. Maybe your time sharing in here and allowing others to,"care" about you will help you regain some, "care" for yourself. Every one of us is worth the, "care" we all crave and need to feel complete...

 

[whirlingwaltzer]

How do. I'm a mostly "closeted" lonely person--I hide my true emotions due to the shame of admitting loneliness, etc. I come across as chatty and extroverted in most settings--the queen of sarcastic banter in the office, etc., but, really, I'm overwhelmed by feelings of isolation and a lack of genuine connection. I have tried to "fix" the loneliness over the years by (a) marrying someone just to have a body around even though I convinced myself it was love "but in my heart is was sooo real" (the smiths) and then (b) I had a child because, in retrospect, I thought parenthood meant guaranteed emotional security. It is very (very) difficult to admit these things outside of therapy; I'm that terrified of being judged as a selfish cow.

I love my son, but breaking it off with my ex and, I don't know what really, has left me quite socially isolated with an unrelenting feeling of being trapped. Even when I do make plans with friends (none I feel a complete trusting closeness with) I'm not entirely "there"--I'm worrying about whether that person is enjoying my company, whether I'll connect with him/her, etc. I'm so concerned with making a connection that I'm completely disconnected--ha! Oy vey.

Well, maybe I love music and literature so much because I can feel a safe connection to these intense emotions they evoke w/out worrying about "making the grade." I can't stress enough that 99% of the people I know haven't a clue that I suffer this debilitating loneliness. Does anyone else experience that?

</endwaffle> Um, hi, everyone.